Pisces guy stopped communication,,,,WTH?!

We met through his job. He is a cop, and he came to the call I had made for abusive guy I was with, he gave me his card that might, and I got out of the situation. 4 months later I was pumping gas, and there he was in uniform...He goes- you don't remember me do you? ..I said "yes", and it went from there. I could tell he wanted to go out with me, and I said...YOU know if you want my number ( before leaving after talking for a bit) all you have to do is ask me for it. I gave it to him, and 3-4 days later he texts me...We talk, and I asked why didn't you just come out and ask me for my number. He said I gave you my card, and I DON"T just hand those out to anyone. He said when you walked out my jaw hit the floor, and I had to regain my composure...We went back and forth with a text and calls for a week, and he finally asked me out on his motorcycle. He took me down by the lake and we stood and talked. He kissed me so soft a few times, and turned me where the moon light hit my face, and goes there..Stood there and said you are so beautiful.AND kept telling me how pretty I am..We talked some and then we left for his house where I met him at to go on this date. ( My idea he wanted to come to my house to pick me up) He texts me after saying how much I intimidate him and scare him. He said I have never went out with someone as beautiful as you. Now he was straight out right with his past and told me about it without me having to ask him. He has had a bad time with relationships, with women cheating on him- Including his ex wife in in which he has a daughter from who is 5 & he has full custody of her. I shared my bad experiences with men, and how my ex husband cheated on me while I was in Iraq. We share a lot there...We spoke of his job as a cop and me re-joining the military. I said we both know where this might end up leading can you handle me being across seas?? ( We both felt the chemistry and didn't have to go into detail with it) He said yes I am NOT your typical man sweetheart. YOU will be coming back home right— I said of course. He then said you don't have to worry about me being a cop I have someone special waiting on me at home. I said yes you're baby girl..He looked at me with intense and said yes and I hope someone else soon. This same night before we spoke of all this he pulled me over as a joke to make me think I was in trouble...ONLY it was him and he said I will let you go if I get a second date..Okay- He texts me saying he is dodging questions

and how he missed me and so on and so forth...Then I responded to last text at 10 pm 2 days ago and text him 2 times hours inbetween and nothing he hasnt text me today and im scared I really like this guy...I agreed to go out with him saying only if your not after one thing and no I have not slept with him. IM CONFUSED ....WTF—?

from his family about me where they knew we went out and he hasn't been on a date in a long time and how he missed me and so on and so forth...Then I responded to last text at 10 pm 2 days ago and text him 2 times hours in between and nothing he hasnt text me today and im scared I really like this guy...I agreed to go out with him saying only if your not after one thing and no I have not slept with him. IM CONFUSED ....WTF—?...............sorry for 2nd repost left stuff out

@days22

Yes I am a libra ( hates to be ignored) if ur busy when I text just tell me don't ignore me lol...What do u mean one of the anti-christ ones— First experience with a pisces

well I am stubborn- I won't give in until he makes the first contact break. It's like I already texts you dude many hours in between and you ignore it, so I think im going to sit back and see what happens. Hell if you don't respond to me and I keep texting I feel like a stalker or desperate lol. AT the same time I played it cool with him...Let him chase me some and didnt act really really into it.. Was I wrong here? Who knows ugh

Maybe I scared him —

Yeah I'm going to ...Just if so many days pass I don't know if I should send a flirty text to let him know I was really into him more than I let on or not to do it

Well I don't know why he would just ignore my texts I sent...He was joking about me chasing him a bit back before the first date saying it is the 21st century lol I said no old fashion the guy is suppose to do it...I am dumb founded on this dude and Libras have great intuitions !!!!!!

The texts I sent he ignored was...1st one...did you go to church like a good boy? it was sunday mind you....N i was joking bc he was drinking with his brother the night before ...he texts me that night saying u could totally take advantage of me right now that he was drinking patron...all i replied with was thats my drink and his response was now I know how to get u drunk...i said take a lot, and he said i can try cant I ..... $ I said $ ? huh? lmao ( jk) and nothing since then!!!!!

oh the sec was ....baby are u ok u have never took this long to respond before...and that was at 9pm yesterday that he also ignored 😢

Well what the he $ $ do I have to do!!! here I thought I was being ALL smoothhhhh and WHAM LOL

LOL!!!!!! yes we are bc we have to have a reason for everything and OVER think shit ...

AHHH lets hope anyway LOL ...fingers crossed and ill keep the thread I started updated...Gotta vent some where!!!

Hi libragal, didn't know you still hung out in DXP land!

I'm curious...You have a history of being with unavailable men/men with poor relationship histories/men with kids eg broken families/men with issues...Why don't you chill for awhile, get to know you better instead of going from guy to guy, your beautiful that's for sure and it's definitely an advantage to be beautiful but you don't really seem to think things through with men, what I mean is this guy has a history of poor relationships, you both do, I have a feeling he's hesitant for that very reason plus he has a reputation as a police officer to uphold and if you allowed yourself to be in an abusive relationship, one were you were being hit by a man maybe he's unsure if he wants to proceed with a woman that's so wounded. I COULD BE FAR OFF on this one, I could be completely left/wrong but that's what I picked up with it...Also you seem to fall for a man's flattery quite quickly, remember the dude that gave you the cell phone (I take it that didn't work out but he was doing the same exact thing, false flattery) maybe he see too many red flags and is uncertain how to proceed, he's definitely physically attracted to you but maybe outside of that he's trying to figure it out for himself.

Slow down, go do something else that you love to do, focus on yourself, go slow, really get to know this man for who he is and not what you think he may be. I'm sure he will come back around soon.

@ Tikii33



Yeah I have had some bad run-ins and seemed to have wore my heart on my sleeve. After a bit you wake up though. As for the abusive dude it was brief and over ..Did not stay after that began...Things you said could be true, but some communication would be great here with him...Thats whats bothering me...If he told me how he felt no matter what that might be good or bad thats fine...The silence is killing and the unknown

Yeah but it seems your putting a lot of energy into a man that you just got started with, that can really scare a guy off, point being hen I said slow down b/c it's a little too soon to NEED communication from a man you hardly know...

I'm looking at things from another angle so you may not see it the way I see it but you can believe your coming off super needy, one too many text so early on screams needy/clingy and most women that have been in volatile relationships seem to carry that kind of needy/clingy insecurity vibe like it's the clothing on her back.

Stay positive, chalk it up to him being busy and if you don't hear from him in another couple days, say day 5 or 7 then you can conclude he lost interest and that gives you permission to move on, maybe the timing is bad and there will be another opportunity later on down the road....Just b/c a man says your beautiful and feeds you all these great feelings about yourself doesn't mean he really wants something serious with you.

You seem hung up on him way too soon and again that can frighten a man emotionally and he will back off suddenly, there may be something about your vibe that turned him off OR he's just busy, police officers per other women that I communicate with that date polices officers always complain to me about the lack of communication.... Nothing to panic over, relax.

". $ I said $ ? huh? lmao"

I'm not a Pisces or a male, but my best guess is this

and agree with Days... Because Libras tend to be crazy

"Just b/c a man says your beautiful and feeds you all these great feelings about yourself doesn't mean he really wants something serious with you"

Exactly. Actually the guy sounds a bit sleazy to me. Not sure I'd have bought any of what he said. Maybe it's just me but I don't trust guys who come out with all that crap so early on. 9 times out of 10 it's bullshit.

Anyway don't sweat it and whatever you do, DO NOT text him again asking if he's still talking to you or whatever. As a female Pisces this is my pet hate. People who push or whine about you not texting/calling them back. Guaranteed to make me not contact you again.

Posted by libragal76
@ Tikii33



Things you said could be true, but some communication would be great here with him...Thats whats bothering me...If he told me how he felt no matter what that might be good or bad thats fine...The silence is killing and the unknown

If you don't like silence or the unknown... best walk away from a Pisces.

Maybe he just fucking hates texting! I know I do. 😛

In fact, I've never known a Pisces who was that big on phones in general. We seem to prefer face-to-face interaction.

Posted by aPiscesPrincess


And yes. I don't even own a cell phone lol! I'm not a big talker.. I think Pisces in general prefer more face-to-face one-on-one interactions. We're usually more 'feelers' than talkers (feel peoples moods and emotions around us and in a way communicate that way).

YAR! It's much easier to get your psychic on in person than it is over the phone. At least, it is for me. I don't know, I just hate chatting on the phone. I seldom even answer it. I figure if it's important, they'll leave a message. 😛

yeah but why ignore the texts i sent that day ? and this makes day 3 of no contact for him...like him but at witts end lol

This is so inappropriate.

*shakes head*

She will learn the hard way when she keeps bugging him :p

You had one 'meeting', I'd hardly call it a date. This guy just took you for a ride and filled your head w/sweet nothings. Didn't drop a dime on you. Wonder how many women he took to that spot. I smell a 'player cop.' My uncle was one & he always told me not to date them as they tend to cheat. Of course, not all do but you need to wait & get to know him before you expect constant communication so soon. If he's a good guy w/ good intentions, he'll prove it through his actions.

Everyone-

First off I have not text him back since that day I send "2" texts....& they was 6 hours apart at that. So I am far from acting clingy or needy. I am not stupid and can take a subtle hint. I am a libra, and they can read people very well.

It is not that I am in love here.. One date? come on now!!! Yes it was a date, and a nice one. He talked about his childhood and his parents and family, and I as well ...We discussed a lot of things. He was not just filling my head of sweet nothings here the whole time, and it is not like that I am sobbing over this guy. I really don't know where a few of you took it that I was in my thread.

I am confused, hurt, and my ego is brusied. Why? I thought things was going awesome and he let me know that a lot, and then suddenly he ignores my texts, and haven't heard from him. Also he has not been out on a date for a long time, and his parents was asking questions about me and his family, so I don't think he was just spitting game. I don't like to be ignored- Nobody does!!! If you are busy when I txt you then tell me that. I won't continue to, and I don't sit and freakishly text him all the time before. No thats not me because I don't like someone to do that to me. It makes you look not only clingy and needy but desperate as well, and I am none of those things. I am on here to understand why he is doing the silent treatment when there is no known reason to ( that I am aware of)...If there was a reason then tell me and I will be fine with what ever it is. I want to know when I should text him, and what I do say to him If IF I decide to....I need to understand if this is just normal for pisces or what. The whole disappearing act...Now I am worried over the time spand simply because we have never went this long with no contact before...Thanks for the comments thus far and would appreciate more to help me understand......Libras need to understand and know, thats who we are..." Thinkers and need balance to function correctly!!!

Not to burst your bubble, but he did come on rather strong... player like really. :/

Yes, your ego is bruised, that is completely understandable. But, take whatever he has told you with a grain of salt. He may be dating multiple women despite SAYING that he has not been out on a date for a long time. And telling you that his family was asking Qs about you, remember, this is what he told you.

Another possibility, Pisces seem to like to rescue... if you no longer need rescuing (and it doesn't sound like you do), why continue?

Not trying to be mean, just throwing out other perspectives.

Hey libragal... you've been told several times, by several different pisces WHY he may not be contacting you.

you're just not listening.

I understand Libras... both my parents are Libras.

Days22... how do you do it? 😉

I have came to the conclusion on whats going on...I was way to serious on things and he once told me to remove the stick up my but lol...Like serious about life in gerneral..>When he would try to cut up and joke around I wouldnt with him so there we go that is it ...Thing is how does one send a text to conclude I am not in a fun good humor mannar

HOW about-

Well I have concluded I am gonna have to feed you patron while hand cuffing you wearing nothing but a smile to get your sexy ass to tell me when this second date is you wanted!!!! lol j/k ...Or am I?


Really haven't heard from you..Took it ya might be busy but if don't want to continue anything just let me know ...

You are committing a PUI (posting under the influence) which leads to unspeakable things like calling/texting a real person while under the influence. No good ever comes from that. Get some sleep and do no more harm. I'm rooting for ya, seriously, I am. Tomorrow is another day with bright, shiny adventures awaiting you. The sheep are calling, can you hear them?

Posted by Mistery
You had one 'meeting', I'd hardly call it a date. This guy just took you for a ride and filled your head w/sweet nothings. Didn't drop a dime on you. Wonder how many women he took to that spot. I smell a 'player cop.' My uncle was one & he always told me not to date them as they tend to cheat. Of course, not all do but you need to wait & get to know him before you expect constant communication so soon. If he's a good guy w/ good intentions, he'll prove it through his actions.

@mistery..EXACTLY...She has been told this several times by me, by a couple of guys, she continues on with this why why why is he ignoring me rant and it's hardly anything between the 2 of them.

He seduced her with a few words, a bit of attention and she'already acting like she's in love OY VEY, hardly say this guy deserves a post, plus they met under strenuous circumstances (domestic violence) I would think she would get the hint already and now she's contemplating sending a i have a good humor text, that will seal the nail in the she's needy clingy coffin.

I know a pisces guy, kind of flaky but I guess there not all the same b/c he lived for his phone, that was his life line.

^You are so totally supposed to be gone

Damn

Posted by KingPisces
i already told you the best curse of action. Wallow on your own despair and misery Libra. Towards the end, this is all redundant to me. I'll be embarking towards my own journey. You all must realize that none of you have the slightest clue of the true nature of the pisces male. Good luck to you, you'll need it.

AMEN!

Posted by Days22
I actually think you should text him again

and if he doesnt text you back this time. Leave the mofo be.

Yay chase him some more...that should keep him running (:

Now Days, tell us what you REALLY think. 😉

Well done, chocolate chip or oatmeal scotchie? *fanning out cookies*

Okay, but you have to catch me first, and I'm a fast little squirrel.

The one that is going to eat....me....up. However, if I beat cheeks up into a tree Wolfie, you're sunk. 😄

Oh thank you ever so Days, I thought you'd never notice my big...bouncing....funbags.

Whooooooot! *standing spread eagled in heels and flashing under a trenchcoat* Be amazed!

lol

Posted by Days22

Posted by venusianbull
Whooooooot! *standing spread eagled in heels and flashing under a trenchcoat* Be amazed!

spread eagle aye?

Best be careful ur awakening the incredible bulk.

click to expand

All in a 'Days' work. Oh the suffering I endure. It fair makes a girl swoon.

Thank heavens, they'd get lonely.

LOL KP

Posted by Days22
fuck it

if she wants to get in touch with him again which is obviously driving her crazy, she might as well do it. Tho what she said she was going to text him, she shouldnt.

Figure if he ignores you again maybe you'll realize its time to stop worrying about the guy.

True

Libra gal, I know it's IMPOSSIBLE for you to not over-analyze. After all, you're female AND a Libra, but trust me....that is just gonna make this worse.

Just chillax and go no contact for awhile. When/if he wants you, you WILL hear from him! If he doesn't want you, you'll never hear from him again. No fanfare, no announcement...we just disappear. The only result constantly contacting him will have is to make him run away all the faster (if that is what he's doing). Your only option right now is to focus on your own life and see what happens.

Naturally, in my hostess apron and heels. Did such a nice job polishing the floors and simonizing the car too. Awwww, "Funbags". *blowing nose* That is SO sweet. I'll take that over a dozen roses any day.

Well it's been this makes the 5th day and still no word and I have refrained from texting him...Just didnt feel right if ur going to ignore my 2 texts I sent 4 days ago.....Bleh!!!!!!