Pisces men..afraid to love?

I'm new here so please be gentle. I have very strong feelings for a pisces man. His b-day is the day before mine. We are very good friends for more than 2 years now. Were co-workers, which made things strange because I just want to kiss him every time I see him. So I quite my job. For other reasons. Leaving him was so hard that I got so depressed, I didn't think I was ever going to get it together. I told him how i felt and nothing...for 6 weeks. Then he tells me he cares to much about me and he always ends up hurting his gf. I'm at a loss... I just can not stop thinking of him. I don't know if I should push just a little to see what happens or let him go. Please pisces, help me... Athena

yes, I'm a pisces also. March 19th. Him March 18th.

If he doesnt want to hurt you, he either really cares about you or he is knows he is not available emotionally right now. Either way, you might be at a loss.

I'm 39, him 32. I have 2 children, 15 and 7, both girls. I know he doesn't want children. so I think that might be a part of it; also he's been wanting to move to SF. He's an artist/writer. I know people, and it feels right, which totally confuses me. I'm learning to live with these feelings but it's just so damn hard...

He just looks at me and I loose it. I wonder what's wrong with me. I'm with someone else yet I can't stop thinking of him. I feel like I have no controll. I'm always in controll.

I ask myself that very question everyday.. I'm not a ho, these feelings go against my nature. I believe in loyalty. I know were known to be players yet I don't think I'm that way... *sigh* I just need your insight.

I really think the biggest thing is don't look past the obvious. He does not want a relationship and don't force one.

Honestly, I think the whole, "I don't want to hurt my girlfriend" thing is a cop out, I've heard my brother use it tons of times when he doesn't want a pursue a relationship with a girl. As a Pisces, we do obsess, but i don't think you can afford your obsessions emotionally or financially. Let it go, if he's meant he'll come back and your situation will clear up so that both o you will be available to each other at the right time.

Till then, love the one you're with.

lets make a list...I honestly think this guy is just trying to let you down gently

-You are in a relationship
-your old...well, older than him
-you have kids...old children...well, a teen...good enough

yeah, he's just not that into you. Most pisces men I know love to be in love (usually in and out of relationships), so if he doesnt want what your throwing at him...he's just not that into you.

tTanks to all for your feedback. It means more than I can say. Only, If he's not that into me-why e-mail me back as soon as he gets my messages? That's what I don't get? Should I *gulp* let him go—?

They are nice men, ftmp. He could be being polite.

Honestly if you push this and get an affair that ends negatively for you or is of little to no benefit to you...you wont have anyone to blame but yourself. Its not like he didnt warn you and you know the consequences. Not all men say no to an easy lay (easy meaning you definitely want him bad, doesnt have to do much leg work...Im not calling you a ho entirely) and his disclaimer exonerates him from any fault as of now.

Your going to get what you want and more.