Pisces Self Care

Fellow Pisceans

How do you stop beating yourself up after you intentionally or unintentionally do something destructive and or just something stupid......for lack of a better word.

I know I have issues that cause me to do certain unhealthy things especially when it comes to interacting with other people........

but I also know that it is also extremely unhealthy the way I beat myself up for things I'm just now aware of and that I'm currently trying to work on.

Posted by d0s3r
when i beat myself up it's either over smth i imagine, or smth i actually did bad

so now i try to tell whoever about what's in my head

then they can either tell me i did wrong or tell me i'm imagining things

communication really helps break worry

But for me

communication is often how I make things worse.........

it's how I am destructive in terms of my personal relationships.

What do you then?

I mean an apology is warranted but I feel like any more contact will make things worse.

Until then though how do I stop mentally punishing myself.

I mentally tell myself oh well, can't undo it, but don't let it happen again. And then I try to move on.

But if it's something that can be fixed, I try to fix it.

During those times, i allow myself to feel everything that's bothering me.

I will actually set a time to feel everything. Like a quiet time.

I don't hide or ignore it

But usually its something so small or a mistake. I find i am shaming myself for something that's almost non-existent.

After i acknowledge it, it becomes so small and doesnot bother me.

Pisces need time away from the world to gather themselves. Regular private moments can really strengthen us.

I realize i don't have to take so many days away from everyone to recharge if i do this regularly in small time frames.

I am at the point where i tell my friends i need time to myself and they respect it.

We screw up, its important to forgive ourselves.

Well, For starters ,I have a Sun-Saturn Conjunction.. So I can be quite brutal to myself.. Especially, if I failed at something unintentionally.. Aww man I can be a complete a** to myself.

However, I usually beat myself up by thinking/saying negative things. So, I try to reverse my thinking/saying from negative to positive..

Now, If the negative to positive thinking/saying method doesn't work, then I'll try two other methods.

Methods:

1) Talk with a veryyyyy close individual ( My Aunt ONLY!! She's a Pisces as well)

but if she's unavailable, then onto the next method

2) Try to go somewhere where I can feel FREE. I go on these long walks and hikes. Now, I made this deal with myself that when I reach this far.. I cannot leave feeling the same way I came. So, I'll stay as long as I have to.

But, I hope you can take some tips from everyone commenting on this thread, and find what best works for you.