Retiring from dating another Pisces again!

After the total fiasco with the first pisces i dated (RECAP: he romanced me , made me fall for him and left me without saying anything) I decided to turn the page and move on. I forced myself to stop thinking about him and waiting for my phone to ring and hear his voice. So I did follow everybody's advice and have fun and meet other guys. An old friend of mine was in town last week , he have known eachother for over 5 years and we always flirted. He is a pretty fun and good looking guy.Even though we were only friends; things got steamy this past weekend and we hooked up.And I found out the same day he is a Pisces and all his exes were also Cancer like me!! So just after that I knew I was screwed LOL! Anyways, he was visiting his family so he got stuck with his uncles and his parents visiting from Sweden. I totally understood but it just made me really mad he didnt even tried hard enough to see me ...he said he wanted but he didnt really do anything.I should have know he was a Pisces thats why always our freindship was weird, he flirted a lot but never made a move and he finally makes his move and now he leaves and i know he wont try to communicate with me soon, cause even when we were friends in the past he never did!! I spoke to him today he was at the airport and he told me he will come back and when i joke around about him not making enough time for me , he cut me off saying " ok honey I have to leave now!" :-/

SO after this I am giving up any posibility of a relationship with a Pisces man they just seem to swim away from me and work around their own schedules leaving me behind!!! 🦇

if that's you in the avatar, you're pretty.

so why in the hell are you so spastic and needy?

thanks but im not needy! I just hate Pisces guys are so adorbale then they get what they want and just leave! i wish they were more honest and direct. They just seem like the perfcet men to me but i dont think they will stick with me!

thanks pesca. as soon as i typed it, i thought, "insecure."

you go into the relationship presuming failure. you said you don't think these guys will stick with you which screams insecurity. you need to work on your own worth and self-esteem because whether you're recognizing it or not, you're projecting.

just reading your two posts it's clear that you're a needy individual with some deep seated insecurities. guys who are predator smell this from miles away and will attack.

try to figure out why you feel you're destined for failure because until then you'll be destined to fail.

oh, i was trying to remember and it finally came to me. my bff would label you as a "girl with daddy issues." i've only heard him refer to one chick he was dating this way. he usually says, "she's green."

what this means is he knows going in, he knows from the moment you utter something so transparently insecure as....

I spoke to him today he was at the airport and he told me he will come back and when i joke around about him not making enough time for me...

that he can walk all over you if he chooses and get some cash to boot. you said you hooked up over the weekend, that he has family visiting, it's like monday and you're already spazzing. why? because you're insecure.

looking at ya, i don't get it but hey, you are a cancer...pun intended.

Well it was last weekend , and he was bothering me with text messages even before he got here and he wanted to spend time (quoting him) "as much time as he can before he leaves" . Then he spends one whole day with me and he stops the calls and texts. there is never a mid-point for them is either black or white! And yeah I might think i have my insecurities but i never show them when I saw any of these guys; i think thats a cancer thing. They usually get the sense I am a cool chick they can hang out with no compromises. Maybe they were never that into me and just took advantage of that!! Then if thats tha case ... why all the chasing around , why all the messages, why all the calls, why all the work of planning beautiful dates— I just dont get it!

your "joke" while he was at the airport in addition to much of what you've said here makes it pretty clear that you are telegraphing your insecurities more than you realize. heck, i don't know ya, pesca doesn't and it's clear as day.

unfortunately, until you can connect with that reality and resolve it, you're most likely doing things on your dates/extended encounters that make these guys want to haul ass.

i wonder how much your demeanor changed when you discovered he was a pisces? when you found out that most of his exes were cancers just like you? given your past experience with pisces, could it be possible that you were projecting?

don't answer it, i'm sure it'll be another denial 😛

haha I wont deny it ! When he told me he was a Pisces it just made so much sense in my head... I i get it now.. my "joke" was more like a reprimand.. even though I was really truly joking... i guess nobody really gets my sense of humor... people just take it too seriously. Something I need to work on.. but yeah another fish leaving me .. for the record!

find the chick you gave your brain to so you can stop posting.

i thought it was a sign of being horny.

so when a guy gives up the cock easily, that's a sign of...?

Posted by ianthefish
dont give up the pussy so easily...

For a while I was missing your sarcasm.... I didnt give up anything if thats what you want to know... things started to get very steamy yes because after so many years he flirted with me and i kind of did to so we were always attracted to eachother, so finally it happened! but no sex included....it just seems to be a trend with these guys and me.. or maybe I am just projecting ( like somebody else posted) my old experience with this other guy!

wait! what the hell does "hooked up" mean? i thought it meant you did the do too.

i don't speak "young." someone translate.

i think she did do him.

or maybe she's one of those chicks that thinks oral and anal aren't sex?

really? mmm i think im much more inexperience than you guys!!! before in our friendship days.. we only held hands and maybe had a few moments when we kiss ( more like peck kiss) he was always such a gentleman with me and we are not kids .. he is 29 and I am 26...but last weekend we could keep our hands all over each other...!! So hopefully this will stop the speculations !

hand job?

why are you speaking in code?

haha ohh well I know that! but the reason why i always liked him he was always a gentleman... good looking.. treated me right ... dreamy perfect guy... we were friends and we were never together because he works abroad and besides flirting we really never hooked up!

sheesh...whatever the hell that means.

still confused by "hooked up?"

Guys! I dont want a relationship with him!! It just feels things got akward after that.. I still want him to text me to call me to remind me he wants me but I am sure he wont! It will be exactly the same as the old pisces guy!

yep, you're now officially sucking the life outta me so you damn sure would've done it to him.

Posted by Pesca

Posted by tubbyscubby
sheesh...whatever the hell that means.

still confused by "hooked up?"

demand/supply

here you go lol!

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=hook% 20up

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so he got her something on the lo-lo?

eh, it's whatever. she's just pitying herself.

I do want him of course! but on the other side I want him to always be interested in me! but even before the gym or work was more important than talking to me!! I just dont understand how you can go from paying 100% of your attention to someone to nada!

dRaMA!

Posted by ianthefish
and he is probably left wondering how you could go from nada to 100% attention...

you are right there Ian. I never really showed him I was attracted to him ( he is a very good looking guy) but only in a playful way ... not aggressive at all. And now i really like him ... and most likely wont hear from him again.

wow! what is wrong with you?

so depressing.

that I have clear...

Posted by tubbyscubby
wow! what is wrong with you?

so depressing.

haha im not depressed ... nor i am crying right now nor iam self pitying myself... i am just trying to figure it out these Pisces guys!! I liked the previous I dated he disappeared! this one i know from before he might do the same! believe me I have much more many things to do than think about these guys all day!! but i guess I just get attracted to Pisces without noticing and maybe they arent attracted to me ... thats why I think I either stop falling for pisces boys or just be cautious next time.

Posted by lichii

Posted by ianthefish
and he is probably left wondering how you could go from nada to 100% attention...

you are right there Ian. I never really showed him I was attracted to him ( he is a very good looking guy) but only in a playful way ... not aggressive at all. And now i really like him ... and most likely wont hear from him again.

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dude, you are a downer. your self-esteem is fucked and you don't even know it.

very sad.

and for cripes sake it's been a freakin week!!

Posted by lichii


... it just made me really mad he didnt even tried hard enough to see me ...

What the hell?

You two are friends who just happened to hook up. And before a relationship can even development, you are already treating him like he's a boyfriend?

Posted by lichii

..... he finally makes his move and now he leaves and i know he wont try to ...

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Dude, when I read your post, I get the feeling that when you refer to him making his move above in the quote .. you are referring to a movement into a bond of being a couple .. and it was one time of hooking up.

wtf is going on?


Why would a person to whom you aren't even his girlfriend yet ... think in this way?

Are you trying to push him away? Cause you're doing a damn good job at it?

That last one was a statement, not a question.



Seriously ... what you should do it lay off of the clinging, it's smothering and makes the person want to puke.

I would like to know why you are so desperate?

Desperatfor whAt? To know? Yes I like to know why all the attention then!!! Why working so hard just to see me and then just forget it... I don't want a boyfriend I just wondering why going through all that trouble just to try to get some ?? I don't have self stem issues I have other guys asking me out I eventually go out with them but I never really feel as especial as I did with these Pisces men... That's about it.

you're delusional.

and "get some?" i thought he didn't get any—

Neither old Pisces nor this Pisces got "any" . But the intentions were there...

Posted by katica
maybe you are so use to guys giving you attention that when one doesn't show you the attention like others do...
that it becomes a *quest* to get that one to do what you're so use to receiving...

because when they aren't full on into you it feels like rejection...I'm sure if he was all over you...you would run LOL

This is about as Cancer as it gets!!!! lol! A Cancer needs a run for their money and I don't think any sign can give it to them like a Pisces. Yes... they are trouble!

Cancer+Pisces relationships take a TON of work, like Days said and even more time. Each obstacle overcome... just leads to another one. If you don't pressure them, or place your expectations or needs on them and they stick around through the rough spots... there MAY be a chance.

This is daunting for a Cancer, with all our insecurities and rejection issues. It's a huge jump to get over them and stick it out, BUT if a Pisces believes you have the potential and are willing to be vulnerable through your actions, not just words; I think it can be one of the best relationships ever.
A Cancer has the tenacity and stubbornness to get there, but they need to tune in to the Pisces subtleties and stop being so self-absorbed.

My Pisces 'friend' told me I'm too busy floating around in my head and I'm not paying attention. It took me a minute, but I know exactly what he's talking about. Use that Cancer memory to replay some of the conversations throughout your time together. Not just how YOU heard them, but from different perspectives. I guarantee he sent you a few messages about what's up.

Huh?


So, let me get this straight .. you want your claws in him and alls you've gotten from him is his intention?


Intention of what, exactly?


Are you attempting to imply that he wants to fuck you?

REally?


Then why is he hanging with his uncle and not humping your leg at the moment?


Do you even 'get' guys at all? If this man wanted you, like that, he'd be sniffing all around.





Here's the reality of it .... you gave him a moment to get hot for you, likely kissed him, some necking .. then he bounced on you and won't even call, even after all that sniffing around you.

Dude, he ran .. whatever happened, he got turned off.

Posted by P-Angel


Are you attempting to imply that he wants to fuck you?

REally?

Then why is he hanging with his uncle and not humping your leg at the moment?

Dude, he ran .. whatever happened, he got turned off.

haha maybe P-Angel... then all his messages: " i miss you", "let me take you to dinner" blah blah blah it was just to hang out with me— Maybe he never wanted me and thats totally valid. i do ask guys out just because I am bored sometimes...

Bottom line.. Thanks guys for your comments.. some a little harsh but yeah I am a cancer and I can get a little paranoid about being wanted , and clingy.. yes that too I need to work on that.

I will be cautious next time I find another Pisces on my path!

It has nothing to do with him being a Pisces .... any/every man is going to cock his head sideways, take one long last look at how gorgeous you are and walk away.


If you plan on having a relationship one day, then you are going to have to back off and let the guy breathe .... or, if you just want to play, then you're on the right track.


good luck

dude just sounds like a soft wimp..i can't relate to him at all..

i like women that show that they are really into me..it makes me want you even more

Dear lichii,

From the heart - you ONLY feel this way because YOU DIDN'T WIN - "he" did
by not bowing down to you an professing his deep "weak & needy" feelings for you.

He saw. He came. He left.

As someone who has bedded (and even washroomed) 300 girls who look a lot like you
most of them bartenders, waitresses and models who are USED TO being hit on and
stared at - the simple trick is to NOT do that, be unflinching, make FUN of them
and it does this:

A female (especially a hot one) can only identify 3 types of males:

1 - One who is "or is possibly" a predator - and she will run from him
2 - A male that she can boss around/use/wrap around her finger
3 - A male who can boss HER around ..or at least not FAIL at her "tests".

...and the female has primal attraction to #3, because she feels SAFE with him
because he's got the balls to "handle her" a certain way, so obviously she knows
he can protect her from "the world". And there is NOTHING you can do about it.

Now...going deep into that is the reason women who are physically abused
CANNOT bring themselves to LEAVE their abuser - they actually feel safer WITH them.

But if this guy emailed you and told you he was in love with you
you would turn your back on him and kiss the nearest guy
as soon as he walked into the room. It would be OVER for you (and him)
because it is SUPERFICIAL primal attraction, not love.

( A little trick I use t use to get them to stop calling me or threatening my new gfs haha)

PM me though with your email. I'd like to talk with you about something.

Posted by scorpiopics
Dear lichii,

From the heart - you ONLY feel this way because YOU DIDN'T WIN - "he" did
by not bowing down to you an professing his deep "weak & needy" feelings for you.

He saw. He came. He left.

As someone who has bedded (and even washroomed) 300 girls who look a lot like you
most of them bartenders, waitresses and models who are USED TO being hit on and
stared at - the simple trick is to NOT do that, be unflinching, make FUN of them
and it does this:

A female (especially a hot one) can only identify 3 types of males:

1 - One who is "or is possibly" a predator - and she will run from him
2 - A male that she can boss around/use/wrap around her finger
3 - A male who can boss HER around ..or at least not FAIL at her "tests".

...and the female has primal attraction to #3, because she feels SAFE with him
because he's got the balls to "handle her" a certain way, so obviously she knows
he can protect her from "the world". And there is NOTHING you can do about it.

Now...going deep into that is the reason women who are physically abused
CANNOT bring themselves to LEAVE their abuser - they actually feel safer WITH them.

But if this guy emailed you and told you he was in love with you
you would turn your back on him and kiss the nearest guy
as soon as he walked into the room. It would be OVER for you (and him)
because it is SUPERFICIAL primal attraction, not love.

( A little trick I use t use to get them to stop calling me or threatening my new gfs haha)

PM me though with your email. I'd like to talk with you about something.

Interesting Scorpiopics!!! Yeah I replied yuo back!

Posted by periperi


High five my Scorpio nigga 😉

BITCH ASS!!!

Posted by scorpiopics

A female (especially a hot one) can only identify 3 types of males:

1 - One who is "or is possibly" a predator - and she will run from him
2 - A male that she can boss around/use/wrap around her finger
3 - A male who can boss HER around ..or at least not FAIL at her "tests".

bullshit.


there are women who are attracted to each and everyone one of these types, and several more on top of it.

there are women who flock to predators. they end up dating many of my male friends 😛

personally, i don't want a male that i can wrap around my finger or a male that i can boss around and i damn sure don't want a predator so fuck all three of these "boys."

as to the OP, her self-esteem is in the shitter. she's a self-pitying whiner. she's an emo-vampire and emo-control freak. she's a cancer.

*icks*

awwh! can i help?

i will so totally hold the gun.

periperi... i think i found your theme song!





and before you blow a whole through those panties... Lighten UP!

🙂 ya... SMRTER than many

check me out *whole = hole*... LOL!!!

Posted by ianthefish
dont give up the pussy so easily...

What Ian said....Stop falling for the attention, you have been through this enough to know not to fall for the slick talk and fake interest thru men chasing you....men that blow you off figure if you give it up to him so quickly and he's done nothing to prove he deserves your body you probably do that with every guy...may not be true but if you continue doing what your doing that's all your really going to experience with men....Definitely can't be good for your self esteem.

Posted by Lauren89

Posted by ianthefish
you stopped giving it away, and you have never felt better...

😄

DO I—?? I am still up and it is 2 o clock in the morning here and I cannot sleep because I feel lonely. And I feel that I will go crazy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! We were talking yesterday about these things... you said that I need a hug and it was right!

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I feel the same Lauren !! I feel lonely sometimes because I have so much love to give even when I give it all to my family and friends ... I still want to share it... And when a men shows up in my life with good intentions I fall for him and then I'm left abandoned!!! ;(

Posted by ianthefish
it doesnt really matter what he wants...

its what you want that matters...

if it makes you feel good about yourself to fuck him on the third date, then by all means do it..

QFT. Ladies, do not fuck a guy to GET anything from him! If you are not having sex with him strictly as a physical expression of your feelings AND you REALLY want to AND you are not hanging on his response, are not wanting/hoping for him to do anything because you slept with him.... then it's NOT the right time for YOU to have sex. I don't care if it's the first date or the fiftieth, most men do not like/respect women using her sex to get something from him, and they do not like feeling manipulated esp when he DOESN'T give her the "relationship" (or whatever) she seems to want after having sex with him. ONLY have sex with a man when it is what YOU WANT to do, AND regardless of the outcome.

Not every man is worthy of your precious time, attention, and affection! Give it some time to see if HE deserves YOU... not convince HIM what a catch YOU are! You ladies have it backwards! Yes, there are men who ONLY want to "fuck & run" - and those men will do so NO MATTER HOW LONG YOU WITHHOLD SEX!! But most men aren't like that. Most men are frustrated & baffled at the way some women either "give up the goodies" OR "withhold sex" in order to elicit a specific response from him - usually for him to start a relationship with her, or at least grow emotionally closer to her! Using a physical means (or lack thereof) to elicit an emotional response... that's where it backfires. It doesn't feel open & honest to him, more like (emotional) manipulation - a complete attraction killer & turn off. If YOU are not feeling READY for sex, then DON'T DO IT! If he'd leave you over it - GOOD RIDDANCE!

Withholding is not the same as waiting until you feel more comfortable! Stay warm & open & affectionate & fun. Leave the sex out of it, ESP if deep down you hope it will MAKE him do ANYTHING! Most men DON'T expect sex as "payment" for the time & money he spends on you... the payment is how good he feels around you, how you make him feel when you smile, the sheer pleasure of your company. And how thrilling (exciting AND scary) it feels to fall in love with a secure, happy woman who LOVES HERSELF, w/ strong boundaries!