venting? guidance? I don't know!

I seem to have decided that this is my safe, happy place when it comes to discussing the pisces in my life. I'm not sure if this is a request for guidance or simply an opportunity to vent... but the words have to come out!

[forgive the clutter if you don't give a toss about my love life 🙂 ]

Mr. Pisces and I seem to have settled into a nice sort of balanced, long-distance exchange with a few little hiccups here and there. I was out of town for a week last month and he and I were chatting the day I was scheduled to leave. He stepped away for a bit to answer the phone and when he returned he told me that his company was sending him to my city the next day. I was absolutely crushed and he seemed genuinely disappointed as well, but life went on.

We now chat online a few times a week, usually for a few hours (between 2 and 6) at a time. We talk about everything under the sun and I seem to be one of his go-to people when he's feeling down (he'll never admit "I feel lousy" but I'm learning to read the signs). He's had other lovers and tells me about them. I've had other lovers and tell him about them.

I can't really tell if what began as passion is transforming into a friendship. I don't know if pisces separate their friends from their lovers or if they can be one and the same. I have absolutely no understanding of the nature of his feelings for me. It's so strange to have this sort of regular contact (over 5 months!) with such little real-life experience of each other.

blah blah blah

Thank you all for giving me this chance to get this out of my system!!

Oh, God! I know I'm going to be called out for being a virgo for saying this, but here goes... I talk to him all the time! When he told me that he was going to be in town I pitched a fit and offered to change my flight. Wouldn't that be enough of a sign for anyone?

I'm also really reluctant to talk about feelings because he tends to avoid directly discussing his own (on any matter, not just his feelings on "us" - whatever "us" may be). He's told me about women that he's slept with since we met and the constant thread running between them all is that he's kept his emotional distance from them. I don't want to appear clingy or needy by telling him my own feelings.

I've got a general policy on questions that might be coming into play here. I never ask a question unless I'm prepared to hear any answer under the sun. So if I were to say, "Hey, Mr. Pisces. I really have started to deepen the romantic feelings I developed for you when we first met ages ago"... he might say: 1) "Why, V-Lady! What a tremendous compliment! I feel the same way. Why don't you plan on spending a few weeks with me and we can see if this thing has what it takes to last?" or 2) "Ugh!" and that would be the last I'd hear from him.

When it comes right down to it, I'm more comfortable with the general sense of ambiguity than I would be risking alienating him altogether by being so direct.

archer - So by that logic should I assume that by virtue of him still being on the scene, he's interested?

Do pisces like to keep their options open? You know, float around from one person to the next just to maintain their independence? What is it that finally gets a pisces to settle down into a relationship?

Thanks for all the input! I get the whole "pisces are players" thing. I guess part of me is just gearing up for a last hurrah, emotionally speaking, before closing this door. It's gone on way too long with way too little in the realm of tangible progress. I'll always be happy to have Mr. Pisces as a friend, but I'm burning out on thinking this might be something real. Maybe I am looking to make sure my i's are dotted and t's are crossed before I move on emotionally.

OMG archer!! That's exactly where I'm at, too!! All these wonderful words, thoughts, discussions, etc... and in the back of my mind I'm wondering "WTF is all of this about?"

I don't doubt that they're intuitive. It's what they seem to be able to do with it that's my sticking point.

If you can really read another person, that means you can float around and do your thing while secure in the knowledge that they're into you.

i have a funny feeling that i am a very rare species of aqua-pisces cusp that insists on calling atleast every two days,if not every day.
a habit which has given the nickname>>bullying dictator

weird

A yo-yo that stays in *their* hand. Couldn't have said it better myself.

The more I think about this, the less I understand.

lol @ "bullying dictator"...

... haa hahaha,,

there is a reason why I love this girl.



yes,me too.for all the nicknames she has given me.being a bullying dictator was never so fulfilling😛

Thanks, archer. The general consensus (that I agree with) seems to be - we're very compatible, we're very different, and the sex is great.

haa haaa devil baby... you are so humble.. I bet she could do better just WAIT




haahaa,now what else is left? oh yes another one is darth wader,i don't exactly know what she calls me that,but it sounds cute when does.😛
i think its because of my anger,when i get grumpy,she calls me and says>>halo darthy,have you eaten a few souls already? can i get a minute with you here?

Opposites attract, and it doesn't get more opposite than Virgo and Pisces. Virgo is nitpicky and disciplined, while Pisces can be scattered and spacey. Virgo is rational and logical, while Pisces is imaginative and emotional. Virgo may get annoyed at the fact that Pisces isn't grounded in reality. More often than not, though, a Pisces can teach Virgo how to be more compassionate and caring. Virgo has a lot to teach Pisces, too, and under Virgo's guidance, he or she can discover the joys of having a life that's more organized - even if it's not as organized as Virgo's.



you know what,the complete opposite is what it is in our case.she is the dreamy and spacey one,and i am the more grounded one.
wow

Definitely, archer! Sorry for not going into the whole background (I've posted on this topic before and didn't want to rehash it all).

We met in early February, slept together and have been in regular online/chat/IM contact since, but haven't seen each other in person because we live on different continents.

devil honey... you are SPECIAL case.



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aha lest i forget,darth wader and owly,a very special couple indeed😛

starfish - I waited until the third date. Unfortunately, the third date was about 72 hours after the first date.

devil,, I think you are very clearly an aqua... honestly. I am half aqua myself, so trust me...

and that pluto in first house..... lol ... how fitting,,, "come dear, I want my pluto in first house back where she belongs" :-)




mmmm ok,i like my aquarian ways then😛
haahaa,that made me laugh,how very fitting,pluto belongs in my first house,and there is no way out,the first house has no doors.
**darth wader style evil laugh**

starfish - The way things worked out, it was then or never. He was only in town for a few days. We met on his first night in town, went out again on his second, slept together on his third, and he left the next day. If it was going to happen at all, it needed to happen quickly.

Funny, though. He still mentions how long it took me to sleep with him and that he was worried he would "blow it".

sex on the third date is like pigs flying for me.
no offense though,it varies from individual to individual

Devil is this good for you or bad for you..




good,since i like everything in proper stages,sleeping that early is not for love to me,thats for lust.if you get my drift.

haahaa
so i get saved from being a pisces.😛

Amazing, DC. You've managed to clear up so much for me so quickly.

1. I've been doing the right thing by not pressing the issue and just going with the flow.

2. I've been doing the right thing by letting Mr. Pisces know that I like him in subtle ways that are completely non-threatening/non-invasive/non-committal.

3. Mr. Pisces is still checking me out. He likes me and wants to get to know me better. At the same time, I don't think he wants to hurt me or lead me on. He won't say anything until *he* decides that he wants and is ready for something more. Until then, he'll probably view himself as having done the kind and upright thing by not having implied an emotional commitment where there is none on his part.

4. The yo-yo stuff may be a good thing. By opening up, Mr. Pisces is beginning to trust me. At the same time, he doesn't want to give too much of himself away.

I hope I've read this right and am not just applying a "glass half full" perspective because that's what I want to see (as opposed to what is really there).

Thank you DC! xxx ooo

i think he meant to say >>edit-'too' instead of 'to'

haahaa,
although even i am certain about which 'to' he was talking about.
just had a shot at it.
no you are not dumb,no one with pluto in first house can be dumb.hail the clan!😛

edit>>not certain



haahaa

I am so in love with this board! It's amazing how helpful people are!

Thanks, bijou, for reminding me to keep the focus on myself. I do have those days where I get frustrated with Mr. Pisces. When that happens, I simply turn my chat program off (the way he usually contacts me) and keep it off until I find some sense of internal balance. When I feel myself getting swept away in our conversations or wondering about what might or might not be - not living in the moment, in other words - I step away completely. Sometimes it's for a day, sometimes it's for a week. It takes as long as it needs to take.

If there's one thing I've learned recently (and these boards were actually really important in learning that lesson), it's that I don't want to approach people with anything but an open and kind heart. If I'm frustrated or angry, it's usually because my own unreasonable expectations aren't being met. In those situations, I take some time out, reorient myself, and only start engaging with the world once that feeling has passed.

it means being very charitable.

🙂

WELCOME TO THE HEART BREAK LIFE .. of loving a Pisces man, out of sight, causing u heartache & STRIFE!
Lord, what I wouldn't do to him in BROAD daylight! First, I gotta catch the lil squirmy fish, before I can swallow him up, like a midnight dish. Does he luv me, does he care, does he even remember that I was once there. Pisces man, so sweet, so charming and sly, can't get u off my mind and can't see myself with another guy. If I live to be 100 years, there aint a ocean big enuff to hold the many tears.. Tears of pain, agony and defeat.. How can this man, so sexy, so quiet, so sweet be as cold as ice. Id love to erase him from my memory, from my life. Thing is if he rang my phone tommorrow, Id be right there, knowing he wont stay but a minute, but u see he's like a drug, and I just can't quit it!

I say we pmen lovers, need insurance coverage to cover the detox, we need from these men 🙂 FIGHT ON PMEN LOVERS! FIGHT ON.. ONE DAY WE WILL BE VICTORIOUS, JUST NOT THIS DAY!