Age preference and dating

What is your personal take on this? I've seen anything from; same age, few years older/younger, or much older/younger.

I guess I don't have a specific preference, the people I've been with ages have varied. My longterm ex was my same age, the oldest I dated was 20 years, although I will not go past 15 now. 2 years younger was my youngest. And at my age now, I would not date younger, too much of a difference!

I come from a small scene/social circle that is refined and cultured and many of the women my age are dating 6-20 years older, it's common and not an eyelash is blinked in my personal community. We have specific tastes and interests, it's hard to find someone our own age who can cater to exactly what we want. The last guy I dated was 6 months younger, we were very different socially...he didn't get most of my references my classic rock taste or any of that. Didn't fit with my friends, they didn't like him. All around bad fit! My friends now are all in their 30s-50s aside from a select few longterm/new ones.

The man I'm seeing now I met in my social circle, we've known of eachother for awhile. Before thanksgiving we started dating, so far I am very happy. He is 13.5 years older than me and this doesn't bother me, especially since he looks nowhere near that and; physically, mentally, politically, and cultured speaking we are on the same page.

What about you? What's the oldest or youngest you would do? 15 is my max oldest, no youngest except maybe a year. My general comfort range is 4-10 years older.

Posted by TheProphetProdigy
I'm 26 right now so I would say 25 to 29.

Reasonable. Not just for dating, but I don't even like hanging around a lot of people my age because they are into the club and bar scene and like that hip hop and rap noise and that's not me at all. That's why my group is older, always been that way.

I'll be 25 soon and he just turned 38. I've not only never been with someone like him but I've never met someone as unique.

I can see where you come from. I have friends my age but my main social group is older.

I was raised on classic rock and my friends do things like; art galleries, wine tastings, highly costumised events, Bon fires, karaoke.

I do far more with them than I ever did with my longterm same age friends before, granted we still do things. It's a whole new world, where we go to historical events in full Victorian/steam punk garb and go to fancy parties and specialized interest events. It's a specific style and my friends my age aren't that into it aside from the ones in my scene.

And all of them look like they haven't aged in 10 years so my room mate refers to them all as "vampire"

These older people most of them stay up and sleep in later or are on my same nocturnal schedule. I work 8-5 and go a few hours of sleep a lot of times, guy I'm seeing gets up around 1 and works 2-9 typically. He has his own business so he's flexible and works from home

Posted by TheProphetProdigy

Posted by Agentgem24
And all of them look like they haven't aged in 10 years so my room mate refers to them all as "vampire"

These older people most of them stay up and sleep in later or are on my same nocturnal schedule. I work 8-5 and go a few hours of sleep a lot of times, guy I'm seeing gets up around 1 and works 2-9 typically. He has his own business so he's flexible and works from home

I don't believe in old, that man could probably knock me out in one punch. and i'm 12 years his junior. Age doesn't have anything to do with nothing in my opinion

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I agree. That's why I even have a friend who is 20 because I don't see her as a little girl to me, she's an equal and mature.

He is in exceptionally good shape. He eats the same meals, has multiple supplements daily, works out a bunch, gluten free etc, all natural

I hardly see a difference in a picture of 15 years ago. He has more stamina than me to physically.

I also have yet to see how he's a Scorpio. It's his sun but he has very little water besides that.

He's very quirky and goofy and we just have fun and act like fools

Posted by size zero superhero
I've always been the most attracted to men within close age-range, respective to mine. When I was 12, I liked 12-14 year-old boys. Nowadays in my mid-twenties, in theory & if I were single, younger 20s-early 30s is probably the largest age discrepancy I'd be comfortable with.
(My boyfriend of 4 years is only 10 months older than myself.)

Oldest I've dated? 24 when I was 20. Never became serious, for reasons apart from age.
Youngest was a 2.5-year age difference. Unlike the aforementioned 24 y/o I dated at 20, the younger guy was enviably intelligent & creative therefore it wasn't awkward at all.

My reservation about seeing older men, is due to a strong pattern I've noticed--guys who seek exclusively younger women tend to have control issues in relationships. Many need to feel as though they have "the upper hand", so to speak, rather than idealizing a partners as their equal. That doesn't sit well with me.
I'm not applying that analysis to, say, 45-year-olds who've dated a few women in their 30s...more along the lines of a 40something who'll only consider 20somethings.

With that said, as long as it feels right for you, why bother determining the general consensus? It's only on you to ensure your happiness. 🙂

It depends on the man for sure. If an older male primarily only dates young than that is a red flag and be a no go for me. This guys biggest age difference younger was 13 years prior to me, he also dated 10-12 years older and many within 5 years of his age. It just depends who he cliques with, and if that's the case I know he isn't just after me because I'm young ass or so he can feel young. He goes out more than me and granted I am in excellent shape and healthy, he is even more so. I'm the anemic one with digestive disorders. We also have to leave earlier from the gothic "club" Sunday nights because I have to be up early for work and he doesn't. We generally take my car. I see him once during the week (he has a business and I have a full time job and school twice a week plus studying etc and the gym) and I stay with him Friday-Sunday. Get home around 2-4am sun and get up at 6:30 for work, then go to school right after until 9 pm.

Back on the music; I like SOME hip hop and rap but it's older stuff, not much past the 90s. Only a few modern songs do I like. People like biggie, tupac, tone loc, coolio etc as opposed to juicy j or lil Wayne, can't stand that. Hopsin and German rap is about the few modern stuff I like and that's underground.

I like no pop or country of any kind. Southern rock and blue grass is as far as I go.

Classic rock is my main; I like some alternative too like linkin park and korn etc

Techno: I do love electronic, I used to be in the rave scenes although I never did drugs. But I'm taking hard style , trance, industrial. None of this dub step crap

I adore classical and jazz and stuff from musicals.

I'm not sure if it's a culture or gender thing when people talk about age preference.

I've know men who don't care how young their woman his but wouldn't date anyone older than themselves.

For me, I prefer to date someone the same age give or take 3 years. I do feel it's weird hanging out with younger people in that way.

I prefer dating people 2-4 years older than me. I could stand to date someone within a range of -2 years to +10 years my age, but it's not what I prefer. Of course, my preferred ranges are formed from silly ideas so they're not strong held beliefs that would inhibit me from dating outside of it. Right now I'm dating someone 5 1/2 years older than me, which is outside my preferred range but it's working well and he doesn't make me feel any different because of my age.

Yes, don't be dead and don't be a minor too.

Everything in between is fair game if you're mature enough and if I'm mature enough for you.

Going by past relationships, dated guys my age or 2-3 years older.

Male: 26 - 29
Female: 21 - 35

Or something like that. I try to keep it relatively close to my own age. Not really into the cougar thing.

I prefer older guys.

The 7 year gap is perfect for me.

Ever since my mid 20's, I've basically been drawn to and attracting attention from women in their 30's rather than those my age or younger.