Zafrina
@Zafrina
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An ugly triangle: Capricorn, Cancer, Leo
Posted by MissGemmi
The Leo is a rebound. It won't take long before the relationship with the Leo collapses. She is in pain because of her previous relationship and in denial about the relationship ending. So she puts all her love, care attention into this one. If a cancer breaks up everything that gets destroyed around them because of the heartache is collateral damage. She will come to her senses and realise this aint it. Try to be her friend eventhough you feel hurt. She doesnt know what shes doing or who shes hurting. She will appreciate it big time if after everything you're still there.
Thank you so much for the kind response !
I try to, but I find it extremely hard since she suddenly turned into the type of person I despise. As a natural Cap, I can't stand being pushed and pulled around like a piece of furniture. I'm genuine, and not just for comfort and gossip here and there.
I agree with @MissGemmi. Right now, the best thing you can do, is not approach her about what is going on with the Leo, just tell her you are always there for her. Don't comment on the relationship, because right now, that's probably the only thing she feels is making her feel better, and you making any comments about it, is like you are attacking her happiness. Sometimes the best thing you can do for someone, is to give them tough love, and allow them to make mistakes. You can't save someone from themselves, if they don't want it and the more you push it, the more animosity it will breed. It will be hard, but sit back a little, and be there when it fails. Because it will, she's just running from her pain right now.
Posted by lesenfantterribles
but honestly, sex, food & sleep is all i look for in a relationship 💁🏻♀️
It would be nice if it would be a relationship. It's just a mix between a "friends with benefits" relation and him telling her about how much he cares. (In reality, for me that's just a bunch of non-sense, because there is no action attached to what he's saying)
Posted by nikkistar
I agree with @MissGemmi. Right now, the best thing you can do, is not approach her about what is going on with the Leo, just tell her you are always there for her. Don't comment on the relationship, because right now, that's probably the only thing she feels is making her feel better, and you making any comments about it, is like you are attacking her happiness. Sometimes the best thing you can do for someone, is to give them tough love, and allow them to make mistakes. You can't save someone from themselves, if they don't want it and the more you push it, the more animosity it will breed. It will be hard, but sit back a little, and be there when it fails. Because it will, she's just running from her pain right now.click to expand
Yeah, I've noticed the outbursts whenever I approach the subject "your Leo". That's why I try to ignore it, but she keeps trying to rub every cheesy line he has to say in my face. I'll most probably just sit back for a while, although that makes me seem like a cold person and she doesn't exactly enjoy it.
Posted by ZafrinaStop being so emotional and clingy. Be happy for your friend that she's getting some D.
Although she lives with me, she spends at least 2 days/nights per week at his place, and when she arrives home she's still texting him and ignoring me. There is also no essence in their dating, it's all about having sex, eating and sleeping together. Never heard from her that he wants to get in a serious relationship with her, only cheesy stuff like "I care about you and your well being", and I just feel like he's driving her away from me thanks to his natural Leo charms. Lately I haven't even been able to approach her with a conversation in regards to him or the whole problem, all she does is accuse me of being insane and egocentric. I started to ignore her because I can't deal with the stress she brings, but even then she plays the victim and explodes. (Note; she's always been a very calm being, so for me these reactions are shocking)
I'm just concerned about her and don't want her to get played (because until now that's how I feel about the Leo stuff). I'm also concerned about our friendship and me as a human being, since it hurts to be thrown out of someone's life in exchange for some good sex. I'd appreciate some external thoughts on this situation. 🙂
Your too involved in her love life.
Posted by SupesOh well, then I should have emphasized more on the fact that she turned into a completely different person in just a couple of months, since she met him.
All I read was you being hurt because she’s not spending all her time with YOU.
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I'm just genuinely concerned about me and her both, as well as the relationship between us. There's no jealousy or anything, if I knew that he could actually make her happy I wouldn't even bother, and I'd definitely like the guy !
Posted by LadyNeptuneOh well, I guess I should feel sorry for caring then.
Stop being so emotional and clingy. Be happy for your friend that she's getting some D.
On the same logic, I should be happy for her if she gets played emotionally, I mean she's getting some D after all.
I'd be happy for her if her feelings would actually be returned.
Posted by ZafrinaWhat do you know of her feelings tho?Posted by LadyNeptuneOh well, I guess I should feel sorry for caring then.
Stop being so emotional and clingy. Be happy for your friend that she's getting some D.
On the same logic, I should be happy for her if she gets played emotionally, I mean she's getting some D after all.
I'd be happy for her if her feelings would actually be returned.click to expand
Your being judgey cause you feel like he's 'taking' her from you. That's your real issue here.
Your way too involved. Just look at the title of this thread... "An ugly triangle: Capricorn, Cancer, Leo"
YOUR NOT PART OF ANY TRIANGLE. YOU ARE NOT PART OF THEIR RELATIONSHIP.
Honestly I'd distance myself from your friendship too.
Its one thing to pull aside a friend and say "hey I'm worried that he's not as invested as you are." Its a completely different thing to actively try an sabotage someones relationship cause your jealous of your friends time.
Posted by Ellygant
It kinda sounds like jealousy tbh. You even call it a triangle in the title. So obviously there’s some possessiveness and contention at play.
They guy might not be the best for her in the long run. You also might be missing out on more intimate information between them, especially since you’ve made it known now how much you disapprove of him. Hammering away about him being a villain helps no one. It makes her feel like shit and like you think she can’t make her own decisions and you’re basically just putting a wedge between you and her without any of his help.
And if it was a serious break up with the Gemini then it’s likely that it’s not the Leo who is changing her, but herself. The Leo is likely just her current reaction to a huge life change. If it wasn’t with him specifically, it’d be some other guy, she’s still choosing this arrangement, whatever it is for her own reasons.
She lives with you correct? Is it a free ride or does she pay equal share? If you’re allowing her to stay there for free then consider changing that arrangement. If she’s paying her share then if you can’t be open and understanding to her love life I’d advise you stay out of it.
You have no idea how much I appreciate this. Thank you !
Posted by LadyNeptune
What do you know of her feelings tho?
Your being judgey cause you feel like he's 'taking' her from you. That's your real issue here.
Your way too involved. Just look at the title of this thread... "An ugly triangle: Capricorn, Cancer, Leo"
YOUR NOT PART OF ANY TRIANGLE. YOU ARE NOT PART OF THEIR RELATIONSHIP.
Honestly I'd distance myself from your friendship too.
Its one thing to pull aside a friend and say "hey I'm worried that he's not as invested as you are." Its a completely different thing to actively try an sabotage someones relationship cause your jealous of your friends time.
I'm definitely not trying to sabotage anything, you're actually making me feel bad about this lol. The title was meant to be purely informative, it's not like I'm actually trying to imply that I'm directly involved.
In fact I'm just trying to ignore the whole situation, ultimately she's the one being mad and I don't know how to react to all of this.
Maybe it's just me, but I don't toss a friendship in the trash for some sugar coated D.
It's funny how you thought I'm sabotaging anything between them since I never mentioned such a thing. If it were the case, I wouldn't be here asking for opinions, I'd be working on a master plan. Instead I'm just staying perfectly quiet and wondering what's the best thing to do.
Posted by ZafrinaFrom where I'm sitting (and reading) seems like you have an agenda. You've brought up your opinion of him up enough to be labeled by her as 'insane and egocentric'.Posted by LadyNeptune
What do you know of her feelings tho?
Your being judgey cause you feel like he's 'taking' her from you. That's your real issue here.
Your way too involved. Just look at the title of this thread... "An ugly triangle: Capricorn, Cancer, Leo"
YOUR NOT PART OF ANY TRIANGLE. YOU ARE NOT PART OF THEIR RELATIONSHIP.
Honestly I'd distance myself from your friendship too.
Its one thing to pull aside a friend and say "hey I'm worried that he's not as invested as you are." Its a completely different thing to actively try an sabotage someones relationship cause your jealous of your friends time.
I'm definitely not trying to sabotage anything, you're actually making me feel bad about this lol. The title was meant to be purely informative, it's not like I'm actually trying to imply that I'm directly involved.
In fact I'm just trying to ignore the whole situation, ultimately she's the one being mad and I don't know how to react to all of this.
Maybe it's just me, but I don't toss a friendship in the trash for some sugar coated D.
It's funny how you thought I'm sabotaging anything between them since I never mentioned such a thing. If it were the case, I wouldn't be here asking for opinions, I'd be working on a master plan. Instead I'm just staying perfectly quiet and wondering what's the best thing to do.
Posted by Zafrina
Lately I haven't even been able to approach her with a conversation in regards to him or the whole problem, all she does is accuse me of being insane and egocentric. I started to ignore her because I can't deal with the stress she brings, but even then she plays the victim and explodes.click to expand
Posted by LadyNeptune
From where I'm sitting (and reading) seems like you have an agenda. You've brought up your opinion of him up enough to be labeled by her as 'insane and egocentric'.Posted by Zafrina
Lately I haven't even been able to approach her with a conversation in regards to him or the whole problem, all she does is accuse me of being insane and egocentric. I started to ignore her because I can't deal with the stress she brings, but even then she plays the victim and explodes.
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Perfectly true, I'm not going to deny it. That came from her repeatedly asking for my opinion, and since I'm no ass kisser I always gave her the same response: "I don't like the guy". It's the only thing I ever did in regards to this, everything else was kept to myself.
Now the other thing is, I did try to approach her with a conversation related to her sudden change in her temper, and I did the mistake to indirectly relate it to her Leo (something along the lines of: "It's weird how you started acting completely different at about the same time you met him"). Other than that, I did absolutely nothing to influence her or anything, I'm sure that sooner or later she'll come back to her senses, yet again as I stated above, I don't know how to react to the whole thing until then.
Posted by ZafrinaAll you can really do is let her be her own person and allow her to fuck up all on her own. Being a good friend means speaking your mind (you did) and being supportive of your friends choices. Her life, her choice.Posted by LadyNeptune
From where I'm sitting (and reading) seems like you have an agenda. You've brought up your opinion of him up enough to be labeled by her as 'insane and egocentric'.Posted by Zafrina
Lately I haven't even been able to approach her with a conversation in regards to him or the whole problem, all she does is accuse me of being insane and egocentric. I started to ignore her because I can't deal with the stress she brings, but even then she plays the victim and explodes.
Perfectly true, I'm not going to deny it. That came from her repeatedly asking for my opinion, and since I'm no ass kisser I always gave her the same response: "I don't like the guy". It's the only thing I ever did in regards to this, everything else was kept to myself.
Now the other thing is, I did try to approach her with a conversation related to her sudden change in her temper, and I did the mistake to indirectly relate it to her Leo (something along the lines of: "It's weird how you started acting completely different at about the same time you met him"). Other than that, I did absolutely nothing to influence her or anything, I'm sure that sooner or later she'll come back to her senses, yet again as I stated above, I don't know how to react to the whole thing until then.
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Maybe what she needs right now after a long term relationship is some good D without the pressure of relationship terms.
We all go thru something like that it's life.
I had a Virgo friend try to tell me about a boy once and we fell out bcz of it.
If imma make a mistake lemme do it. That's life.
She dropped me bcz of it. And I don't feel bad. Because I was there for her man drama and not once tried to tell her what to do.
Don't ruin a good friendship by thinking you can help someone skip a vital life lesson.
I had a Virgo friend try to tell me about a boy once and we fell out bcz of it.
If imma make a mistake lemme do it. That's life.
She dropped me bcz of it. And I don't feel bad. Because I was there for her man drama and not once tried to tell her what to do.
Don't ruin a good friendship by thinking you can help someone skip a vital life lesson.
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