Aries husband parties every weekend

So, my husband and I have been married for a few months, we have lived together and been in a committed relationship for about 5 years now.

Here is the problem, he loves to party. LOVES to party and I honestly do not mind that he goes out, but its every freaking weekend, Fri-Sun with his boys (which are single) and it's irritating me a bit. He never wants to take me, he only take me if his boys are bring new dates and then I'm "allowed" to go. Last year we ended up breaking up for 6 months because of that, he came back to me and put a ring on my finger and told me he would do better and that he will calm down. I agreed, because I don't care that he parties with his boys, but damn bro, every weekend. No married man should be in the clubs and bars every weekend. Thats what single men/women do. Like I said before I do not mind that he goes out, just tone it down. Maybe like 1 time a week, shit...

Anyway, he was a partier back in the day before I met him, and then we got together he would only go out like once every 2 months, so I thought he had out grew it. Last year is when he picked up on the parting hard and he is 32 years of age and his friends are younger than 25 years of age. Thats a big age different, especially with men.

But he takes good care of me, I do not work and he pays all the bills. So, yes I do understand a man needing to have male bonding time and enjoy his life, since he works so much.

But all my friends are grown and have families. We go out for some wine like once every month or two, majority of the time they are with their husbands and kids. I don't have many friends and my husband I do not have kids either. So, I'm home alone every weekend from 10p-4a. And I'm tired of it.

Also, I tried to communicate..DOES NOT WORK, all he ends up saying is my stressing him out and I'm becoming a burden. So, expressing how I feel doesn't seem to be the trick.

Has any of you guys experience kind of behavior with your husbands and what did you guys do?

I would stop acting like a wife too, tuh!

Communicate with your actions not words. Do you have any friends who are single and whom you can go out with?

Damn a few months married, and the score board is already out keeping track....

Yep. Start going out with your own friends. If you need to find some, go on bumble to meet friends. It has that option

Posted by MsCali209
So, my husband and I have been married for a few months, we have lived together and been in a committed relationship for about 5 years now.

I honestly do not mind that he goes out, but its every freaking weekend

Anyway, he was a partier back in the day before I met him

You knew he was like this. A ring and some vows aren't gonna change a person's core character.

If you really want it to stop hook up his friends with your friends. Once their wifed up he will have no one to party with.

Men wouldn't put up with this from a wife either... He's not slow. He knows better.

Beware of proposal after problems... cake and eat it too... golden handcuffs.

He knows exactly what he's doing and thinks there's nothing you can do about it 'cause "y'alls married now."

"...stressing him out and I'm becoming a burden." I wish a mf would.

Me personally, would not care and let him get it out his system.... and/or, I'd seperate and I'd tell him because marriage has burden and stress just like anything else... to include fatherhood.

I don't think it's an unreasonable request that you ask to meet these friends he's spending so much time with. Ask.

I am an Aries and this is an example of how they could act out badly. In all honesty many men do this but often feel like they can get away with it because they are paying all the bills. In away this means he is treating you like an object. A relationship is a give take though... so often women set themselves up in this kinda relationship. In all honesty there is nothing but trouble mostly in any bar or club after 12pm... even then more like 11ish the new crowd comes out.

So the deal is you need to talk to him and if he is not willing to change and you have no kids get a divorce and find a man that will come home. I am not going to ly to you many business men do this have the wife at home and then end up in strip clubs.

Bottom line... he needs to grew up. If you have kids suggest therapy couples... even even a nutrual family or friend to try to mediate...

Bottom line if I love a woman I have no issues about going home or wanting to be home... I may want my space such as to work out in a room away from my lover or tincker with things. Some men need this and woman have to be understanding about that or yes many will eject and go out. Not only that they will be upset or you will be... the bottom line is you need to address this like and adult and if he is not willing to leave him... if he promise and keeps braking then then you are training him it is exceptable and will take him back. It does not help the situation... if you allow this then you are not truly sick of being treated like this... and are your own problem...

Honestly I may drink at home or with the boys in a fishing trip. BBQ but few and far from going clubbing... till 4 am.

Piscesmoon

The next time he goes, tell him you are going with him

Posted by MsCali209
So, my husband and I have been married for a few months, we have lived together and been in a committed relationship for about 5 years now.

Here is the problem, he loves to party. LOVES to party and I honestly do not mind that he goes out, but its every freaking weekend, Fri-Sun with his boys (which are single) and it's irritating me a bit. He never wants to take me, he only take me if his boys are bring new dates and then I'm "allowed" to go. Last year we ended up breaking up for 6 months because of that, he came back to me and put a ring on my finger and told me he would do better and that he will calm down. I agreed, because I don't care that he parties with his boys, but damn bro, every weekend. No married man should be in the clubs and bars every weekend. Thats what single men/women do. Like I said before I do not mind that he goes out, just tone it down. Maybe like 1 time a week, shit...

Anyway, he was a partier back in the day before I met him, and then we got together he would only go out like once every 2 months, so I thought he had out grew it. Last year is when he picked up on the parting hard and he is 32 years of age and his friends are younger than 25 years of age. Thats a big age different, especially with men.

But he takes good care of me, I do not work and he pays all the bills. So, yes I do understand a man needing to have male bonding time and enjoy his life, since he works so much.

But all my friends are grown and have families. We go out for some wine like once every month or two, majority of the time they are with their husbands and kids. I don't have many friends and my husband I do not have kids either. So, I'm home alone every weekend from 10p-4a. And I'm tired of it.

Also, I tried to communicate..DOES NOT WORK, all he ends up saying is my stressing him out and I'm becoming a burden. So, expressing how I feel doesn't seem to be the trick.

Has any of you guys experience kind of behavior with your husbands and what did you guys do?

The best way to get an Aries attention about their behaviour, it start acting like them. You do you, cuz that's what he's doing. No need for you to sit home, you have no kids to take care of. Once you start acting like him and need money to do what he's doin, he'll see. Or get a job and do your own independence, go to happy hour with co workers and get some hobbies, he will see the action not words.

What are his placements?