Aries Male/ Aqua-Pisces Cusp Friends...ugh

So, I have this close friend, whom I've vented about not too long ago. His friendship is equal parts of fun, enjoyable, annoying and crazy. We've been friends with benefits for 7 years now. I don't want anything more then friendship, he hasn't expressed he has either. We go through a never ending cycle of great, then we get on each others nerves... we have sex, and then all is good again. Would that be considered sexual tension?

In addition to, we are both so stubborn. He always wants stuff done his way, on his terms, and he is always right. Which, this is how he is, no harm no foul. Unless it's something hugely offensive, I could care less. Today, he went off on a tangent. We're going away with some friends for New Years, and I'm doing the cooking. So, I put together a list of things I need for when I go to the store. He said he is going anyways, and to just give him the list. I told him that it would be easier if I went on my own or if I went with him, because he won't know what half the stuff is on there, and asked which he preferred. He then went off on a tangent and started sending all these texts about how he wants to pay for it, and for me to send him the list and and if I go on my own, no one will pay me. Then he said he won't have room for it in his car. Sheesus buddy. Sure, I could've given him the list, but then I would have been assed out when we got to the cabin and half the stuff was missing. So, I just went on my own and got it. So annoying. He said I was making a big deal out of it and blah blah blah. Dude buddy, either I go with you or I go on my own. I will tell you how much it comes to and you can give me money...I'm cooking, I know what to get, it's that easy. This Aries drives me up the wall. He doesn't understand compromise, doesn't realize that I'm not going to bow down and do whatever he wants when he wants it or because he acts like a 5-year old. I think after all these years of friendship, I'm coming to a head here. I need a break.

I understand where you're coming from. The best thing you can do is just tell him how you feel. If you're going to continue to be his friend, let him take the lead. That's what he wants. He seems like he wants to do a lot for you. I just think it's the way that he does it, that bothers you, but he's an aries, there's no changing him. He'll compromise if he really cares for you. He's just wants to be the boss and I don't see anything wrong with that.

And it seems like you want to be more than friends?

I hear ya. I've learned to let him take the lead, for the most part, but if it's something that I am doing, for example cooking, then it's my thing. Thank you for giving me a different perspective. I guess we both made it equally as complicated. And you're right, he was just trying to do something nice, but I took it as he was being difficult, because if he wanted to do it for me, then he would have selected either of the 2 options I gave him, since I made it clear that I wanted to be present. However, he turned into a brat because I wouldn't give him the list to go on his own. Hmmmm, interesting. He wants to do a lot for me, but that's just the way he does it. I never looked at it that way, just figured he was being difficult because I wasn't letting him have his way. I was just expecting a simple "sure, go on your own if it's easier and I'll give you money later" or "just come with me then" but you're right, he's an aries and thats just how he does things. Next time I'll just say screw it, it really is just food, I guess I can get pretty anal about things myself. Na, I don't want to be more than friends.

Holy cow. I just realized I never let him do anything nice for me. He suggested a nice place for lunch the other day, and I insisted on paying since it was my turn. Wow. I'm emasculating him. He also has a lot of money, so I suppose I try to overcompensate so he doesn't think I would ever take advantage of that. Youzers, you really opened my eyes on this one. Where do I start? How do I not emasculate him and let him do nice things for me... sheesus.