Being friends with a married man

So one of my good sag friends is married. We've never flirted, even when I didn't know he was married. He's just a cool, laid back guy who likes a lot of the same things I do.

Anywho, we added each other on fb then out of nowhere he deletes me. Me and my sister think it's because him and his wife share and account and that's why it was deleted, or she made him delete me. He's too nice to just delete me for no reason. And I totally understand her not wanting him to talk to me. We were private messaging each other after all. This was before I knew he was married. Even so none of the messages were bad, just stuff about the game we both play.

Well we were working together this saturday and he asked me if I had a google+ and I told him he should add me. Idk maybe his wife doesn't know about it and that's why he asked to add me. Honestly if I were married I'd have no problem with my husband having female friends on fb. I'd just want him to be open about what he was talking to them about.

I'm actually glad he asked to add me because there's a game that's coming out next year and we both want to kill stuff together so I'd like to stay in contact with him till then. Or at least know I can contact him when the game is out cus Idk if I'll still be working with him then and I'm not going to ask for his number.

How do you guys feel or how would you feel about this situation if your spouse was adding the opposite sex to their social network to keep contact? Or even just being friends with the opposite sex? (obviously not hanging out alone)

Im sure she had something to do with it, and for him not to get in any kind of trouble deleted you. She must know that you guys are friends. She is probrably jealous. Seriously, if you were married I think you would be a little suspicious of the women your husband chats with. It could be that you might be a potential threat to their relationship. If he kept his marriage secret from you then he might also keep you secret from her. Maybe once she gets to know you she might get comfortable with him talking to you.

Posted by paranormalbadgirl
Im sure she had something to do with it, and for him not to get in any kind of trouble deleted you. She must know that you guys are friends. She is probrably jealous. Seriously, if you were married I think you would be a little suspicious of the women your husband chats with. It could be that you might be a potential threat to their relationship. If he kept his marriage secret from you then he might also keep you secret from her. Maybe once she gets to know you she might get comfortable with him talking to you.

Yeah you're right. I think she is suspicious, and with good reason. I would be too if my future husband decided to PM another female. I think I'd be okay with it though if he let me read his emails cus I don't have a problem with trust. I don't know their relationships. Maybe she does have trust issues.

All I want is to keep contact so I can have someone I know play this game with me. Idk if I'll even meet her or get to know her. As it is I only see this guy at work.

lol do you like run toward drama?

Posted by everevolvingepithet
Surely gamers are ten a penny/not that hard to com across though ?
Why this particular guy ?

We're both interested in the same game. I'll make some friends on a new game, but it's much funner when you know the people outside of the game so communication is easier.

Posted by DMV
lol do you like run toward drama?

If that were the case I would have asked him to hang out with me privately or asked him why he deleted me from facebook. I'm aware of how wives can get. Doesn't mean I can't have a friend who's married.

Then again trust is a hard thing for people these days :/ I know cus I've been there.

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Posted by happykitsune
How do you guys feel or how would you feel about this situation if your spouse was adding the opposite sex to their social network to keep contact? Or even just being friends with the opposite sex? (obviously not hanging out alone)

Hopefully, I'd be alright.

But if sb deleted me, I wouldn't, I don't need such 'friends'.

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I really don't think it was him who deleted me. If he had he probably wouldn't have talked to me afterwards

I would likely end the friendship, as it were ... and change the terms to include his wife as my friend, and hopefully she would come to trust me.

I think a wife being jealous of a female friend of her man is silly .. however, her being silly isn't what would motivate my decision .... I would do it because I cared for my friend.

His place is with her, that's where his loyalty lies .. so I would dissolve my association as it was for him, so he wouldn't even be put in the situation where he had to be explaining himself to a jealous wife.


If I cared about him .... then the sacrifice would be made.


There's no fucking way I would so selfish and self-absorbed that I would put him in a position to even go against his partner ...

Eh, no reason to pursue a friendship with the guy if its only going to cause trouble in his household. You can play a game w/ anyone. Stay deleted.

Posted by P-Angel
I would likely end the friendship, as it were ... and change the terms to include his wife as my friend, and hopefully she would come to trust me.

I think a wife being jealous of a female friend of her man is silly .. however, her being silly isn't what would motivate my decision .... I would do it because I cared for my friend.

His place is with her, that's where his loyalty lies .. so I would dissolve my association as it was for him, so he wouldn't even be put in the situation where he had to be explaining himself to a jealous wife.


If I cared about him .... then the sacrifice would be made.


There's no fucking way I would so selfish and self-absorbed that I would put him in a position to even go against his partner ...

Right, totally agree.

I don't plan on hanging out with him outside of this game so I could see if his wife wants to play. Other than that I don't care about communication with him in any other way because I'd rather him not have to deal with his wife like that. They did make vows and that's their deal. Don't wanna come between that. Just want another person to add to my group to make the game funner.

Posted by Dreamer02
Eh, no reason to pursue a friendship with the guy if its only going to cause trouble in his household. You can play a game w/ anyone. Stay deleted.

When did I say I was going to try to get "undeleted"?

I was speaking figuratively.

Posted by Dreamer02
I was speaking figuratively.

I'm not the type who gets deleted 🙂

figuratively 😉

Posted by FireDragonScorpio
omg. you are truly unbelievable!!!!!

i've lost patience now. what's the fucking point in expressing views and opinions about your threads when you have no desire to hear anything other than what you want to hear.

it's seriously getting ridiculous happy. if a married man is talking to you and it becomes apparent that his wife is not happy with private messages with a randome stranger then you should LEAVE HIM THE FUCK ALONE!!!

what kind of woman are you?? try and put yourself in her shoes if that's possible and stop enjoying the shit you're stirring between them.

and yet again....what the fuck happened to god—??

i think you might need help.

Oh dayum....

Everyone keeps posting about this.

I just really think it's impossible for men and woman to be friends.

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Posted by paranormalbadgirl
Im sure she had something to do with it, and for him not to get in any kind of trouble deleted you. She must know that you guys are friends. She is probrably jealous. Seriously, if you were married I think you would be a little suspicious of the women your husband chats with. It could be that you might be a potential threat to their relationship. If he kept his marriage secret from you then he might also keep you secret from her. Maybe once she gets to know you she might get comfortable with him talking to you.

Yeah you're right. I think she is suspicious, and with good reason. I would be too if my future husband decided to PM another female. I think I'd be okay with it though if he let me read his emails cus I don't have a problem with trust. I don't know their relationships. Maybe she does have trust issues.

All I want is to keep contact so I can have someone I know play this game with me. Idk if I'll even meet her or get to know her. As it is I only see this guy at work.

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How can you say you trust someone when you want to read through their emails?

Posted by FireDragonScorpio
i only just learnt it from watching TOWIE. i was sick and unable to operate the remote. still not entirely sure what it means but i think you have to be from essex to get into that particular flow.

After I finished RAOTFLMFAO because this just sounded funny (I have no idea what TOWIE is ? Secret Adventures of a Tow Truck Driver? and no idea what ailment renders one incapable of operating the remote...) I goggled 'reem' and got:

"This word means; I'm a total dick that watches a shit program and then insists on quoting things from it in my own life."



Hello, my name is Aries and I am easily amused🙂

que?

have i got a puncture asian problem in there?

fingers always = Fawlty Towers for me

"Manuel - let me explain"

Posted by everevolvingepithet
Hahahah
You've lost me on the puncturing Asians thing though.

don't mention the war

sorry, I was getting into Fawlty Towers mode