@MyStarsShine
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Explination about my topic regarding my fiancé
.....you will be deceiving your family if you marry him and not tell them he's an abuser.
Just to clear everything to everyone here
That im not a liar or troll like so many people accusing me.
I am really here bcz i need help
Maybe i came to the wrong place
Im desprate and i can't find anyone to talk with.
I tried to talk with my sister
Trying to explain to her that i wanna back off
But she told me not to and i have to be responsable and assume my choices
Not after that everyone are ready and people reserved tikets to come and u come wanna cancel the wedding
She accused me of childlish
And not responsable
From the other side
My fiancè is treating me bac
Verbaly abusing me
Calling me names
But he is mantaining a good image infront of my family
My family loves him
But they don't know how is treating me
I tried to tell my sister but my sister thought im lying just to back off.
Im sad i cry
Most of the time i want to run
I see my mum
My aunt preparing for my wedding
Buying gifst and new dresses
Everyone is happy expect me.
I wanna run
But i don't wanna lose my family
And decieve them
And some people here are making fun of me
And accusing me of troll
Which is i don't know what does it even mean.
welcome back whoever you are 🙂
dont give up, its a nice match
Eh dxp is absolutely not the place to come to for support, in that you are correct. Your story does seem suspect though. Nevertheless, giving the benefit of the doubt, I think he is hiding something. You need to get to the bottom of it before you marry him.
Yes i guess i came to the wrong place
I was looking for english forums to speak about my relationship
I found this one but i didn't know people will make fun of me
Or accuse me of liar
If you're not comfortable telling your family or whatever, honestly I say F it, just don't show up ~
This is your life we're talking about
Marriage is very serious
Seriously thinking of doing that.
If you're not comfortable telling your family or whatever, honestly I say F it, just don't show up ~
This is your life we're talking about
Marriage is very serious
Seriously thinking of doing that.
Do you have the priests number/contact information? He is religious. Tell him everything. And then tell him to purposely not show up on the day of the wedding.
If all else fails, fake a fricking sickness and get your ass to the hospital.
LOOOOOOOOOL
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I have money and i can plan to leave and travel all im concerned about is my mum
My family i might lose them for good
And they might never forgive me.
I love my family and i hate my impulsive decisions to get married
I never thought for once i will be facing this kind of problem
If it's not cultural or religious thing what is then? Though i knew some peasants who wanted a virgin for some reason and was not pressured by familly but it was their choice. So yeah get out of it.
No he just showed me his true colors after we got engaged and after he set the date.
If you're not comfortable telling your family or whatever, honestly I say F it, just don't show up ~
This is your life we're talking about
Marriage is very serious
Seriously thinking of doing that.
Do you have the priests number/contact information? He is religious. Tell him everything. And then tell him to purposely not show up on the day of the wedding.
If all else fails, fake a fricking sickness and get your ass to the hospital.
LOOOOOOOOOL
I have money and i can plan to leave and travel all im concerned about is my mum
My family i might lose them for good
And they might never forgive me.
I love my family and i hate my impulsive decisions to get married
I never thought for once i will be facing this kind of problem
Your mom will always love you and you will never lose your family. Don't be delusional.
Go take a trip somewhere. Get out of there. Stop thinking about what other people want. Do you want to marry an abuser? This is your life, not your families life. You are a grown woman. You have to take matters into your hands for the sake of your well-being and future.
Your parents and family will cool down and understand eventually. Come back in 6 months if you have to. Who cares? Don't marry a loser.
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Yes i was thîinking the same
I hope my mum will forgive me.
Thank u for ur help
And for ur support
And for believing me.
I send u love liight and peace
In few days is the new moôn
I will meditate and send u many many positive vibes and peace.
If it's not cultural or religious thing what is then? Though i knew some peasants who wanted a virgin for some reason and was not pressured by familly but it was their choice. So yeah get out of it.
No he just showed me his true colors after we got engaged and after he set the date.
Better now then after. Still got a chance to get out without concequences.
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Thank u dear for the support
I will try to update u in two months from now
Sending lots of love and peace
Eh dxp is absolutely not the place to come to for support, in that you are correct. Your story does seem suspect though. Nevertheless, giving the benefit of the doubt, I think he is hiding something. You need to get to the bottom of it before you marry him.
Yes i guess i came to the wrong place
I was looking for english forums to speak about my relationship
I found this one but i didn't know people will make fun of me
Or accuse me of liar
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Why an English forum and not one in your native language?
Be strong. If he is abusive now then it will only get worse after you're married. Don't marry because you don't want to disappoint your family. This is your life and your happiness. If they love you they would want you to be happy. Follow what feels right in your heart. ❤
Marrying him would be a big mistake. Don't do it because of obligations or you would regret it.
Yes i feel so happy now that so many encourage me to back off.
And yes i will not do it.
Anyway it was a mistake when i said yes.
Im not a marrying type
I love freedom .
Thank u thank u for ur lovely words
And thx for the support
Eh dxp is absolutely not the place to come to for support, in that you are correct. Your story does seem suspect though. Nevertheless, giving the benefit of the doubt, I think he is hiding something. You need to get to the bottom of it before you marry him.
Yes i guess i came to the wrong place
I was looking for english forums to speak about my relationship
I found this one but i didn't know people will make fun of me
Or accuse me of liar
Why an English forum and not one in your native language?
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Bcz i can speak openly about it and no one will understand espacialy him
Eh dxp is absolutely not the place to come to for support, in that you are correct. Your story does seem suspect though. Nevertheless, giving the benefit of the doubt, I think he is hiding something. You need to get to the bottom of it before you marry him.
Yes i guess i came to the wrong place
I was looking for english forums to speak about my relationship
I found this one but i didn't know people will make fun of me
Or accuse me of liar
Why an English forum and not one in your native language?
Bcz i can speak openly about it and no one will understand espacialy him
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So he's verbally abusing you as well as hiding his tackle from you?
Your family love you and want you to be happy? Talk to your mum and tell her he is abusing you...and that you have fears around marrying him
Be brave....