Feeling indecisive about Virgo man

Okay I've known this Virgo man for over a year.
We had a class together, & he lives 10 minutes away from me.
For 6 to 8 months everything was perfect. We made eachother laugh, talked about a lot.
We have extremely amount of the same likes & dislikes.
Well when I met him in Sept, he broke up with his now ex gf again in November 09.
After he broke it off with her, he came and spent time with me several of times.
I cooked dinner for him, I didn't want to eat, but he made me.
He confessed a lot of his feelings for me first.
I hesitated everytime to do the same, cause I was afraid that he will hurt me.
But after awhile my brick wall that's around my heart started to fall.
We have several discussions about feelings.

In the month of Feb 10, I have been dealing wioth a lot.
1. Being my grandmother illness
2. Going on the 8 year mark, of being single, & letting go of my fears for this Virgo man.
So when I don't smile, or hugged him, or if I was just quite.
The Virgo thought I had a attitude. We had a little disagreement, & he disappeared.
He came back, & everything seemed just right.
One wknd he txted me stating he decided to go back with his gf.
At first I was confused. But eventually I got over it.
He still came over several times to spend time with me.
Then when I grandmother passed away, I called on him for moral support via email, and all he emailed back was "dam Dats Crazy".
I was immediately shocked that that is all he had to say. So I emailed afterwards saying "I'm sorry I even bothered, have a good day"
I then thought well maybe he was busy. But days went by, weeks. And I tried txting, emailing, calling. But no response. I told him I didn't have an atitude, I just thought he was busy.
He finally responded with well initially he wasn't talking, but he is not mad that we don't talk now, plus what I said to him "Sorry for bothering you" he feels that I had a atitude.
Now being a Leo my ego is crushed. I asked him, yes or no do he wish us not to talk anymore... Till this day no answer. I wrote him a letter, and still no feedback.

I not only miss him dearly, but I truly miss the friendship we built.
My question is will we ever have the abilty to mend this friendship? Or is it over? I heard he came by my job, but Idk if it was because of me.
What do ya'll think?? Sorry for the long story.

Someone else here had that avatar...and she also has a virgo friend...

Really? And what happened? Should I let it go? My heart is telling me no. But my mind is numb. I don't know what to think. I care about him too deeply. And I worry about him at times. I would just like some clarity. Because I believe clarity makes no room for indecisiveness nor confusion.

Sounded like things were pretty okay with their friendship actually.

Let him go but keep your arms open for him. You know what I mean? It hurts but it'd hurt a lot more if he stuck around you with an ill opinion imbedded in his head.

sounds like he was very clear. he's going back to his gf. if he wavered on that initially, it was a transitional thing.

the bigger question is "why were you single for eight years?"

Thanks Amandus...it is hard!! At times being a leo we question ourselves like "What did I do, what did I say" etc: Then those other times, I say to myself, I deserve an answer. Simple yes or no will be suffice.
By him not answering the simplw question, I also feel that the reason why he didn't answer me is because he wants it to be where as if he needs my help etc: It wouldn't be so awkward in coming to me and asking for help.
I read somewhere that Virgo men do that. Which in my opinoin their basically 'users'.
At night I cry, sometimes I become angry. Because you don't do that to a individual you call a great friend. Idk Amandus

TubbyScubby, I have noooo problem with him going back to his gf. I know of her, but in my eyes and heart. I see a HUGE difference when he is with me compared to when he with her. With her, he is angry, vulgar, doesn't laugh, doesn't really talk. I can see that she is clingy, kinda stalker issh. I.e peeping in the classroom door, waiting at the elevator for him, when he already left etc:
But I don't mind, that his perogative. I will never go back into a relationship, because whatever the problem that was there before, will still be there.
My issue is how can you just turn your back to someone who truly cared, helped you out when you was in need, comfort you etc:? Especially when your so called friend is grieving.
And the really messed up part about it, his best friend lives around the corner from me.
To answer your 2nd question: I was in a relationship for 3 1/2 years that ended in May 2002 because of domestic violence by a Cancer.
Afterwards I never been able to find someone that is worthy of me
Putting down my guard. Don't get me wrong but I've dated, but it never progressed into anything.
Until I met Mr. Virgo Man