Having problems with my leo husband ?

I'm a capricorn woman I've known my husband since the 7th grade .We were really good friends and stayed talking as friends up until high school . Junior year came around we finally got together he asked me out and of course i said yes. We've been together for almost 8 years now married for 6 years . Of course everybody has their ups and downs but now he's changed alot since we first got together . He doesn't really call or text like he used to when he's at work always uses the same excuse that he's really busy and can't talk . He compliements all the time tells me how beautiful i am and tells me he loves me and cares about me but his actions show me other wise . I can't really talk to him about anything cus when i do he get really defensive .I just don't get it i do everything you can imagine a wife doing for her husband .I cook , i clean , i wash ,i take care of our kids we have two kids btw i iron his clothes for work ,i massage him every night before bed and bed him if you know what i mean 😉 . I just want what we had in the beginning any suggestions with dealing with my leo i love him with my whole life i'm willing to fix whatever i can. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

Posted by cappy28

He doesn't really call or text like he used to when he's at work always uses the same excuse that he's really busy and can't talk .

Maybe he just doesn't feel like talking or texting you every waking moment. Don't you have any lady friends you can gossip with or something?

No we don't let each other have friends

I see.

Posted by cappy28
No we don't let each other have friends

Well, that sounds healthy....

LoL!!!

Posted by cappy28
...I just don't get it i do everything you can imagine a wife doing for her husband .I cook , i clean , i wash ,i take care of our kids we have two kids btw i iron his clothes for work ,i massage him every night before bed and bed him if you know what i mean 😉

What do you allow him to do for you...?

If i was married to my mother I would probably behave the same way is all I'm sayin'.

Posted by wagtail
If i was married to my mother I would probably behave the same way is all I'm sayin'.

Interesting comment.

I could see myself being similar if I was married, but I guess it does come across as motherly.

it seems like a "things to do" list too lolll!

why dont you allow eachother to have friends? i wonder....

Posted by cappy28
No we don't let each other have friends

WHAT?
Are you all he has and no one else?
Wonder why he is not so eager anymore.
He is fed up!

I am crazily possessive but even I am seeing the trouble.

Also if you text him next time - just ask this valuable question:
honey, are you fed up with me?

(coming from a woman of 22+ married to the same man)

Posted by MiZLeo
I have a friend whose wife is like that. Always home. No friends.no job. Obsessed with him, always around him. Doesn't let him breath. Yeah, he cheats on her all the time. She doesn't even know about me cause she is crazy. I never see him. Only can talk to him when he's working and she's not around. It's fucking annoying. He has to leave town to get away from her.

WOW! How did you MANAGED to become his friend—

Posted by cappy28
No we don't let each other have friends

Well...Hmm..

I'm half scorpio and ima kinda scared right now.

Maybe if you tried supporting and encouraging one another to have a life outside of yourselfs you guys might have something to actually really talk about.

This would make one kickass episode of 'Twilight Zone' though.

"We don't let eachother have friends"
...but then, how do they know they even exist? 😱

Posted by enfant_terrible
This would make one kickass episode of 'Twilight Zone' though.

"We don't let eachother have friends"
...but then, how do they know they even exist? 😱

lmaoooo im dead at this whole thread hahaha

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Posted by MiZLeo
I have a friend whose wife is like that. Always home. No friends.no job. Obsessed with him, always around him. Doesn't let him breath. Yeah, he cheats on her all the time. She doesn't even know about me cause she is crazy. I never see him. Only can talk to him when he's working and she's not around. It's fucking annoying. He has to leave town to get away from her.

WOW! How did you MANAGED to become his friend—

I met him when she was out of the country for 2 months and he was basicly living like he was single again. He called it "The summer of andy" he told me he talked to her b4 she returned home and had told her "the summer of Andy is coming to an end" and she replied "that's right, winter is coming" I have seen him twice since she's been back. He has to tell her he's going for a walk and meet up with me for like 15 mins in a parking lot near by. It's messed up. It's like I'm one of his mistresses but we have never slept with eachother. I don't even find him attractive. I just like him as a friend. Problem is, he's scared cause if he introduces us she might think we are sleeping together. Sooooo that is his problem not mine. We just text when we can until she leaves the country again. He's a Pisces haha...so the emo guitar playing pisces type.

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"the summer of andy" lol

Posted by MiZLeo

Posted by Gemitati

Posted by MiZLeo
I have a friend whose wife is like that. Always home. No friends.no job. Obsessed with him, always around him. Doesn't let him breath. Yeah, he cheats on her all the time. She doesn't even know about me cause she is crazy. I never see him. Only can talk to him when he's working and she's not around. It's fucking annoying. He has to leave town to get away from her.

WOW! How did you MANAGED to become his friend—

I met him when she was out of the country for 2 months and he was basicly living like he was single again. He called it "The summer of andy" he told me he talked to her b4 she returned home and had told her "the summer of Andy is coming to an end" and she replied "that's right, winter is coming" I have seen him twice since she's been back. He has to tell her he's going for a walk and meet up with me for like 15 mins in a parking lot near by. It's messed up. It's like I'm one of his mistresses but we have never slept with eachother. I don't even find him attractive. I just like him as a friend. Problem is, he's scared cause if he introduces us she might think we are sleeping together. Sooooo that is his problem not mine. We just text when we can until she leaves the country again. He's a Pisces haha...so the emo guitar playing pisces type.

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Honestly I am finding your friendship kind of disturbing.
Meeting in the alley and texting? It is exactly what I had done but I had never called it a friendship🙂
And I don't think his wife is crazy anymore. After all he is sneaking out and probably having some
while 'andy summer' is in a bloom.

Me and my husband are on the same page with things we've told each other many times that all we needed was each other and our kids .Our friends before we got married didn't have kids and none of them weren't married just dating .So me and my husband decided it was time to cut ties with our friends and i agreed .It was nothing out of jealous at the end of the day it's about family that's what i'm all about fuck friends i don't need them the only thing that matters to me is my husband and kids.

Posted by MiZLeo

He's a Pisces haha...so the emo guitar playing pisces type

His wife is a crazy scorpio btw

So, this is the man you've been obsessed with on the Pisces board for months.

You reiterate time and again that he is the man of your dreams.

so, your standards are this low, and you don't have any sense to know better.

how pathetic

Posted by MiZLeo
I have a friend whose wife is like that. Always home. No friends.no job. Obsessed with him, always around him. Doesn't let him breath. Yeah, he cheats on her all the time. She doesn't even know about me cause she is crazy. I never see him. Only can talk to him when he's working and she's not around. It's fucking annoying. He has to leave town to get away from her.

Are you fucking him?

Is there anybody with a husband who doesn't cheats? Like come on man nobody takes their marriage seriously anymore. I'm terrified to be married to a cheating asshole.

Posted by MiZLeo

He has to tell her he's going for a walk and meet up with me for like 15 mins in a parking lot near by.

So, you're participating in emotionally cheating.

You know full well that to meet up with her husband is hurting her .... and not only do you do it anyway, it appears to be no skin off your back.

My hope is that EVERY female in your circle realizes you're not trustworthy around their men, and shuns you ... because that's what cheating bitches deserve.

@MizLeo:

It's a matter of the integrity of their marriage. If he has issues with his wife, not girlfriend, but wife then he needs to be talking to her about it instead of sneaking off to meet you regardless of how much in common you two have. You're getting intimacy that doesn't belong to you. It goes to the woman he made a vow to. While you're calling her crazy, you only know what he tells you and not tye full context of their marriage. Just because he is willing to violate their marriage doesn't mean it's ok for you to aid him in doing so.

Also, no man is going to sneak off to secretly meet someone with the sole purpose of venting or "friendship." He intends to sleep with you, which I gather you are well aware of. By your own words, having plenty of admirers seems more important than respecting the boundaries of a marriage. Regardless of your intentions, there's a line you don't cross.

^ If the roles was reserved Ms. Leo your pride would be too hurt if you found out your husband was meeting another woman behind his back regardless of just to talk or "sleep". His wife have every right to be pissed he cheated on her.

You will see when Karma comes around to get you and please don't be mellow dramatic when it happens to you.

I can't read the whole thread.

You MUST have outside interests... you must be STARVED for adult

conversation, and he can't be the only source for that.

Goes both ways, but at least he gets out of the house every day.

Marriages where each party has his/her own life stand a far greater

chance of survival.

This ... the way it is now... is insanity.

Everyone changes and congratulations for making it work for you both... but sometimes it's time for change and life took course already... brace yourself and do what you want finally...

Independence and space could help and communication. If not ice him out k. Sooner or later both will envy each other, maybe...and don't have kids either won't help or maybe..

Oh my god. This is weird.
I feel shitty not finishing the entire thread. Scratch that. Fuck I don't like this situation at all. I've been through both sides. Not cool.