i feel so stupid....

So as many know; me and my Libra got back together about 6 weeks ago. Things were going well. (except for the fact that he sorta just moved himself right in my house with out discussing it with me) But for the most part I love him, and don't see it as too much of a problem.

So last night we are talking about this coming weekend. My kids are going over to their Dad's house; so these weekends are usually special for us. (sleep in late, go out at night, etc) My Lib mentions to me that his friends want to go bar hopping. Well we all know that Libra's are major flirts; and I know for a fact that him and his friends (whom are all single) have the goal of pulling numbers and chasing females all night. Of course I am not ok with this; but I try my best to keep my cool.

His excuse is that it's "just a game". It doesn't mean anything, it's all in fun, etc etc.

I am extremely bothered by this. Not the fact that he is going out with his buds, but the fact is that he is supposed to be comitted to me; and that means in FUN or not, you don't talk to other women. My Lib and I are deeply connected almost on a pyschic level. He and I tend to pick up on eachother's feelings immediately. We communicate without saying a word all the time. So last night; even though I was smiling and chatting thru dinner (as hard as it was) he knew that I was hurting. So later on he came around and tried to cuddle up with me and started talking about US hanging out instead on Saturday.

Although he's obviously trying to do the right thing; I can't shake it. If he wants to go out with his friends and do that crap; then the thought is there. I hate him for this. It's breaks my heart.

Why? Why does this guy smother the crap out of me; then this?

I think you should focus on the fact that whether or not he had those thoughts, he has picked up on your feelings (a MAN! wow! 😉 ) and responded to them.

Also, this is ALWAYS going to be there. Men are always going to have stuff in their heads that we might prefer wasn't there. Would you really want his unblinking attention 24/7? Or have a man who faniced you but nobody else? What would that say about your own attractiveness?

To be honest you maybe shouldn't be with someone who you think can hurt you so much - why are you choosing a relationship with so much inbuilt potential for hurt? Why is your self esteem so low that you expect him to heat? Why can't you trust him to want you above all the others?

Who does he come back to at night?

Are you perfect? 😉 Can you say you have never ever done anything he'd rather you didn't? Or that you never would?

Real people are vulnerable, make mistakes, move on from them... you have a man who can read youj, that is precious, and he chooses to be with you for now - but what makes you think he can't read the jealous and untrusting thoughts you have about him? I think you need to find a bit of support from spmewhere else cos you sound lovely and you also sound as though you don't trust that you are enough for a man to be satisfied with. Find someone to talk to and deal with your insecurities, cos they are what will drive him away if anything does.

Relax! It's YOU he is with at night!

aw ty ty for the love. i actually double posted this in the midst of my little cancerian emotional fury... *lol* i've put it back into perspective now and decided that i'm going to let it go.

ty again for the positive input

Yeah, let it go. He decided to spend time with you instead, and you didn't even throw a fit or tell him it bothered you that he was going to go out with his single friends in the first place. That says that he's choosing to spend time with you instead - simply because he wants to - not because he doesn't want to hurt your feelings. That's precious. Don't focus on what decision he could have made, focus on the decision he did make.

Resentment on his part for you might never set in .... so, all is well.

Yea I actually pushed him to go out. I thought about it more, and considering the fact that the first time we were together it was alright; I'm not going to worry right now. It's pretty far and few between that this happens. Now if he makes a habit out of it... that will be another story.

and on a side note... hell yes I am going out with my girls that night.

lolz

My Lib mentions to me that his friends want to go bar hopping. Well we all know that Libra's are major flirts; and I know for a fact that him and his friends (whom are all single) have the goal of pulling numbers and chasing females all night. Of course I am not ok with this; but I try my best to keep my cool.

His excuse is that it's "just a game". It doesn't mean anything, it's all in fun, etc etc.




He's such a loser. Why are you with him?

Does he pay rent?

No he doesn't pay rent...but he does cry while making love to her!~

lol@sweethearts

@ Gemini ; I thank you for the comment - because considering all the info given in this post, and no consideration to the rest of my story (my fault); in another situation yes you would be right.

But the truth is much different.

I never did follow up on this nite. After I had made plans with my friends for that night; he asked me and my group to join him and his and we all went out. He did confide in me after that weekend that he really doesn't like to go out to the bars much anymore (since we've been together) and that he would much rather be with me.

In fact this relationship has been interesting to say the least. My Lib is a young 25 years old. Although he has had many female 'friends'; he's made it clear that I am his first real love. It's pretty obvious. We are so close, and have become soeven closer these last 2 months; I feel even more stuopid when reading back on my posts. Truth is; I just didn't understand him at first. We have been inseperable since the day that we met, and since the day we've gotten back together. We live together (yes he pays rent, amongst many other things), and our work schedules allow us to have time of our own (which is important when you are up eachother's a $ $ otherwise lol)

So far, I am in absolute bliss. It will be 8 months for us at the end of May, and hopefully maaaaaany more to come. I'm keeping my fingers crossed. 😉

he's a wimp

sure. and this is the part where i'm supposed to provide some witty retort; and you and i argue for the next three days over the internet. slinging empty insults at eachother directed at grammatical errors, common sense, and over all intelligence.

right.

Lou baby, have you read the rest of the thread— SD and her Lib man have cleared most of this up already! lol

They are just going through the boundary stages...

Just a thought about the title of this thread, and nothing to do with the testimonies held within ...


i feel so stupid....



Feeling stupid is a good thing actually, eventhough it feels like a bad one at first.

Kind of like the saying ... I thought I had lost something, then I realized that I gained something.



Feeling stupid is the powerful feeling there is to make a person rise above themselves .. if all is going well, and a person doesn't feel stupid, then they just continue down there road, with no awareness that there might be something to conquer for self-growth.