ONE FOR THE GUYS

When you have had a brief relationship with a woman(1-6 months) but because you weren't on the same wave length ie:

1. you were hot & cold contacting her and she thought you should be more regular.
2. You've lead her to believe that you were together and she was special to you
3. you may have even said "those words" or told her how perfect she is

THEN for whatever reason you decide to end it all or she has put an ultimatium to you to seal the deal and so you've both parted...

Do you

think about her constantly, maybe fantasizing
think about her before you go to sleep and the minute you wake up, if so for how long?
does she occupy your thoughts daily?

Would be cool to hear from a male in each zodiac sign just to give some of us ladies an insight into your thoughts...

sweethearts,

I can't speak for every Virgo Male, but in the situation you describe, I MOVE ON...

Once it's over, it's over, and I don't look back.

Just to clarify, I'm not in this situation although I have been. It's just that a male friend of mine stated that yes he did do these things...mostly women here talk about, so I was curious to know if indeed men went through a similar thought process but were just stronger in the end and wouldn't let their emotions get the better of them.

Read the threads here and every zodiac sign has a women who has been given the HOT & COLD treatment so I just wanted to hear from men of each sign went through some of those mentioned.

Thanks for the imput DS, I realise you cant speak for ever Virgo but it's still of interest🙂

If I'm the one to break it off, I don't see why I should keep thinking of her day and night, before I go to bed and as soon as I open my eyes in the morning. So if she pops into my mind during the day, it's simply a chemical process in my brain...like if something reminds me of her.

Interesting so something has to remind you of her in order for her to pop into your mind. We (generalising here) just keep thinking of the situation and what could have been, should we have done things differently, did I do something wrong...A million questions! I guess it would only be if we still care for that person.

It's not as cut and dried as you enfant but then is that because you really dont have feeling for her? See I can do that if that person didnt touch close to my heart...

Hey Xo, you go ahead and ask your questions too. The heading is just to lure the men to give a response, hopefully from each sign.🙂

@sweethearts:

Why should I keep thinking of her day and night if I am the one to have broken up with her to begin with? Don't get that. Obviousely she has a place in my heart, and she does pop up into my mind every once in a while as I can't control every thought I have throughout a day. If I've broken up with her it means my feelings for her have changed, so there is really nothing to dwell about, but I will always remember the way we were. Does that make me a bad person?

Not talking about anyone specific here, just general.

I've broken it off with someone because I could see that he wasn't treating me the way I needed and that i wasn't Number one in his life. As alot of women here, doesnt' mean that my feelings changed for him but rather I couldn't see his changing for me so thought in the long run best to cut ties to save further hurt.

Therefore the thoughts went on for what seemed like an eternity...

Yes I get it every situation is different but from reading on here ALOT of women go through the same thing even though their situations are all different but similar hence the reason for my question to men...

Just like the book "he's not that into you" it's more confirmation and insight as to how you tick

Thanks for responding🙂

Think guys here are too chicken to answer real questions honestly...

Ok no takers, ladies should I plant one of these on a few boards? Which signs do you want feed back from? If any. Probably def Scorps...

Depends on the cirumstances, if I loved her, I suppose I would think about her after it was over. I normally dont look back however, whats in the past is exactly that: the past.

Thanks Dream, which one are you in the pic?

Funny how guys can cut off completely and GET OVER someone when ladies dream on for months even if the guy was no good she's still willing to take him back and try again. Hmmmm

Which star sign are you?

Like to hear from an indecisive Librian Male...

WOW you guys are really showing us here that once it's over it really is over huh? You have read the threads here and how the guys are doing the hot/cold thing with most chicks in all star signs.

So maybe my questions should be What is with the Hot/Cold treatment, what does it mean and are we wasting our time?

For instance as a Virgo if a relationship is going really well I might pull back a little so as not to smother the other person involved.....pacing the relationship if you will.

WOW believe it or not that really shed some light on the matter!! I would have thought it was a control movement a sort of tug-a-war. And funnily enough it's what I would do like in the case of friends when we are seeing each other a little too much.

Im the Shrek lookin guy in the middle, and Im a Pisces 🙂. The hot and cold treatment comes outta uncertainty I think, from either party. When Im about a girl, there is not hot and cold, shes my queen and thats that.