I need advice, post breakup

So I just got out of a semi-relationship and I've been real emotional about it, can't stop thinking about him, and going through all the typical breakup stages. Now I'm thinking that I messed up from the beginning by not taking things slow and letting the chance for feelings to really develop. We were together 6 months, but it seemed based around sex but sometimes he would give signs that he really cared about me. Isn't 6 months long enough for emotions to develop even if your having a lot of sex? I'm just stuck in depression right now and know I have to move on. Any input or advice? He was a Taurus and I'm an Aries. (Yes I know not very compatable, but I liked how he was and we got along well)

Posted by RelaxedAries
So I just got out of a semi-relationship and I've been real emotional about it, can't stop thinking about him, and going through all the typical breakup stages. Now I'm thinking that I messed up from the beginning by not taking things slow and letting the chance for feelings to really develop. We were together 6 months, but it seemed based around sex but sometimes he would give signs that he really cared about me. Isn't 6 months long enough for emotions to develop even if your having a lot of sex? I'm just stuck in depression right now and know I have to move on. Any input or advice? He was a Taurus and I'm an Aries. (Yes I know not very compatable, but I liked how he was and we got along well)

Unfortunately you did things backwards. When you haves before feelings, the guy usually checks out cuz he got what he wanted. Any signs of affection after are just to maintain what he has with you which is fuck buddy. Sorry 😢

Does a guy usually know that he just want a fwb relationship before it even starts?

Scientists say that your brain experiences something akin to a drug withdrawal after a breakup. So know that why's you are feeling is normal, and it will pass. The only advice I have for you is to keep yourself busy. Go out with your girlfriends or siblings and family and have fun. Experience new things like a live performance or concert, dedicate yourself to something fitness-wise. Know that it'll pass.

Posted by RelaxedAries
Does a guy usually know that he just want a fwb relationship before it even starts?

Most guys are wired to only want sex... They just happen to fall for a girl, and it's not with sex. That's why you got to get to know the guy and as he gets to know you he may fall for you... You will know this by him progressively seeming happier and wanting to see you more. Sex just interrupts this and derails this progression. Once you throw sex in the guy stops pursuing and the girl starts "expecting" more from the guy so then it creates an opposite effect where the guy runs and the girl chases.

Most dating relationships end by 6 months. It is a sign you two are not compatible long term. One lacks something the other one needs and/or has something that the other one dislikes. Some people use love as a barometer measuring how compatible they are, because they are not aware of their needs. so...if they are not seriously in love by six moths, they think they are wasting their time.

Has nothing to do with how much sex you had. Most couples have sex from the second/third date, on a regularly basis.

Has nothing to do with how many flighty feeling you triggered either. Obviously, there is novelty, excitement, lust, interest, ecstasy at the beginning of most relationships. Whether or not they last, depends upon what I said in the first sentence. And so does love.

It's normal to feel emotional post break up. Stop beating yourself up, over analyzing the situation is not going to make yourself feel better.

There could be many reasons - he was never serious at the beginning, he has commitment phobia, he actually is gay. You just never know what the real reason is. You have to learn to give yourself a closure.

I know you really want him back now because of the sense of loss. Write down a list of things you like about him and things you don't like about him. You will realize he is not as good as you think he is.

When you are the Dumpee, do not waste your time. Dumpees have both their heart and ego broken. They could have previously thought the relationship was lukewarm and perhaps thought of ending it. Once they get the boot, they rage about its ending though, like their future happiness depends upon it!

Mend you ego by accepting that one cannot be compatible with everyone!

Mend you heart by letting him go gracefully, cheering up and finding someone else.

It is called dating.

E.g. LOOKING for someone you are compatible with. FINDING is optional and most of the time happens after you kissed plenty of frogs.

Stop accusing yourself or him of failure, dishonesty or some ridiculous crimes, like some people here do! Seriously guys, get a grip! Not even the OP said he has done something wrong while in the relationship.

It is in everyones interests that an uninspiring relationship ends, so that a great relationship can develops. Including in the interest of the Dumpee.