Kind of annoyed

So I've been dating an aquarius guy on and off for 3 years. I am 25 libra he is almost 27. I've had my own place for almost 2 years and although he spends a lot of nights, I am still kind of annoyed he hasn't moved in. He has never helped with any bills, although he usually buys some food. I recently lost my job, and he said he would help with bills from here on out. Tonight, he decided he wants to go home for the night and he'll see me tomorrow. He still lives with his parents. He has his own bureau here with some clothes. I am just kind of annoyed by this. He said he had a long day at work so he wants to go home, eat, then sleep. I feel like this is just a vacation home for him sometimes. Am I wrong for feeling this way?

You're letting yourself be taken advantage of. He's dossing at yours because he can. For free. If you're happy with this arrangement with an on-off dating situation that will never go anywhere then carry on. If not then box up his stuff and he can cone fetch it. He doesn't owe you anything. Develop healthy boundaries.

Posted by AgentP911
You're letting yourself be taken advantage of. He's dossing at yours because he can. For free. If you're happy with this arrangement with an on-off dating situation that will never go anywhere then carry on. If not then box up his stuff and he can cone fetch it. He doesn't owe you anything. Develop healthy boundaries.

Thanks so much. I need out of this stuff. He always blames me for him being mad, even though I kindly explained "wtf" tonight you know?

Posted by kmri365

Posted by AgentP911
You're letting yourself be taken advantage of. He's dossing at yours because he can. For free. If you're happy with this arrangement with an on-off dating situation that will never go anywhere then carry on. If not then box up his stuff and he can cone fetch it. He doesn't owe you anything. Develop healthy boundaries.

Thanks so much. I need out of this stuff. He always blames me for him being mad, even though I kindly explained "wtf" tonight you know?

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I'd say he's selfish but in this case the situation you have means he's no responsibility whatsoever. He's not tied to you and he can do as he pleases. Which is the problem.

Also, you have your own place. With that comes responsibilities. He still lives in the nest of mum and dad. If shit goes wrong for him then he has a nice cushion with his parents. At 27, perhaps he needs to man the fuck up a bit but he's no reason or incentive too. You're 25, clearly looking for something more fulfilling and he's not offering it to you. If it's been three years and he's not stepping up then he's probably not that interested. Don't take that personally. It's not always the other persons fault. His life might be at a different path than yours. I'm sure he's lovely but if it's not happening then get those boundaries in. I don't know what works for you but him not pitching up when he wants is a start. Go back to dating. Take the key from him. Only see him at the weekend. If it's still not making you happy then trade him in for a better one! You're 25, time is on your side. Focus on you and a new job. Not wiping up after this chump!

Calm down. Breathe. Take some time out away from him to figure out your work situation FIRST and then decide if you really want to move on but try not to make big relationship decisions under duress.

Right now you are super emotional over your job loss and seem really afraid and frustrated at the moment but it's not his fault that you chose a man that you allowed to run all over you for 3 years.

Will he help you financially maybe but most likely not enough to get you through until the next job.

Figure out what you need financially. Figure out how long you can go on without working. Figure out a plan if for some reason you can no longer pay your rent or sustain your current life style .

You have bigger problems than him. After you assess your situation then you can dump him but before you do maybe start setting some firmer boundaries first.

Posted by kmri365
So I've been dating an aquarius guy on and off for 3 years. I am 25 libra he is almost 27. I've had my own place for almost 2 years and although he spends a lot of nights, I am still kind of annoyed he hasn't moved in. He has never helped with any bills, although he usually buys some food. I recently lost my job, and he said he would help with bills from here on out. Tonight, he decided he wants to go home for the night and he'll see me tomorrow. He still lives with his parents. He has his own bureau here with some clothes. I am just kind of annoyed by this. He said he had a long day at work so he wants to go home, eat, then sleep. I feel like this is just a vacation home for him sometimes. Am I wrong for feeling this way?

Aquarius in general are cheap cheap cheap. ESPECIALLY the men but the girls too. They'll use u and use u and will be defensive if u try to explain to them how they're using u or why u feel used. When they do u wrong they'll try to logically explain to u that you're being emotional. I have 3 Aquarius female friends and 2 brothers and while I think they have great qualities and we get along great, I'd never hook them up with anyone I care about because I honestly don't think they can be decent human beings in a relationship. I have an Aquarius moon and am on the lookout for any awful selfish qualities like that in myself bc the Taurus in me deserves love ❤️.

Ps I'm like 90% serious .