Leo female & 2 Scorpio males

Hi, I am new to the site/forum, but could really use some advice.. It's a a bit of a long story, and any opinion is welcome 🙂 So, I am a Leo female, with Scorpio rising and Taurus moon.. Have always been attracted to Water signs (had a Cancer ex for 2 years), love their intensity, sometimes find their emotional side a bit hard to handle, but God knows I can't resists them Water sign boys 😛

1)I started sleeping with this Scorpio male back in May.. something that was supposed to be just a one night stand turned into multiple encounters. He is just great in bed and our chemistry is off the charts.. However, I think I acted a bit cold to him a couple of times, mainly because I got scared of the level of intimacy we had..and now I am no longer sure if he would forgive me and wanna be with me ever again..He is so weird and I have no idea where I stand with him, he will get upset when i mention him sleeping with others, asked me if I have slept with others (i said no), wanted to start having sex without condoms (be exclusive?!?), was super excited to see me after i came back from vacation.. and then he would not text me for days or act like it's all the same to him. I never actually asked him if he is sleeping with others, cs I was scared and unsure..also my Leo pride affected me IMO..

Last time we saw each other he left my house quite angry, cs he felt that I am not reciprocating to him in a way that he wanted and that I am holding back and in a way I don't want him.. We have spoken about my complicated relationship history before and he knows I have been hurt badly in the past by my 2 serious ex boyfriends.. So i texted him 2 days after he left my house angry and tried to tell him that it's not that I don't want him or he doesn't turn me on, it's just that at this point I am not sure I am comfortable with the level of intimacy he wants, especially since I am not sure what this is and don't know where i stand (I am paraphrasing here, but that was the meaning behind the message) He responded that he has no problems with intimacy and he likes having a connection, cs it also makes the sex better.. I am pretty sure he has already slept with another girl, cs he wanted me to know that he has a 'friend' staying over for 2 days this weekend.. I didn't ask if it was male or female, I just decided to let him be and see if he texts me and wants to see me again..

^^ Atm I am stuck blaming myself for my stupid pride and for acting cold just to protect myself from being hurt, just cs I am unsure and don't wanna put myself in a vulnerable position again. Couple of weeks ago it sort of hit me that I actually cared and really wanted him..but I am not sure how to tell him and I am not sure if he would even care.. We texted while I was on vacation and he was so excited to see me last week..and the he left angry..

2. The other Scorpio guy is a friend of my closest gf, we met last Christmas and celebrated NYE together. He was flirtatious over text with me and very nice in person, but in the end made out with some girl at the NYE part. Also, back then I was with my ex, so I flirted back a little, but he knew I was taken and not directly interested. Couple of months passed, we had sporadic contact and kept on flirting a little bit over text... Then 2 weeks ago I was at my gfs house and we decided to call him on the phone and ask if he was joining the party she was throwing that weekend. He picked up the moment I called we spoke and laughed (the 3 of us), then me and him kept on texting until the party.. He came to the party and spent the whole night talking to me, giving me compliments, saying that I am everything he looks for in a girl.. I had a great time, we didn't make out or anything, I went home with my gf.. We kept on texting and now he tells me he wants us to go out and see where this goes and he is very serious and really likes me.. This came out of the blue for me and I have decided to not go out with him at least until I settle it with the other guy, cs I don't wanna deliberately hurt people or give them false hope.. Thing is that seeing how things are going and what the other guy is like, it could take months to clear it up between us.. and I really don't know how to handle guy number 1, before I get to the other one..

Fun Fact: both these Scoprio guys were actually born on the same date in the same year!!!

Help me please !! :/

Posted by little
...asked me if I have slept with others (i said no), wanted to start having sex without condoms (be exclusive?!?..... I never actually asked him if he is sleeping with others, cs I was scared and unsure..also my Leo pride affected me IMO....

I'm gonna address this before I read anything else. You add question and exclamation marks to the end of "be exclusive" as though you're asking us that question. You need to be asking him all of these questions and getting your status sorted. If for nothing else, to keep yourself safe from STIs.

I think it's quite clear where y'all stand, but until you have that conversation wth him any questions you ask this board is pointless.

Posted by little
... I think I acted a bit cold to him a couple of times, mainly because I got scared of the level of intimacy we had....wanted to start having sex without condoms

Last time we saw each other he left my house quite angry, cs he felt that I am not reciprocating to him in a way that he wanted and that I am holding back and in a way I don't want him.. So i texted him 2 days after he left my house angry and tried to tell him that it's not that I don't want him or he doesn't turn me on, it's just that at this point I am not sure I am comfortable with the level of intimacy he wants, especially since I am not sure what this is and don't know where i stand...He responded that he has no problems with intimacy and he likes having a connection, cs it also makes the sex better..

^^ Atm I am stuck blaming myself for my stupid pride and for acting cold just to protect myself from being hurt, just cs I am unsure and don't wanna put myself in a vulnerable position again. .....

First off, how are you defining "cold"?

From what I gather so far this man wants to hit it raw and you don't feel comfortable with that, rightly so. Rather than state that assertively and holding firm to that he has you chasing after him because your questioning and doubting yourself. Basically questioning if you should honour your own feelings. He's using the lamest line in the book and "anger" to get his way.

The only issue I see here is how you might be communicating your needs (e.g. acting cold), not the fact that you are communicating your needs. It's quite simple, "look we haven't discussed what this is or if we are even exclusive. Until then and I know where we stand and feel comfortable, you will need to strap up extra tight because we're not have sex without a condom". If he wants to sulk, tell him to sulk outside, you have things to do. Like wth. I swear this reads like an after school special....

As for the rest, go with the other guy.