lisabeth
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Posted by KittyKnitter
my guy has mars taurus and i have mars libra.
both are in detriment. i think that means they are not able to act as easily or as quickly as they would like
he usually sets his goals for us of what to do and how to do it. i don't always understand or agree with his choices. mainly because he is not clear why or how to do something. i need time to adjust. this bothers him because he is used to being in control and when i ask questions for clarity or for different approach, his ego seems threatened. he takes it personally. he can speak in a tone that is cold or harsh or say things that are hurtful. it's not that he means to be hurtful, he is trying to be clear or he is frustrated because i am getting in the way of what he wants to do. his intention is to settle the conflict. there are still times when he loses his patience and forgets his manners but by learning to think before he speaks when he is frustrated and trying to be more patient while i catch up to his way of thinking, this has helped us settle many potential conflicts before they got out of hand and his stress has eased. we both know that once he gets to a certain point, he will not act reasonably because he has mindset of being heard, winning the argument and settling the conflict once and for all.
i often get frustrated with indecision on how to act when challenged. first instinct is to fight back but leo sun with taurus sun, there would be no holds barred so it cannot happen. now we know that while i have a need to be fair and stay open, that once i reach point of being disrespected, i will shut down and walk away. and there will be no resolution, in conflict, i usually take a long time to decide what to do. i hate being bossed or people pushing my buttons. i have had to learn to control my temper. i now realize that once i make up my mind i act quick and accept the consequences and i don't usually beat myself up for taking time to decide how to communicate something i need to say. though my first instinct is to prove i am right or just as right as he is, i now understand why i feel need to fight fair. it hurts me deeply when he is frustrated because i feel like he has directed his anger right at me. i take it personally. never thought about the detriment thing before. we have had to learn a lot about how the other person deals with conflict and what bothers the other person even when we cannot find the words to express it. we have managed to find a way to argue with respect, clarity and fairness. but it is usually slow and painful process to resolve conflicts and it will always be hard for us. both of our suns are fixed. relationship is very challenging.
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i'd like to do a mars in Taurus topic. I don't know why they say mars in cancer is in the fall, or that mars in Taurus is detriment, like that of libra mars.
anyone have Taurus mars, and if you have it, what do you like about your mars, and does it make you slow and steady like a turtle?
Taurus is a very strong sign so when it's in mars too, it has a need (for the women) to pair up with men who give security and are responsible.
I think with men, it's the same.
http://astrophilosophy.tumblr.com/post/50192103161/mars-in-taurus
Patient, Artistic, Combustible
People born with Mars in Taurus try to avoid or postpone conflict. They will avoid conflict and do their best to live in peace. They may let their anger fester without an outlet for some time but when pushed to the brink they will explode. They have a temper. They will be loud, inappropriate, uncontrollable. When they do fight, they will most likely fight hard mean and violently. They lose all control of themselves when pushed to their brink.
They can be a bit lazy, complacent. They are the types to be content where they are lacking the ambition to try harder. They are very patient and can be the types to go after what they want by working long, hard, and waiting on it. They can have great self-discipline and can be very good with money. They have a very healthy sex drive and are masters of the art of seduction and foreplay.
Men:
Men born with the Mars in Taurus tend to be very calm, grounded and practical with a respect for beauty. They see the beauty in life and feel best when they are allowed to sit back and appreciate it. They are usually very choosy and specific about their clothes. They like to dress themselves up in high quality clothing with embellishments and details, but still very practical. There may be something distinctly traditional or old-fashioned about their style .
They may be the types to wear only one specific brand of jeans or he may wear the same types of clothes over and over never really changing his look. They love intricate details in their clothing and may spend lots of money to look beautiful and valuable. They can have expensive tastes but are usually very good with money.
Men with Mars in Taurus are sometimes very aggressive when it comes to their ātribeā or group of people they feel most naturally bonded to. They can be aggressively patriotic or nationalists. Men with Mars in Taurus tend to feel a very strong and deep connection to their foundation. Much of their drive and motivation is rooted in their land, history, culture. This often manifests as feeling the need to fight for their land or their culture. They often have aggressive tribalism of some sort and can be the types to be in territorial violence.
In general, men with this placement are not the most outwardly aggressive. They are more quiet, docile, artistic. They may not always be very athletic. They can be totally comfortable sitting around a lot and gaining weight. They donāt mind it. Though they can do very well at stationery sports like weightlifting, they often funnel their energy into creative endeavors that require more of an appreciation of beauty than a need for a lot of physical energy.
They may also have a talent for farmwork or any outdoor work. They may love to just get outside and work in the fields, doing heavy lifting, plowing, and tending to livestock. These types can feel most masculine when they are tending to nature in some way and looking after the land.
They have an innate respect for the earth and its life and its resources and feel and look very sexy when they work with it.
Men born with Mars in Taurus are slow seducers who often facilitate a long romantic courtship with their partners. They may leave little love notes and flowers, slowly working up to verbal flirtation and then the first romantic and passionate kiss. They are very romantic. They understand the art of seduction and actually feel it to their core. They donāt fake it. They do not give their love away easily and take great care in pursuing their love interest.
When they are interested in someone. There will probably be a long seduction process slowly leading up to the act of sex. When it finally happens, they will continue to make love slowly, diligently, passionately. They are very patient in bed and relish every moment. They can and will go as long as they need to. They want to make their lover happy. They usually have great stamina and are highly sensual.