My boyfriend played me!

Hello there,
I need help with this one.
Basically, my (ex) boyfriend went to jail (first time), last week. I was devastated it felt like he was gone forever.
So I tried contacting his family trying to get support (bail, etc). Days passed. He was still in there. I was trying my best to help him through this, I put money on the phone so we could talk...

Everything was fine until, he had NEWS..... In a nut shell he told me he loves me and blah blah mushy crap, but he also loves another...girl...

I was heartbroken. I cried immediately and hung up on him.
I didn't know what to say, I was hurt, shocked how could my boyfriend tell me something like this nonetheless, in jail...I don't get it...
I have nothing to say to him, I just want to never speak to him again and move on with my life, in peace. But I know eventually we have to face the music..him mostly. It's a good thing he is in jail so I can have some space between us without him playing his games. But THIS is not a game. I'm calling it quits, only thing is : I don't know what exactly to say..I know he's going to try and get some hardcore emotion out of me to try to trick me into believing his lies. But I wont, I need some advise...

I'm hoping someone can relate or knows a little bit of something about my situation...

He's a pisces 3/3
and i'm a scorpio 10/28

What if he feels like such a loser and that he let you down so badly that he made up another girl just to make you let go—
It's a bit movie-esque I know, but....

Posted by xygeneration
Move on. You're better off without him for many obvious reasons.

That I will do.

Posted by wagtail
What if he feels like such a loser and that he let you down so badly that he made up another girl just to make you let go—
It's a bit movie-esque I know, but....

I've thought of that too. I was in denial in the beginning...but those days are over! He's a douchebag I know I want to sting him so badly!!

You deserve better... Probably for the best!

I been in this situation a couple times. You're lucky tho, because i would always find out from different sources rather than my bf.

I would just let it be what it is. If he loves her too then let THAT bxtch pay for phone time & put money on his books. never let a man make you feel second to one or feel as if your in competition with another woman.
Js walk away girl, trust me. dont let the game go on.

know your worth

I'm unclear what you need advice on .... did you mean, you needed someone to tell you what to do? Or did you mean that you needed to have allies?

You've stated what it is you need to do ... so what is the point of this thread?




Wait .... unless .... are you hoping someone gives you an excuse to stay?

uhm two things would make me run

he is in jail

he loves another

Posted by LoveeStoned
I been in this situation a couple times. You're lucky tho, because i would always find out from different sources rather than my bf.

I would just let it be what it is. If he loves her too then let THAT bxtch pay for phone time & put money on his books. never let a man make you feel second to one or feel as if your in competition with another woman.
Js walk away girl, trust me. dont let the game go on.

know your worth

+1 this right here!

Also wow a Pisces in jail? How original *Pff*
Pisces are terrors I won't ever ever ever date one.

Move on though don't contact him, cry, beg, nothing you leave and you slam that door for good.

That fish is going to be in and out of jail. cut your losses now

kill him with silence and if you do speak with him ever again be as calm and collected as you have ever been in your life.

Posted by kalin

Posted by LoveeStoned
I been in this situation a couple times. You're lucky tho, because i would always find out from different sources rather than my bf.

I would just let it be what it is. If he loves her too then let THAT bxtch pay for phone time & put money on his books. never let a man make you feel second to one or feel as if your in competition with another woman.
Js walk away girl, trust me. dont let the game go on.

know your worth

+1

I was in a similar situation, but the other woman contacted me... I made a huge scene--NOT WISE.
What I did to get even made him decided that the other woman was a better fit.
If you just walk away and keep your cool, he will realize its totally his loss.
Don't repeat my mistake 😉

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In my situation i was at his house dropping off his stuff, his roommate let me in. He called from the county jail & i pretended i wasnt there. He made his roommate 3-way 3 different girls one in which was pregnant by him & i listened to every conversation. The bastard didnt even ask about ME, his gf of 3 years. I ended up selling all his shit & disappeared. He was "heartbroken" & pissed while i was balliiiiin 😉 Lol

Such a helpful group! I hope you take heed to the advice, I know I sure did.

Posted by LoveeStoned

Posted by kalin

Posted by LoveeStoned
I been in this situation a couple times. You're lucky tho, because i would always find out from different sources rather than my bf.

I would just let it be what it is. If he loves her too then let THAT bxtch pay for phone time & put money on his books. never let a man make you feel second to one or feel as if your in competition with another woman.
Js walk away girl, trust me. dont let the game go on.

know your worth

+1

I was in a similar situation, but the other woman contacted me... I made a huge scene--NOT WISE.
What I did to get even made him decided that the other woman was a better fit.
If you just walk away and keep your cool, he will realize its totally his loss.
Don't repeat my mistake 😉

In my situation i was at his house dropping off his stuff, his roommate let me in. He called from the county jail & i pretended i wasnt there. He made his roommate 3-way 3 different girls one in which was pregnant by him & i listened to every conversation. The bastard didnt even ask about ME, his gf of 3 years. I ended up selling all his shit & disappeared. He was "heartbroken" & pissed while i was balliiiiin 😉 Lol

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That's right! Run you your money!

Send him a care package

Posted by starlover
I do not think the lady was looking for advice??🙂

Actually, P is correct, I see her asking exactly that a couple of times:

Posted by SeriousScorpio92
Hello there,
I need help with this one.
I need some advise...

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Posted by LetltB

Posted by starlover
I do not think the lady was looking for advice??🙂

Actually, P is correct, I see her asking exactly that a couple of times:

Posted by SeriousScorpio92
Hello there,
I need help with this one.
I need some advise...

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***** UPDATE *****

LOL, THANK YOU EVERYONE WHO SHARED THEIR INSIGHT.
AT THE TIME WHEN I POSTED THIS BOARD, I HAD NO IDEA WHAT I WAS ASKING FOR...OBVIOUSLY I WAS HURT AND NEEDED SOMEONE TO HEAR ME OUT *SHRUGS*

IN ANY EVENT THANK YOU ALL AGAIN FOR YOUR KIND WORDS! I APPRECIATE IT !

I'M NO LONGER WITH THE PISCES GUY WHO CHEATED. 🙂

Posted by P-Angel
I'm unclear what you need advice on .... did you mean, you needed someone to tell you what to do? Or did you mean that you needed to have allies?

You've stated what it is you need to do ... so what is the point of this thread?




Wait .... unless .... are you hoping someone gives you an excuse to stay?

THANKS FOR YOUR OPINION !

Posted by starlover
I do not think the lady was looking for advice??

She is looking for empathy and understanding. We dont always want advice you know

A gentle sympathetic ear is often valuable as opposed to someone preaching at ya

🙂

THANK YOU FOR YOUR KIND WORDS AND UNDERSTANDING 🙂