Need help with my taurus woman.

Hello everyone.

Im new here.

I'll start off by explaining that I need some meaningfull advice from both taurus women and men.

Im an Aries man in every aspect that I can be ,emotional,impulsive and everything that icludes to be an aries. I have been with my taurus girlfriend for about 5 years. Its been constant ups and downs from both of us. A rollercoaster . I know her for 5 years and we have been on and off relationship all this time. We have broken apart for at least 4 times and lived together 3 times. For the past year ,since I moved out,we kinda are seeing each other all the time. Sometimes she dissappears sometimes i do,but the no contact phase usualy doesnt last longer than 2 weeks. From my side I can say that I have tried to get over her and move on ,but I usualy cant. We somehow end up seeing each other again. As far as I know,she has met other people as well ,obviously.

I know that I have made some serious mistakes and hurt her badly over the years,but somehow I manage to come back from it.

For the pasty year the relationship was undefined and we just kinda were dating and doing all other stuff ,it was a relaxed relationship with no definition.

But this summer I kind of came to terms with myself of what I realy want in life and understood that i realy want her to be by my side . (Marry her) . So at one point I started to change my relaxed approach,started having conversations with her about it being serious. I got the idea that shes tired of this thing as well and wants to sort it out ,but then she went to a trip and she came back different. I was starting to plan my ways to surprise her,spend loads of time together and make a future together.I got realy emotional along the way and I pushed her . She told me 3 times in the past one and a half months since im trying realy hard,that we should go our seperate ways ,but all the time she stayed and I somehow ingored the fact that she told me those things and kept trying. She always stayed and let me take her out on dates and to talk ,but everytime it led to her saying its over. I became kinda needy and clingy..

So the last time past week,i again tried to talk to her and it all went south. I told her i love her with all my heart and i will give her time and space,which she asked before. So we didnt contact for this week.

Now Im just trying to get back up on my feet and come back from the destroyed state that i was left after this hard time.

I started to man up ,so that she could see the change in me. Im now leaving her a flower each day on her door and a note with one word of the things i love about her.

Yesterday she called and we kind of met but it was obvious that shes distant.

I dont know what to do. I just keep trying? What can i do to prove her that i want this for real? Whats the best approach. Because i know i love her with all my heart and i know that she loves me too ,she just resists the feeling...

thanks in advance.

You should post this on the Taurus forum.

But you’re taking the wrong approach by coming on too strong and needy. Neediness garners the opposite reaction than what you’re looking for. And that’s with any sign.

The flowers and word gestures are romantic and thoughtful tho.

My opinion is that she isn’t sure about you. You don’t seem to provide security which is a necessity with Taurus people. And I think her interests might not just be with you.

hmmmmmmmm

first of all I'm sorry you are in pain but the past has caused this - but you know that

are sure that she isn't interested in someone else, if not, then yes, back off

one of those nice gestures a week would do - daily is overkill - but it's sweet no doubt - leave her alone and maybe she will start missing you and wondering what you are up too - once a week or so contact would do, ask her if she needs anything - something you could do for her

in order for her to see you differently - ? - stop the neediness and have faith which it sounds like you do - it will take time and you must focus on yourself first and make sure you are together in what you want whether it ends up with her or not - life goes on

“When you come to the edge of all of the light you've known, and are about to step off into the darkness of the unknown; faith is knowing one of two things will happen. You'll have something solid to stand on, or you'll be taught how to fly.”

the first step is on you

Thank you Aries luminary for your answer.

I am aware of that our past has created her doubts now. But it took alot of time for me to fully come to terms with my inner self,what do i truly want. And the answer became clear - her. that wasnt an overnight click or tought.

Now I understand that these gestures are showing neediness ,but its actualy the oposite ,as far as my mind goes. Im just doing the things I realy want to do for her ,but in the mean time i also leave her space.

I do not call her to ask if she got my gifts,i do not write her messages. If she wants,she calls ,which has been the case for the past 3 days. Today i even got a message from her wishing me a nice day.

I dont want to scare her away, I just want to let her know that I care about her ,but she has the freedom to act on it herself.

Im just afraid that If I back off ,then I'll lose her for good. Im trying to accept that aswell ,

Thank you tctap for your advice as well. Greatley appriciate it.

I didnt quiteget this sentence of yours - "are sure that she isn't interested in someone else, if not, then yes, back off"

Now,at this emotional state,ofcourse I have my inner deamons telling me that there is someone shes in contact with. She has been going out ALOT with her friends to night clubs ,house partys etc. (almoast to prove something or get back at me) .

I try not to think about the possibility of her seing other men,because it can get me realy angry . Once I boiled up so much while she was teasing me on this subject that i almoast took her phone to check if shes hoonnest. But i managed to hold myself.

I think she will get bored if i will just give her flowers every day,so i will just bring it down a notch.. But at least shes calling me or texting after she recieves them,that warms my heart and relaxes my emotions.