Q about a Cancer male?

Soo, I met this Cancer male a looong time ago through mutual friends. We chit-chatted for awhile at a party, then went our separate ways. We enjoyed each other, so we kept in contact via e-mail. We never really were too flirtatious, just a little innuendo here and there, but nothing too serious. We had great conversations about music, politics, art and just life in general. Most of all, I just loved corresponding with him. After awhile, we decided to meet up and hang out for a weekend. He and I live a few hours apart, so we figured we'd make the most of it. I had no illusions, and no expectations. I'll admit to liking the guy, and I'm sure he liked me..but I wasn't entirely sure what we were so I went as a friend.

We met up, and we spent the weekend together. No awkward silences, no nothing. We had good conversations, listened to good music and had fun. We cuddled at night, which was nice, but nothing more than that. I didn't want to try much more because it would've seemed much too fast for me. After the weekend was over, I gave him a call and told him, straight forward, that I liked him. Nothing too serious, just that I would like to spend more time with him..

It all got strange from this point. He had some vague answers, he'd say he liked me, but that he couldn't reciprocate. He'd say he liked me, but that he wasn't sure and that he didn't know how to deal with such things. It was always "I like you, BUT.." It went from daily e-mail exchanges and phone calls to zip, nada, nothin'...If I want to talk to him, I have to initiate. I confronted him about this and he said he was being "careful". I don't care either way, if he likes me as a friend I'd be perfectly content with that, but what kinda friend doesn't talk to you? I feel like I did something terribly wrong here. I, by all means, did NOT want to mess up a perfectly good friendship.. So what can I do? Any advice?

You're probably right. I just didn't want to feel like I did something wrong. After some thought, I decided that I didn't. I merely expressed interest, but I never asked for anything more than just hanging out again. I'm not really willing to sit around and wait for it to repair itself, and it takes two people to fix a friendship. I'll get over it. 😄

Thanks for the input!

Lol. That is likely! I would've preferred honesty over him trying to make excuses, though. Silly boy.

Does he have Venus in Gemini? If so... run! LOL.

But in all honesty Cancers are kind of clingy. If he wanted to spend time with you, he definitely would, and 9 times out of 10 he would be the one initiating it.

"He had some vague answers, he'd say he liked me, but that he couldn't reciprocate." He is probably attached to someone and is afraid of him getting attached to you or you getting attached to him and messing everything up. You don't happen to live in California do you?! A cancer man told me the exact same thing... situation was EXACTLY like yours... turns out he was married and hiding it all along!