Scorpio man and Leo lady

If anyone can provide some insight into this, I would really appreciate it. In October 2018 I joined an online dating app and in November 2018 I started talking to an amazing Scorpio man. He’s quiet, very reserved, modest, humble, yet at the same time strong, hard-working, diligent and smart. All of these traits are extremely sexy to me. By “talking” I mean messaging within the app and then texting. We sent pictures back-and-forth but not many and certainly nothing risqué. We didn’t meet in person until January or February 2019. He just seemed very apprehensive about it.

I have, I guess you could say, a fear of public speaking, but in many of our conversations we discussed our interests and one of mine is music. I mentioned karaoke and that I had never been and he said that if I went he would go along for moral support. So in January or February 2019, we met for the first time. He picked up a business card from the counter there and still has it to this day. Anyway, I thought our date went great and we ended the evening with a hug in the parking lot.

We continued to talk over the next few months many times a week over text. In June 2019 I made mention that I might be moving due to a job offer across the country but I wasn’t sure about it yet. At that point, we decided to meet again. We met at his place, had drinks, and talked. As I was getting ready to say good night, he asked me to stay and I did. It was at that point that we had been intimate for the first and so far only time.

Before I left that night, we talked for a little while longer and he asked me if I could stay instead of moving. Unfortunately, in July 2019 I started a new job that took me across the country. He and I still text often and have spoken on the phone a few times as well as FaceTime, And from the first few times we communicated until now he has consistently been so kind, thoughtful, and charming, telling me I’m beautiful or smart or sexy and basically how proud of me he is.

Personally, I have fallen in love with this amazing man. I don’t know where his head is at, and every time I ask him he fades for a week or two, but he always comes back. He has expressed interest by saying things like he must be really interested in me because we have communicated for so long. He seems to be the most communicative on the weekends, sometimes after he’s had a couple of drinks. I’ve been battling with whether or not I am OK with just accepting how often we talk and the things that he says to me instead of trying to have him tell me how he feels and risk him fading again, but another part of me feels lost. I have been around the world many times due to my career and I’ve never met anyone like him. I’d like to say that I don’t wanna lose him, but I don’t know that I have him to begin with. In either case, I know I don’t know everything about him, but I know enough to know that I want to know more. Any insight would be so greatly appreciated. Thanks for reading.

You met this guy twice, right?

So you've spent a grand total of less than 24 hours with each other. Maybe just 12 hours with each other.

Plus there was about half a year in between your two dates.

What exactly have you fallen in love with?

If, after exchanging messages on the dating app, he hasn't asked you out within a week then he's not serious about dating anyone and finding a relationship. If you haven't met up within two weeks of chatting, schedules permitting, then the guy isn't serious.

It took from October 2018 to possibly February 2019 to even meet for a simple date. That's about four months. A third of a year to get a date off the ground. Seriously, wtf was he doing aside from not asking you out and not going on a date? If he didn't want to date then he shouldn't have been on a dating site. What did he think was going to happen? The dating fairy would come along and suddenly he'd find a lady in his breakfast cereal box one morning? Jesus Christ.

Here's my insight. He's not interested and he's not available. There's eight billion people on this planet. He's not the only special bloke out there. Find someone who is interested in you, who is available, and who will ask you out on a date, who will date you regularly, and who will eventually ask you to be his girlfriend.

Meanwhile, check in with yourself because yo declare you are in love with someone after knowing them all of five minutes is a serious indication that there's something not quite right or healthy with your approach to dating and relationships.