capitalchick
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Shall I leave this Taurus? ...
I dont know what to do...
Sorry my last paragraph is unclear... basically I love him and Im not sure whether its worth waiting for him to return.
I feel like without realising it hes lost trust in his own judgement because his parents (who's opinion he values) think we're too different and plus he believes that in some ways he behaved in our relationship in ways that arent really him...and only did it to keep me happy...which he admits he shouldnt have done.
Ive reassured him that he can be who he likes, and that a relationship involves compromise on both sides. But its almost like he doesnt want to move forward with me because hes so scared of getting hurt or getting too attached to me again..
he says he doesnt have the "experience" to know whether our differences are relatively normal in most relationships ...but then he doesnt want to open up and talk to people and get their opinions so how will he know?
He def doesnt want to date or be in another relationship because he is in love with me and cant see past me!
What am I to do?
Im giving him space now, and not contacting him. Im away with work for a month and Ive told him when i return and left it to him...I'm done initiating and always txting / calling after him..
I guess Im afraid that distance will just make him drift further and continue to make these differences bigger in his head then they are in reality.
What do you think I should do?
Sorry my last paragraph is unclear... basically I love him and Im not sure whether its worth waiting for him to return.
I feel like without realising it hes lost trust in his own judgement because his parents (who's opinion he values) think we're too different and plus he believes that in some ways he behaved in our relationship in ways that arent really him...and only did it to keep me happy...which he admits he shouldnt have done.
Ive reassured him that he can be who he likes, and that a relationship involves compromise on both sides. But its almost like he doesnt want to move forward with me because hes so scared of getting hurt or getting too attached to me again..
he says he doesnt have the "experience" to know whether our differences are relatively normal in most relationships ...but then he doesnt want to open up and talk to people and get their opinions so how will he know?
He def doesnt want to date or be in another relationship because he is in love with me and cant see past me!
What am I to do?
Im giving him space now, and not contacting him. Im away with work for a month and Ive told him when i return and left it to him...I'm done initiating and always txting / calling after him..
I guess Im afraid that distance will just make him drift further and continue to make these differences bigger in his head then they are in reality.
What do you think I should do?
I think you just be on your way for the month, and if after a month, he is still like this, I say forget him. He is obviously not ready for a relationship as he isn't emotionally ready. Any relationship must have trust in between, if he can't even trust himself, what can he give you in the relationship? --DOUBTS.
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