Taurus Male And Sagittarius Female Hopeless?

Just curious, I know they say that typically it's not a good match (Taurus is too predictable and boring for Sagi and the Sagi is too freedom oriented for the Taurus).

But I've known this girl for a couple years now. I'm not the most sociable guy out there and she put in a lot of time to get to know me and get me to slowly open up.

At times things were going great and then something would go wrong and I'd close up and avoid her and she'd continue to try and contact me and eventually we'd talk again but as friends or whatever.

She dates other guys and they usually end up hurting her and she knows how I feel about her. She'll say that she's not looking for a relationship but then will tell me how she wants to find someone to settle down with but has her guard up as well cause she's been hurt so many times before.

I know she probably only sees me as a friend and always will, but I also get hints at times that she is interested in me in some way and I feel like she wants me to make a lot more effort to win her over but I'm really reserved and find it hard to be affectionate and show her I care out of fear of rejection and that I'm inexperienced in relationships.

Also kind of a problem is that I'm a full-time college student with a ways to go (made mistakes after high school) and she works full-time to support her 6 year old son and the father isn't in the picture at all so I'm sure she needs someone with a career and is more stable and ready to commit which I gladly would if I were in a position to do so.

She even talks about how she wants to get married and have another kid or two by the time she's 29 or 30 which is around when I'll be done with my bachelor's. Maybe I'm just reading too much into that lol.

She's a little older though (I'm May 6th, 1983 and she's December 9th, 1982).

I'm Taurus with Leo Rising and Pisces Moon. Not really sure about her rising or moon sign since I don't know her time of birth.

Sorry for the long-winded post. Just hoping some of you fellow Taurus can shed some light on your experiences with Sagittarius women. Am I just being stupid and being strung along to boost her ego when she gets hurt cause Sagi's don't like to settle? I've heard that once they've been through some things and been hurt they tend to look for stability and want to settle down instead of running around forever.

Yeah, I know what you mean. I've been hurting lol, loss of appetite and ability to sleep sometimes. I really feel like I should just cut her off completely but there's always that side of me that will be grasping onto straws hoping she'll decide she wants to be with me.

She'll ask to borrow money and promise to pay me back a little every week and joke about it being an excuse for us to always see each other or hang out together at least once a week. That's probably just her flirty Sagi personality though. I've always had bad experiences with lending money to friends in need though so I'm very hesitant.

She called me yesterday after work talking about how her sister was going clubbing and was thinking about going too. She knows I'm not very much interested in the club scene anymore and she said "What would you do if your girlfriend wanted to go clubbing?". I said "I'd either go if she really wanted or just let her go by herself with her friends and enjoy her night." And she answered "You should just go and grind on her."

We just got back from Atlantic City, NJ after going there for July 4th and she had like 2 hours of sleep before going back to work when we got back to VA so I think she ended up just going to sleep but knowing her she mighta went clubbing anyway.

On the car ride back from Atlantic City I told her how I was kinda feeling jealous about how she was interacting with her friends that lived there that we met up with and she said that they're just close friends and how I was doing my best to just keep it to myself and let her do her own thing and have her space. We talked quite a bit during the car ride and I laid out a lot of things of what I was thinking and how I feel which I normally keep to myself.

Afterwards I kinda felt like I mighta said too much and that she'd be like "Whoa there" and get scared off and start avoiding me but she called me the next day after work which kinda surprised me.

Damn I'm stuck... It's kinda like Palas and her ex, I tried turning my feelings to her into hate or something so I could have the drive to improve myself in order to show her what she's missing out on but you can't really change how you feel so easily. Not me at least.

She also always said I need to be more sociable, that I could get girls if I wanted to, that I need to step up my game and have more confidence in myself and things like that. Things that make me feel that she's saying I need to do that stuff for her.

Mutual friends too have said at times that I need to man up and make a move and stuff like that.

Yea, I've never been much of a sociable person, I have a few very good close friends and otherwise I'm very much a loner.

Of course, I can see the confidence thing needing to be worked on as far as girls I'm interested in are concerned (ie. her).

I've leant her small amounts before to help her out and she's been good to pay me back but larger amounts I'm not comfortable with anyway which is why I didn't lend it to her.

I do have my concerns that she's jus interested in using me for money just as she is in guy's using her for sex. I'm sure that's how everyone is. But back when we first started talking and getting to know each other, being a broke student, she would always treat me out to lunch or dinner and movies and things like that with me paying for her too whenever I could.

I like to think it could work if we both compromise and accept each others difference, sort of a balancing each other out but I guess we're not really on the same page as far as that at this point in our lives. I used to go out a lot and do all sorts of crazy stuff I regret doing and I'm more concerned with taking care of my responsibilities and setting up a good position for myself in the future as far as career and home goes.

She thinks the same way but I think she feels like she might've missed out on a lot by having a kid kinda early.

I don't know, guess I should cut her off, I have fairly good willpower for things but I always end up answering her calls sooner or later even if I don't answer the first few times...

Exactly, I said I tried to cause that's the easy way out just like you said.

I'm very introverted and try to analyze my own actions as well as others' even if I can be very off.

At times she used to call me and complain about her current boyfriend or guy she is talking to and nitpick about certain personality traits they have and things they do which is like the opposite trait when compared to me or she'd say something like this guy makes this much money and he kissed her at the club but she doesn't care how much money he has cause she just didn't feel anything when he did and she stopped talking to him and how she felt something when I had kissed her (she's actually my first kiss...). But then just hearing that she kissed someone she didn't know that well (I know people do this all the time, but I'm just more of the mindset that I get to know someone real well before I even kiss or show any sort of little affection like touching or hand holding) just really rubbed me the wrong way and instead of saying something like "Then why stop wasting time with those guys and be with me instead?" I just got upset and backed off.

Kinda rambling but yeah, instead of trying to hate her, I just had cut her off and stopped answering calls for small amounts of time to let myself become indifferent to her when I end up answering stupidly later on. There's enough to worry about as it is without having to go out of my way to actually hate a person. I usually just stop caring and become very indifferent.

Hate isn't a part of my personality or character. You're either on my good side or you basically don't exist to me or cross my mind.

It's like they say bulls take a long time to get angry and then they blow up and I've pretty much only done that once in my lifetime which sadly was in front of her when I got jealous which may have played it's part in scaring her from wanting to be in a relationship with me and just wanting to remain more friends which honestly doesn't really work for me. I think I've read quite a few other bulls in this forum say that they don't really do the friends with ex's thing.

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