
ChocolateHazelnut
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Posted by UnicornSag
Had my first significant relationship with Taurus guy...I was 18 at a time as well...same issues as well lol but we gt along eventually cause he was patient and persistent with me. Been together for 2 years and broke up but kept seeing each other for some kind of FWB thing...I thought I won't get over him for really long time...it lasted like that for almost 3 years until I ended it. He did attempt to get things going on a few times even years after that but I ignored it all. It can be a difficult relationship to maintain, a lot of differences in our signs so check first how much are you 2 on the same page. Also keep in mind they tend to have really hard time getting over their exes so make sure he's not still stuck on that Libra girl...

Posted by NevamoreLook I am 20 I have no real problem with this. The only thing is the distance that we will have for those two years. But I can't really start with this mindset.
Lol Sag & Taurus = only 2 years relationship to survive.
In which its a fact. 😂



Posted by UnicornSagThank you. I will really try this. Cause the way I act now is annoying even to myself haha.Posted by ChocolateHazelnutPosted by UnicornSag
Had my first significant relationship with Taurus guy...I was 18 at a time as well...same issues as well lol but we gt along eventually cause he was patient and persistent with me. Been together for 2 years and broke up but kept seeing each other for some kind of FWB thing...I thought I won't get over him for really long time...it lasted like that for almost 3 years until I ended it. He did attempt to get things going on a few times even years after that but I ignored it all. It can be a difficult relationship to maintain, a lot of differences in our signs so check first how much are you 2 on the same page. Also keep in mind they tend to have really hard time getting over their exes so make sure he's not still stuck on that Libra girl...
Thank you. I have thought of all of that. He says he is now over of her. It's been 3 years since they broke up and they had both moved on. He is not even angry anymore which is good.
The thing between as right now is more of a situation where we both want to know what would have happened if we had sex and a real relationship . Cause I remember and I think he does too even with all of those things missing we still had a nice time together and feelings for its other. I like him, I am not madly attracted to him physically but thats not an issue. He says he thinks it would be better if we were still together.
I would like to see how this would be too and I have been thinking of him every once in a while since then.
My corcern is that he knows exactly what he wants and is calm and stable in general even after I told him I would try again. He is so calm to a degree you could call apathy.
And I am impulsive, I overthink, I get confused , I change my mind every day, I get afraid of commitment and get bored.... Currently. Back then I wanted him like crazy. I go way too far in the future and worry about potential bad endings of things.
And I show all of this to him.
I am afraid I will hurt him again cause he is serious in general and I don't know how much I can follow and keep up with that unfortunately.
The only way to go.... Which he doesn't seem to have a problem with.... Is to just talk and meet probably and let things to flow if they.
In that case you have to learn to calm your self down and don't communicate all that comes across your mind. In general people will tell you to let it out and I tell you to keep it in. Why? because I know how that flow of thoughts can be for Sags lol you'll come across as a big pile of mess, insecurities, troubled and unstable. So instead of saying all that keep it to yourself but also control it. You can't predict the future or make it in certain way, no one can. But you can try your best to make it look like you want it. If it still fails well, you did your best, there's nothing to regret after that. That attitude also will likely chase away Tauruses who like comfort and feeling secured instead of chasing something that is unreliable and insecure. It might interest them for a while but they'll get bored with it. So I'm not saying to not be yourself around him but rather to control those urges and be more serious and optimistic about future. Being calm can only benefit you. It takes a lot to control all that but it's worth it a lot more than being all messed up and chasing good people away from you
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Posted by DMVYes!! I am already late for that mistakes to begin hahah. Thanks.
20 years old
Imo, a man and relationship is the least of your worries.
Get out there and sow those oats.
Travel, see the world.
Make tons of mistakes

Posted by NevamorePosted by ChocolateHazelnutYou guys are young and need to learn to get to know each other well. I know you already knew. But "cautious and unsure" is to me a good process to get to knowing each other better and either to growing of acceptance or not.Posted by NevamoreLook I am 20 I have no real problem with this. The only thing is the distance that we will have for those two years. But I can't really start with this mindset.
Lol Sag & Taurus = only 2 years relationship to survive.
Yes I get it and I can see it too. He is acting all calm and chill and I am freaking out on my own it's so funny.I send him contradictory messages and he is still kind and calm and logical. I will calm down sooner or later I am already better. I mean I get all this excimetement and I want to move things on quickly and right now. Lol. Then Cap stops the Sag. And I am here overanalyzing then..... Also Mars Square Saturn the same effect.
In which its a fact. 😂
But a good advice is to be patience with him as well. They are pretty slow movers to be really sure if this person a rightful one.click to expand

Posted by ChocolateHazelnutPosted by NevamorePosted by ChocolateHazelnutYou guys are young and need to learn to get to know each other well. I know you already knew. But "cautious and unsure" is to me a good process to get to knowing each other better and either to growing of acceptance or not.Posted by NevamoreLook I am 20 I have no real problem with this. The only thing is the distance that we will have for those two years. But I can't really start with this mindset.
Lol Sag & Taurus = only 2 years relationship to survive.
In which its a fact. 😂
But a good advice is to be patience with him as well. They are pretty slow movers to be really sure if this person a rightful one.click to expand


Posted by CvurkooI want to add my mercury, moon and Mars are in Capricorn in 12th....Theres no communication really. Its either shut down to the basics and casual or Pisces like intimate. .. That's how I feel.Posted by UnicornSagYeah, i agree with that. Its important to have balance. But with cap heavy sags (especially merc there) i find that they actually keep a lot to themselves so working on sharing the important stuff is essential too.Posted by Cvurkoothat's ok to say. I meant more those sudden mind changing things, mood swings, insecurities and all the rest...it's ok to state your opinions regarding relationship but Sags often say what we regret later so it's wiser to "sleep it over" if you know what I mean. Not to be silent about your doubts but not just say everything that comes across your mind and try to balance it within yourself instead of vocalizing everythingPosted by UnicornSagI disagree with this advice.Posted by ChocolateHazelnutPosted by UnicornSag
Had my first significant relationship with Taurus guy...I was 18 at a time as well...same issues as well lol but we gt along eventually cause he was patient and persistent with me. Been together for 2 years and broke up but kept seeing each other for some kind of FWB thing...I thought I won't get over him for really long time...it lasted like that for almost 3 years until I ended it. He did attempt to get things going on a few times even years after that but I ignored it all. It can be a difficult relationship to maintain, a lot of differences in our signs so check first how much are you 2 on the same page. Also keep in mind they tend to have really hard time getting over their exes so make sure he's not still stuck on that Libra girl...
Thank you. I have thought of all of that. He says he is now over of her. It's been 3 years since they broke up and they had both moved on. He is not even angry anymore which is good.
The thing between as right now is more of a situation where we both want to know what would have happened if we had sex and a real relationship . Cause I remember and I think he does too even with all of those things missing we still had a nice time together and feelings for its other. I like him, I am not madly attracted to him physically but thats not an issue. He says he thinks it would be better if we were still together.
I would like to see how this would be too and I have been thinking of him every once in a while since then.
My corcern is that he knows exactly what he wants and is calm and stable in general even after I told him I would try again. He is so calm to a degree you could call apathy.
And I am impulsive, I overthink, I get confused , I change my mind every day, I get afraid of commitment and get bored.... Currently. Back then I wanted him like crazy. I go way too far in the future and worry about potential bad endings of things.
And I show all of this to him.
I am afraid I will hurt him again cause he is serious in general and I don't know how much I can follow and keep up with that unfortunately.
The only way to go.... Which he doesn't seem to have a problem with.... Is to just talk and meet probably and let things to flow if they.
In that case you have to learn to calm your self down and don't communicate all that comes across your mind. In general people will tell you to let it out and I tell you to keep it in. Why? because I know how that flow of thoughts can be for Sags lol you'll come across as a big pile of mess, insecurities, troubled and unstable. So instead of saying all that keep it to yourself but also control it. You can't predict the future or make it in certain way, no one can. But you can try your best to make it look like you want it. If it still fails well, you did your best, there's nothing to regret after that. That attitude also will likely chase away Tauruses who like comfort and feeling secured instead of chasing something that is unreliable and insecure. It might interest them for a while but they'll get bored with it. So I'm not saying to not be yourself around him but rather to control those urges and be more serious and optimistic about future. Being calm can only benefit you. It takes a lot to control all that but it's worth it a lot more than being all messed up and chasing good people away from you
Before i started my relationship with my sag she explicitly told me that she isnt sure she can sustain a long term relationship and give me the stability i want.
I appreciated that a lot and i believe it was good she did it. Looks like she wants a long term relationship now 😄
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Posted by CvurkooIt could but I spend the last four days.... Overanalyzing i got tired and mentally exhausted haha. He said his side and I said mine. And he has started the conversations three days in a row now. I think he is taking this slowly and thats good. I am calm actually.Posted by ChocolateHazelnutIt seems normal but working on understanding yourself, how and why you feel and react and etc should be a priority. That actually applies to everyone, but it has helped me and i think it might help you to be more balanced ^^
I want to explain the exact situation.
Back then I was head over hills for him. It was so intense for me that with the problems that we had...nothing really serious more silly stuff and miscommunication... I wanted to break up. I didn't think that all this I was going through emotionally which was at least half of my own issue wasn't worth being with him. He seemed way less interested than me at least on his emotional expression and words off affection. Or I was feeling like this anyway. However his actions said he was there.
I was really stuck to the words.
Anyway after that I broke him up without really wanting to. I was angry and sad and didn't know what was wrong.
But of course I still liked him and wanted him and felt things for him. Then I shut them off.
It took me one and a half year of meeting other guys too, that I felt nothing like that, and I was actually looking for something like that.
He kept texting around 8-10 different times during this time space. And every time I see his message I get angry and I am like don't do this cause I need to forget you... And you keep coming up.
So some days before that he texted again I had the same reaction as always the anger together with desire to talk to him that I can't actually never fight. I paid a little more attention to this.
And the things progressed. We ended up talking and clarifying things about back then that we have never talked about before.
Then he told me he never wanted us to break up. He has told me that several times.
That he never stopped to care and feel attracted to me and that he thought that it would be better if we were still together. Especially cause we are both more mature now.
But what happened happened and thats it. He hopes I am better now. That's what he said.
Based on that I got the courage and risked and told him that to be sincere with you I would try again. It was like my last chance on this. Cause I have been thinking of that all of this time and an opportunity never occurred. Also I wasn't sure I wanted to occur and I never helped for it to happen. And then I told him that. He got all surprised. Asked some stuff to understand. And now he texts every day.
I was rushing a bit in the beginning to get him to tell me he would try again too but he didn't haha. He said he doesn't have something to say yet. Which is good cause he doesn't rush like me.
But he texts every day since then.
And I feel the same way all over. And I am wondering... Is it supposed to feel so intense and occupy my thinking day and night—? 😛click to expand

Posted by CvurkooHe is pretty good at it and very emotionally intelligent. He used to know better what I want to feel comfortable than my own self..... :pPosted by ChocolateHazelnutImo you need a person that is patient, very self-conscious and very emotionally intelligent and intuitive so that he can make you feel comfortable to open up. Hope the taurus fits the description, if im right about it.Posted by CvurkooI want to add my mercury, moon and Mars are in Capricorn in 12th....Theres no communication really. Its either shut down to the basics and casual or Pisces like intimate. .. That's how I feel.Posted by UnicornSagYeah, i agree with that. Its important to have balance. But with cap heavy sags (especially merc there) i find that they actually keep a lot to themselves so working on sharing the important stuff is essential too.Posted by Cvurkoothat's ok to say. I meant more those sudden mind changing things, mood swings, insecurities and all the rest...it's ok to state your opinions regarding relationship but Sags often say what we regret later so it's wiser to "sleep it over" if you know what I mean. Not to be silent about your doubts but not just say everything that comes across your mind and try to balance it within yourself instead of vocalizing everythingPosted by UnicornSagI disagree with this advice.Posted by ChocolateHazelnutPosted by UnicornSag
Had my first significant relationship with Taurus guy...I was 18 at a time as well...same issues as well lol but we gt along eventually cause he was patient and persistent with me. Been together for 2 years and broke up but kept seeing each other for some kind of FWB thing...I thought I won't get over him for really long time...it lasted like that for almost 3 years until I ended it. He did attempt to get things going on a few times even years after that but I ignored it all. It can be a difficult relationship to maintain, a lot of differences in our signs so check first how much are you 2 on the same page. Also keep in mind they tend to have really hard time getting over their exes so make sure he's not still stuck on that Libra girl...
Thank you. I have thought of all of that. He says he is now over of her. It's been 3 years since they broke up and they had both moved on. He is not even angry anymore which is good.
The thing between as right now is more of a situation where we both want to know what would have happened if we had sex and a real relationship . Cause I remember and I think he does too even with all of those things missing we still had a nice time together and feelings for its other. I like him, I am not madly attracted to him physically but thats not an issue. He says he thinks it would be better if we were still together.
I would like to see how this would be too and I have been thinking of him every once in a while since then.
My corcern is that he knows exactly what he wants and is calm and stable in general even after I told him I would try again. He is so calm to a degree you could call apathy.
And I am impulsive, I overthink, I get confused , I change my mind every day, I get afraid of commitment and get bored.... Currently. Back then I wanted him like crazy. I go way too far in the future and worry about potential bad endings of things.
And I show all of this to him.
I am afraid I will hurt him again cause he is serious in general and I don't know how much I can follow and keep up with that unfortunately.
The only way to go.... Which he doesn't seem to have a problem with.... Is to just talk and meet probably and let things to flow if they.
In that case you have to learn to calm your self down and don't communicate all that comes across your mind. In general people will tell you to let it out and I tell you to keep it in. Why? because I know how that flow of thoughts can be for Sags lol you'll come across as a big pile of mess, insecurities, troubled and unstable. So instead of saying all that keep it to yourself but also control it. You can't predict the future or make it in certain way, no one can. But you can try your best to make it look like you want it. If it still fails well, you did your best, there's nothing to regret after that. That attitude also will likely chase away Tauruses who like comfort and feeling secured instead of chasing something that is unreliable and insecure. It might interest them for a while but they'll get bored with it. So I'm not saying to not be yourself around him but rather to control those urges and be more serious and optimistic about future. Being calm can only benefit you. It takes a lot to control all that but it's worth it a lot more than being all messed up and chasing good people away from you
Before i started my relationship with my sag she explicitly told me that she isnt sure she can sustain a long term relationship and give me the stability i want.
I appreciated that a lot and i believe it was good she did it. Looks like she wants a long term relationship now 😄
You should also make the effort, obviously, but opening up without feeling comfortable and having a stable mindset can be counter-productive in some cases.click to expand

Posted by CvurkooThat's true. Thanks 🙂Posted by ChocolateHazelnutOh, yeah i dont think you should even think about that. Give him time. If he decides not to, which seems very improbable to me, you could move on easier.Posted by CvurkooIt could but I spend the last four days.... Overanalyzing i got tired and mentally exhausted haha. He said his side and I said mine. And he has started the conversations three days in a row now. I think he is taking this slowly and thats good. I am calm actually.Posted by ChocolateHazelnutIt seems normal but working on understanding yourself, how and why you feel and react and etc should be a priority. That actually applies to everyone, but it has helped me and i think it might help you to be more balanced ^^
I want to explain the exact situation.
Back then I was head over hills for him. It was so intense for me that with the problems that we had...nothing really serious more silly stuff and miscommunication... I wanted to break up. I didn't think that all this I was going through emotionally which was at least half of my own issue wasn't worth being with him. He seemed way less interested than me at least on his emotional expression and words off affection. Or I was feeling like this anyway. However his actions said he was there.
I was really stuck to the words.
Anyway after that I broke him up without really wanting to. I was angry and sad and didn't know what was wrong.
But of course I still liked him and wanted him and felt things for him. Then I shut them off.
It took me one and a half year of meeting other guys too, that I felt nothing like that, and I was actually looking for something like that.
He kept texting around 8-10 different times during this time space. And every time I see his message I get angry and I am like don't do this cause I need to forget you... And you keep coming up.
So some days before that he texted again I had the same reaction as always the anger together with desire to talk to him that I can't actually never fight. I paid a little more attention to this.
And the things progressed. We ended up talking and clarifying things about back then that we have never talked about before.
Then he told me he never wanted us to break up. He has told me that several times.
That he never stopped to care and feel attracted to me and that he thought that it would be better if we were still together. Especially cause we are both more mature now.
But what happened happened and thats it. He hopes I am better now. That's what he said.
Based on that I got the courage and risked and told him that to be sincere with you I would try again. It was like my last chance on this. Cause I have been thinking of that all of this time and an opportunity never occurred. Also I wasn't sure I wanted to occur and I never helped for it to happen. And then I told him that. He got all surprised. Asked some stuff to understand. And now he texts every day.
I was rushing a bit in the beginning to get him to tell me he would try again too but he didn't haha. He said he doesn't have something to say yet. Which is good cause he doesn't rush like me.
But he texts every day since then.
And I feel the same way all over. And I am wondering... Is it supposed to feel so intense and occupy my thinking day and night—? 😛
He said that he stills cares, likes me and believe it would be better if we were together but what happened happened and it's a pity but he hopes I am better and I told him that I would try again and expressed my feelings too. He is not going to lose this chance. It would be silly.
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The thing is when we dated back then the relationship wasn't sexual cause I didn't feel ready for that. He didn't push me on that. But he got pretty sad I could see it and gradually lost interest. However I told him to stop dating back then cause I felt hurt and misunderstood and I could see he was losing interest . He even made a slight attempt to get back with me 2 months later. I said no again. He actually had hurt me with some stuff and the open communication and matturity level was 0 especially from my side. We were both 18 but he was the first guy I dated and he had a 2 year relationship already with a Libra girl, his only true love as he said xD, that left him, possibly cheated him and had hurt him a lot.
So now there's a situation that we reconnected, talked and revealed some stuff to each other. But we are both a bit cautious and unsure of this. Of course it's way too early. I think of trying and see how it goes.
There's a small distance like 1,5 hour between us too nothing too serious.
What do you advice me?
The placements are:
Mine :
Sag sun
Capricorn rising
Moon
Mercury
Venus
Mars
All in Cap
His are.
Taurus sun and moon
Leo rising
Aries mercury
Taurus venus
Virgo Mars
The most of his personal planets are in 10th, he has a stellium there.
And my Cap planets are half in 12th and half in 1st together with some Aqua ones in 1st.