Taurus moon people PLEASE HALP

theres this Sag sun/ Taurus moon/ scorpio venus i adore.. i know Taurus sun people can be NOTORIOUSLY slow with everything, just wondering if that's the same with Taurus moon people because he is showing CLASSSSIC Taurus "i REEEEALLY like you" signs (super territorial when other men talk to me, buying me things that i genuinely love so much that they are some of my most treasured possessions, taking me on trips one on one, singling me out even with how he ignores me, stalking my social media, staring at me constantly even when I'm out of his normal line of sight, being very appropriately touchy with me in a way that's very different than his "bro roughhousing" with other close female friends) . except the guys is taking FOREVER; Im a Sag sun/ Aries moon/ Scorpio venus and my Aries moon is going insane since I knew i liked him from the moment i first met him, over 6 months ago. I think my Aries moon is also making him feel super rushed (Valentines day was not a great thing, made things awkward between us) and i want to know how to fix it if ive made him feel uncomfortable and rushed. i really hate that i may have pushed him; he is genuinely one of my best friends on top of being the person i adore.. I haven't screwed it up by inviting him for valentines day preemptively the way i did, have i?

we avoid a lot of eye contact really, both of us are nervous around each other. only on our last "date" did he and i make eye contact when i thanked him for buying me a gift. but the eye contact was beautiful and he had such a kind and happy expression on his face.

we share a lot of similar placements. I did a synastry comparison, and other than pushing each other too much and bad timing, we are very compatible. His Mercury is Sag, mine is scorpio, His mars is Sag, and mine is as well.

I've already told him months ago that i liked him, but when he told me he didn't like me back at the time, i started dating other people, and that is when i started seeing him react a little... and start getting closer any time i broke up with people.. but the way he acted, it was so innocent that i didn't understand he liked me until now. I don't want to make him jealous or to push him, but he doesn't make any moves unless i do something like that, or be the first person to ask if we can hang out.

Posted by whimsical_femme
we avoid a lot of eye contact really, both of us are nervous around each other. only on our last "date" did he and i make eye contact when i thanked him for buying me a gift. but the eye contact was beautiful and he had such a kind and happy expression on his face.

we share a lot of similar placements. I did a synastry comparison, and other than pushing each other too much and bad timing, we are very compatible. His Mercury is Sag, mine is scorpio, His mars is Sag, and mine is as well.

I've already told him months ago that i liked him, but when he told me he didn't like me back at the time, i started dating other people, and that is when i started seeing him react a little... and start getting closer any time i broke up with people.. but the way he acted, it was so innocent that i didn't understand he liked me until now. I don't want to make him jealous or to push him, but he doesn't make any moves unless i do something like that, or be the first person to ask if we can hang out.

“We avoid a lot of eye contact really, both of us are nervous around each other.”

As a Taurus moon this is all I needed to know.

He’s not comfortable with you...that’s the problem.

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we avoid a lot of eye contact really, both of us are nervous around each other. only on our last "date" did he and i make eye contact when i thanked him for buying me a gift. but the eye contact was beautiful and he had such a kind and happy expression on his face.

we share a lot of similar placements. I did a synastry comparison, and other than pushing each other too much and bad timing, we are very compatible. His Mercury is Sag, mine is scorpio, His mars is Sag, and mine is as well.

I've already told him months ago that i liked him, but when he told me he didn't like me back at the time, i started dating other people, and that is when i started seeing him react a little... and start getting closer any time i broke up with people.. but the way he acted, it was so innocent that i didn't understand he liked me until now. I don't want to make him jealous or to push him, but he doesn't make any moves unless i do something like that, or be the first person to ask if we can hang out.

“We avoid a lot of eye contact really, both of us are nervous around each other.”

As a Taurus moon this is all I needed to know.

He’s not comfortable with you...that’s the problem.

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he both is and he isnt.

he has opened up to me about a lot. things that i know he doesn't talk about to anyone else. i also have seen a wider range of his personality than most people.. and when hes being himself around me, OH how lovely he is. but youre right i guess.. its not always the case and especially not the last two weeks. i wonder if its me or his past relationship thats causing that (she was horrible to him)

how do i show him its okay for him to be comfortable around me? do i have to temper out my aries moon even more? work on being more open myself? i genuinely adore him for who he is.. and at the end of the day, Id rather us be friends than lose him over some stupid crush because i do love him. unconditionally. even when he is driving me up the wall.

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theres this Sag sun/ Taurus moon/ scorpio venus i adore.. i know Taurus sun people can be NOTORIOUSLY slow with everything, just wondering if that's the same with Taurus moon people because he is showing CLASSSSIC Taurus "i REEEEALLY like you" signs (super territorial when other men talk to me, buying me things that i genuinely love so much that they are some of my most treasured possessions, taking me on trips one on one, singling me out even with how he ignores me, stalking my social media, staring at me constantly even when I'm out of his normal line of sight, being very appropriately touchy with me in a way that's very different than his "bro roughhousing" with other close female friends) . except the guys is taking FOREVER; Im a Sag sun/ Aries moon/ Scorpio venus and my Aries moon is going insane since I knew i liked him from the moment i first met him, over 6 months ago. I think my Aries moon is also making him feel super rushed (Valentines day was not a great thing, made things awkward between us) and i want to know how to fix it if ive made him feel uncomfortable and rushed. i really hate that i may have pushed him; he is genuinely one of my best friends on top of being the person i adore.. I haven't screwed it up by inviting him for valentines day preemptively the way i did, have i?

My friend is a Leo Sun, Taurus Moon. Two scenarios tend to happen. ANYTHING that he's not sure that he wants, he's slowwwwww, even for my Taurus Mercury. The moment he decided that he wants or ANYTHING he knows he wants, he's faster at going for it than me by a long mile.

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so hes not sure... even though it seems like he cares hard core... I mean he definitely doesn't want me dating other guys... but he isn't sure he wants me.... that seems a little.. idk.... selfish?

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we avoid a lot of eye contact really, both of us are nervous around each other. only on our last "date" did he and i make eye contact when i thanked him for buying me a gift. but the eye contact was beautiful and he had such a kind and happy expression on his face.

we share a lot of similar placements. I did a synastry comparison, and other than pushing each other too much and bad timing, we are very compatible. His Mercury is Sag, mine is scorpio, His mars is Sag, and mine is as well.

I've already told him months ago that i liked him, but when he told me he didn't like me back at the time, i started dating other people, and that is when i started seeing him react a little... and start getting closer any time i broke up with people.. but the way he acted, it was so innocent that i didn't understand he liked me until now. I don't want to make him jealous or to push him, but he doesn't make any moves unless i do something like that, or be the first person to ask if we can hang out.

“We avoid a lot of eye contact really, both of us are nervous around each other.”

As a Taurus moon this is all I needed to know.

He’s not comfortable with you...that’s the problem.

Yeah I zoned in on that too.

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I mean.. he stares at me from across the room every 5 seconds. Ive taken to making stupid faces at him when i catch him doing it just to see him laugh. its pretty great.. but i guess its not entirely the same as real eye contact.

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Well, I'd say it might be the relationship that he's not sure. You two are already good friends. So if the relationship doesn't work out, it's gonna affect the friendship, imo.

okay fair...but this very second.. we don't even have a friendship. this last week, since i (rather agressively in all my aries moon glory) asked him to hang out on valentines day, its kind of just been limbo for the two of us.... we went from talking almost every day to hardly interacting.. dunno what to do about that..

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How long have you known each other?

What do you do for dates?

about 6 months now; the liking seems to have started though in early december. thats when he started getting all excited about my break ups lol.. and then in January, he started giving me hard core "I LIKE YOU" vibes.. but after asking him to hang out on valentines day (and him rejecting me) hes acting weird... not talking hardly at all to me.

we go hiking, we go on day long excursions that involve food and the beach, blasting music and singing at the top of our lungs and listening to nerdy podcasts in the car and exploring new areas or him showing me around places that mean something to him. or we hang out and watch movies and drink scotch or we go to parties together... a month ago, he randomly invited me to go on a crazy spur of the moment trip to a national forest. we were together from 7 am to 12 am that day and we had the time of our lives driving around california hugging trees and taking awesome pictures together like the two hippies we are. it was amazing.

i should also note that EVERYONE who sees him and i together and how we behave, automatically assumes he is my boyfriend. because that is how he acts and the vibe he gives off... hard core boyfriend vibes.

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I think you may have put him on the spot for something he may not be ready for.

yeeeaaaaaaaahhh... i agree that it was a mistake.. if i could take it back, i would in a heart beat.. if i had one do-over in life, it would literally be on that.

so how to i fix it? how do i undo the putting him on the spot? i don't even care that he rejected that advance. like, im not even the slightest bit salty.. I just don't know if im suppose to give him space and let him wander back? or just pretend like nothing happened and try being friendly and take initiative the way i was before? i don't want to be too agressive.. but with my scorpio in mercury and in venus, i know i have a tendency to be a little too guarded with my feelings for my own good. (either that or i blurt them out like i keep doing with him lol)

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we avoid a lot of eye contact really, both of us are nervous around each other. only on our last "date" did he and i make eye contact when i thanked him for buying me a gift. but the eye contact was beautiful and he had such a kind and happy expression on his face.

we share a lot of similar placements. I did a synastry comparison, and other than pushing each other too much and bad timing, we are very compatible. His Mercury is Sag, mine is scorpio, His mars is Sag, and mine is as well.

I've already told him months ago that i liked him, but when he told me he didn't like me back at the time, i started dating other people, and that is when i started seeing him react a little... and start getting closer any time i broke up with people.. but the way he acted, it was so innocent that i didn't understand he liked me until now. I don't want to make him jealous or to push him, but he doesn't make any moves unless i do something like that, or be the first person to ask if we can hang out.

“We avoid a lot of eye contact really, both of us are nervous around each other.”

As a Taurus moon this is all I needed to know.

He’s not comfortable with you...that’s the problem.

Yeah I zoned in on that too.

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Mhmmm! (:

Taurus moon = cozy cuddles & such

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How long have you known each other?

What do you do for dates?

about 6 months now; the liking seems to have started though in early december. thats when he started getting all excited about my break ups lol.. and then in January, he started giving me hard core "I LIKE YOU" vibes.. but after asking him to hang out on valentines day (and him rejecting me) hes acting weird... not talking hardly at all to me.

we go hiking, we go on day long excursions that involve food and the beach, blasting music and singing at the top of our lungs and listening to nerdy podcasts in the car and exploring new areas or him showing me around places that mean something to him. or we hang out and watch movies and drink scotch or we go to parties together... a month ago, he randomly invited me to go on a crazy spur of the moment trip to a national forest. we were together from 7 am to 12 am that day and we had the time of our lives driving around california hugging trees and taking awesome pictures together like the two hippies we are. it was amazing.

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wow so many parallels between your situation and the situation i had last year with an aries mooner

i'm still not over

i wish i would have come across a post like this 1 yr ago.

maybe things would have turned out differently

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Idk my experience with Taurus moon was 2 being very fast! Sag sun Taurus moon... acted like a Sag.. Pisces Sun Taurus moon - we were engaged in 1 1/2 months! 😳

That's the thing lol. If they want to be fast, they can be super fast lol. If they don't, nothing or nobody else will be able move them, imo.

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i think the problem is that i move even faster lol.. i think based off of what im hearing, i should probably just take a step back for a bit. let him do his own thing. pushing him or bothering him wont help anything.



by the way, all of you are absolutely lovely. you are all so very sweet and i find myself very comfy here on this thread. I like all the sweet and comfy taurus moon vibes

Y'all must be about 24-25 years old..

Posted by Emhendo
Y'all must be about 24-25 years old..

yeeeaaaah

im 24, hes 26. is it that obvious?

Im dating a taurus guy atm, maybe i can help you. You and i also have the same placements (sag sun w/scorp venus).

What i think you should do is:

- spend less time, be less available to him. If he wonders/asks why youre spending less time with him, you can say ‘Well.. youre not my bf, i should be doing these things with someone im dating’. (In a not so srs manner) This msg will show him that he needs to decide whether he wants to be your friend or bf.

- dont date other people! His scorp venus is very possessive. You should imagine if he was dating other girls how would you feel? Perhaps this is why hes uncomfortable and not making that move towards you.

Spend your time doing other things to get your mind off him, you can keep talking/msging him but dont wait. Im sure by sometime he’ll make a decision..

I wouldnt fuck with a Taurus moon again. Im way too impatient.

Posted by Yamanashi
Im dating a taurus guy atm, maybe i can help you. You and i also have the same placements (sag sun w/scorp venus).

What i think you should do is:

- spend less time, be less available to him. If he wonders/asks why youre spending less time with him, you can say ‘Well.. youre not my bf, i should be doing these things with someone im dating’. (In a not so srs manner) This msg will show him that he needs to decide whether he wants to be your friend or bf.

- dont date other people! His scorp venus is very possessive. You should imagine if he was dating other girls how would you feel? Perhaps this is why hes uncomfortable and not making that move towards you.

Spend your time doing other things to get your mind off him, you can keep talking/msging him but dont wait. Im sure by sometime he’ll make a decision..

I will follow said advice. Being less available to him really seems to work anyways. I have been a little less responsive to him the last few days, and he has been trying to get my attention again.. kinda has a vibe to it like when you ignore a puppy and then it starts to whine and paw at you (i dont mean that in any sort of negative way. it was kind of adorable really)

Yeah, i would get completely and totally hurt by him dating other girls...

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I wouldnt fuck with a Taurus moon again. Im way too impatient.

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haha well.. i think i might be stuck with something like that... the only guys who im ever attracted to are guys with very... independent or slow venus or moon signs.. otherwise i end up going nuts.

i love how everyone on this website uses the word treetrunk. Where did that even start?

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Posted by heliumfiasco
I wouldnt fuck with a Taurus moon again. Im way too impatient.

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haha well.. i think i might be stuck with something like that... the only guys who im ever attracted to are guys with very... independent or slow venus or moon signs.. otherwise i end up going nuts.

i love how everyone on this website uses the word treetrunk. Where did that even start?

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Here’s a glossary for you

Ahole = marker

B**CH = cookiemonster

C.U.N.T = bleep

D**K = chicken

FU** = treetrunk

Your welcome (:

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I wouldnt fuck with a Taurus moon again. Im way too impatient.

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haha well.. i think i might be stuck with something like that... the only guys who im ever attracted to are guys with very... independent or slow venus or moon signs.. otherwise i end up going nuts.

i love how everyone on this website uses the word treetrunk. Where did that even start?

Here’s a glossary for you

Ahole = marker

B**CH = cookiemonster

C.U.N.T = bleep

D**K = chicken

FU** = treetrunk

Your welcome (:

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OMG I LOVE THIS.

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Posted by heliumfiasco
I wouldnt fuck with a Taurus moon again. Im way too impatient.

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haha well.. i think i might be stuck with something like that... the only guys who im ever attracted to are guys with very... independent or slow venus or moon signs.. otherwise i end up going nuts.

i love how everyone on this website uses the word treetrunk. Where did that even start?

Here’s a glossary for you

Ahole = marker

B**CH = cookiemonster

C.U.N.T = bleep

D**K = chicken

FU** = treetrunk

Your welcome (:

OMG I LOVE THIS.

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Im glad (:

If you feeling rebellious you can go to

settings > account > and turn off the profanity filter.

Posted by HoneyXx
Sag sun, Taurus moon here. hell i think i'm the closest to his combo.

when he doesn't make eye contact - it's cause he's still shy around you. nothing to be nervous about. i think that's more the sag than the taurus.. i know i can't stand direct eye contact, i'll glance here and there, but... gawd damn.. yea, not my thing...

i've read all that you said and yup... he's basically your man. just not officially yet. 😆

you need to continue to build on that friendship...



keep doing everything you are doing because he's in the process of making up his mind... he's at battle with himself... the sag and taurus combo are at a constant battle within one person... trust me, i know.

it's what he wants... versus what he needs... versus "do i really want to be in a relationship and possibly get attached to someone and feel all vulnerable and weak?"

if it wasn't for my boyfriend just saying "we're in a relationship" i'd probably still be in the process of deciding...

i give it till the end of this month to be official...

Thank you so much for your imput! sag sun and taurus moon is such an interesting combo and it really does sound like they are at odds with each other, so its helpful to know whats what when it comes to all this.

Yeah, as a sag myself, i get so shy; i cant make eye contact with anyone i like. its absolutely horrible. as much as i would kill for him and i to have that amazing deep soulful eye contact, its gonna take a while to get to that point.

Im perfectly happy building on the friendship; i just genuinely like being around him. but yeah, it does feel like he is my man already even though he doesn't quite want to admit it.. ive even had strangers who hardly knew us get super confused when they found out he isnt my boyfriend.

yeah i can see him struggling with all of that "wants vs. needs" stuff. I dunno if i can actually say "we are in a relationship" to him... although it really reminds me of scrubs towards the end where one doctor tells JD and Elliot that they basically have a relationship without the sex so they might as well just enjoy the sex too 😆

haha okay. Ill do the ghosting thing again.. I did that to him for a week once... drove him nuts. he kept sending me stuff all week and even commented about how i disappeared. and then all the fun stuff started happening once i finally texted him back; him being my dates to parties and getting super territorial and all that fun stuff.

hey now. i lasted A WHOLE TREETRUNKING WEEK (Did i use that right guys? 😄) but really its true. it gives me HARD CORE anxiety not hearing from him or not messaging him.

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Posted by heliumfiasco
I wouldnt fuck with a Taurus moon again. Im way too impatient.

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haha well.. i think i might be stuck with something like that... the only guys who im ever attracted to are guys with very... independent or slow venus or moon signs.. otherwise i end up going nuts.

i love how everyone on this website uses the word treetrunk. Where did that even start?

Here’s a glossary for you

Ahole = marker

B**CH = cookiemonster

C.U.N.T = bleep

D**K = chicken

FU** = treetrunk

Your welcome (:

OMG I LOVE THIS.

Im glad (:

If you feeling rebellious you can go to

settings > account > and turn off the profanity filter.

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hahahahaah why the hell would i do that when instead i can have words like "treetrunk" and "cookie monster" scattered throughout posts. i love it.

Posted by HoneyXx
if it's not official by the end of this month... then you have to disappear... by disappear, i mean go completely ghost...

he'll go crazy without you and make it official.



thank me later.

p.s i've never been wrong when it comes to this stuff





but knowing your aries moon, y'all can't go ghost for too long without the anxiety of not knowing... 🙄

just stick to the script and you're good.

also, i feel like there has to be this really good balance between the ghosting and the other stuff... something ive noticed, he does seem to really like it when i initiate things, like when i pulled him onto the dance floor (had that puppy dog look on his face that evening as we danced with our faces inches apart) and he doesn't seem to know how and wen to initiate (or maybe doesn't want to?) but like, recently ive been the one to ask him to hang out, and he gets all excited when i do, but if i get TOO intense, he backs off, and im kind of confused because Im really not sure at all if im suppose to be doing the initiating in our situation?? or if its detrimental?? i dunno.. but i totally stopped asking him to hang out after Valentines day.. so its been over a week since i saw him where before, we were hanging out every week or sometimes twice a week? thoughts on this?

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if it's not official by the end of this month... then you have to disappear... by disappear, i mean go completely ghost...

he'll go crazy without you and make it official.



thank me later.

p.s i've never been wrong when it comes to this stuff





but knowing your aries moon, y'all can't go ghost for too long without the anxiety of not knowing... 🙄

just stick to the script and you're good.

also, i feel like there has to be this really good balance between the ghosting and the other stuff... something ive noticed, he does seem to really like it when i initiate things, like when i pulled him onto the dance floor (had that puppy dog look on his face that evening as we danced with our faces inches apart) and he doesn't seem to know how and wen to initiate (or maybe doesn't want to?) but like, recently ive been the one to ask him to hang out, and he gets all excited when i do, but if i get TOO intense, he backs off, and im kind of confused because Im really not sure at all if im suppose to be doing the initiating in our situation?? or if its detrimental?? i dunno.. but i totally stopped asking him to hang out after Valentines day.. so its been over a week since i saw him where before, we were hanging out every week or sometimes twice a week? thoughts on this?

yea, i'm not big on initiating either... i prefer for them to do it...

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okay, so me initiating isn't a big deal, but just keep it... not intense for now? i would still like for him to initiate hanging out next after the whole "valentines day fiasco" we had.. so i may hold out for a little while longer and see if he does anything

i think he is going into a weird "overthinking/not sure what to do/HOW DO I GET HER ATTENTION AGAIN" mode now... he has started sending me pictures of food. and this may sound super normal for a 20-something year old with social media, but he never posts or sends or takes any pictures of food. I think hes trying to share little things about his day, and i think its bothering him that i don't respond or i don't offer up information about my day... so in a way, I'm sort of ghosting him while still being present, and i think it may be driving him a little nuts...

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if it's not official by the end of this month... then you have to disappear... by disappear, i mean go completely ghost...

he'll go crazy without you and make it official.



thank me later.

p.s i've never been wrong when it comes to this stuff





but knowing your aries moon, y'all can't go ghost for too long without the anxiety of not knowing... 🙄

just stick to the script and you're good.

also, i feel like there has to be this really good balance between the ghosting and the other stuff... something ive noticed, he does seem to really like it when i initiate things, like when i pulled him onto the dance floor (had that puppy dog look on his face that evening as we danced with our faces inches apart) and he doesn't seem to know how and wen to initiate (or maybe doesn't want to?) but like, recently ive been the one to ask him to hang out, and he gets all excited when i do, but if i get TOO intense, he backs off, and im kind of confused because Im really not sure at all if im suppose to be doing the initiating in our situation?? or if its detrimental?? i dunno.. but i totally stopped asking him to hang out after Valentines day.. so its been over a week since i saw him where before, we were hanging out every week or sometimes twice a week? thoughts on this?

yea, i'm not big on initiating either... i prefer for them to do it...

okay, so me initiating isn't a big deal, but just keep it... not intense for now? i would still like for him to initiate hanging out next after the whole "valentines day fiasco" we had.. so i may hold out for a little while longer and see if he does anything

i think he is going into a weird "overthinking/not sure what to do/HOW DO I GET HER ATTENTION AGAIN" mode now... he has started sending me pictures of food. and this may sound super normal for a 20-something year old with social media, but he never posts or sends or takes any pictures of food. I think hes trying to share little things about his day, and i think its bothering him that i don't respond or i don't offer up information about my day... so in a way, I'm sort of ghosting him while still being present, and i think it may be driving him a little nuts...

If I may interject, do you really want to keep playing games with this guy in hopes of him taking it to the next step?

I'm not saying he's a saint, but now both of you were playing games against each other. This is a third-person perspective.

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believe me... i think if he and i could move on from this, we would... but he said it best when he was talking to a mutual friend. "ive never had a connection like this before"

find me another man who runs to my rescue like he does, or that i can play video games with and talk quantum mechanics or mycology with but then also dress up and go out to a fancy party with, someone who also loves hiking and nature and spontaneous trips as much as i do, who loves spirituality and talking about philosophy as well, someone who loves going to the gym and taking care of himself the way that i do but feeds his soul with music and art too the way that i do, someone who plays the piano as much as him and who inspires me to play violin in return, someone as brilliant and intelligent as him but also as good and respectful as him and as goofy and silly and happy as him.. if i could find someone like that but who also isn't scared of picking me believe me. Id move on and leave these games behind..

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Posted by HoneyXx
if it's not official by the end of this month... then you have to disappear... by disappear, i mean go completely ghost...

he'll go crazy without you and make it official.



thank me later.

p.s i've never been wrong when it comes to this stuff





but knowing your aries moon, y'all can't go ghost for too long without the anxiety of not knowing... 🙄

just stick to the script and you're good.

also, i feel like there has to be this really good balance between the ghosting and the other stuff... something ive noticed, he does seem to really like it when i initiate things, like when i pulled him onto the dance floor (had that puppy dog look on his face that evening as we danced with our faces inches apart) and he doesn't seem to know how and wen to initiate (or maybe doesn't want to?) but like, recently ive been the one to ask him to hang out, and he gets all excited when i do, but if i get TOO intense, he backs off, and im kind of confused because Im really not sure at all if im suppose to be doing the initiating in our situation?? or if its detrimental?? i dunno.. but i totally stopped asking him to hang out after Valentines day.. so its been over a week since i saw him where before, we were hanging out every week or sometimes twice a week? thoughts on this?

yea, i'm not big on initiating either... i prefer for them to do it...

okay, so me initiating isn't a big deal, but just keep it... not intense for now? i would still like for him to initiate hanging out next after the whole "valentines day fiasco" we had.. so i may hold out for a little while longer and see if he does anything

i think he is going into a weird "overthinking/not sure what to do/HOW DO I GET HER ATTENTION AGAIN" mode now... he has started sending me pictures of food. and this may sound super normal for a 20-something year old with social media, but he never posts or sends or takes any pictures of food. I think hes trying to share little things about his day, and i think its bothering him that i don't respond or i don't offer up information about my day... so in a way, I'm sort of ghosting him while still being present, and i think it may be driving him a little nuts...

If I may interject, do you really want to keep playing games with this guy in hopes of him taking it to the next step?

I'm not saying he's a saint, but now both of you were playing games against each other. This is a third-person perspective.

believe me... i think if he and i could move on from this, we would... but he said it best when he was talking to a mutual friend. "ive never had a connection like this before"

find me another man who runs to my rescue like he does, or that i can play video games with and talk quantum mechanics or mycology with but then also dress up and go out to a fancy party with, someone who also loves hiking and nature and spontaneous trips as much as i do, who loves spirituality and talking about philosophy as well, someone who loves going to the gym and taking care of himself the way that i do but feeds his soul with music and art too the way that i do, someone who plays the piano as much as him and who inspires me to play violin in return, someone as brilliant and intelligent as him but also as good and respectful as him and as goofy and silly and happy as him.. if i could find someone like that but who also isn't scared of picking me believe me. Id move on and leave these games behind..

You've lost the game already if you think that out of roughly 3.5 billion men, he's the ONLY one is perfect for you. People lose if they handcuff themselves to only one possibility.

As you age, you needs will change. You better hope your one egg doesn't break in that basket of yours.

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I really dont believe that, and i don't mean to sound so dramatic lol. but I'm someone who has a hard time even finding FRIENDS that i really like (i always say, i don't have friends, i collect soulmates).. let alone romantic interests. i've been dating other people throughout all this.. but all of the other people i end up dating are such superficial people, or so possessive its scary, or secretly have girlfriends on the side, or just downright dull. I was genuine in saying if i can find someone who i connect with as well as him who also doesn't have this stupid fear thing going on, believe me, i would be there.. but currently, i haven't met anyone besides him that makes me feel like I'm back in high school, dealing with my first experience with love. I still flirt with people and talk with them and get to know them, and Im open to finding someone else... i just.. havent.

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if it's not official by the end of this month... then you have to disappear... by disappear, i mean go completely ghost...

he'll go crazy without you and make it official.



thank me later.

p.s i've never been wrong when it comes to this stuff





but knowing your aries moon, y'all can't go ghost for too long without the anxiety of not knowing... 🙄

just stick to the script and you're good.

also, i feel like there has to be this really good balance between the ghosting and the other stuff... something ive noticed, he does seem to really like it when i initiate things, like when i pulled him onto the dance floor (had that puppy dog look on his face that evening as we danced with our faces inches apart) and he doesn't seem to know how and wen to initiate (or maybe doesn't want to?) but like, recently ive been the one to ask him to hang out, and he gets all excited when i do, but if i get TOO intense, he backs off, and im kind of confused because Im really not sure at all if im suppose to be doing the initiating in our situation?? or if its detrimental?? i dunno.. but i totally stopped asking him to hang out after Valentines day.. so its been over a week since i saw him where before, we were hanging out every week or sometimes twice a week? thoughts on this?

yea, i'm not big on initiating either... i prefer for them to do it...

okay, so me initiating isn't a big deal, but just keep it... not intense for now? i would still like for him to initiate hanging out next after the whole "valentines day fiasco" we had.. so i may hold out for a little while longer and see if he does anything

i think he is going into a weird "overthinking/not sure what to do/HOW DO I GET HER ATTENTION AGAIN" mode now... he has started sending me pictures of food. and this may sound super normal for a 20-something year old with social media, but he never posts or sends or takes any pictures of food. I think hes trying to share little things about his day, and i think its bothering him that i don't respond or i don't offer up information about my day... so in a way, I'm sort of ghosting him while still being present, and i think it may be driving him a little nuts...

If I may interject, do you really want to keep playing games with this guy in hopes of him taking it to the next step?

I'm not saying he's a saint, but now both of you were playing games against each other. This is a third-person perspective.

believe me... i think if he and i could move on from this, we would... but he said it best when he was talking to a mutual friend. "ive never had a connection like this before"

find me another man who runs to my rescue like he does, or that i can play video games with and talk quantum mechanics or mycology with but then also dress up and go out to a fancy party with, someone who also loves hiking and nature and spontaneous trips as much as i do, who loves spirituality and talking about philosophy as well, someone who loves going to the gym and taking care of himself the way that i do but feeds his soul with music and art too the way that i do, someone who plays the piano as much as him and who inspires me to play violin in return, someone as brilliant and intelligent as him but also as good and respectful as him and as goofy and silly and happy as him.. if i could find someone like that but who also isn't scared of picking me believe me. Id move on and leave these games behind..

You've lost the game already if you think that out of roughly 3.5 billion men, he's the ONLY one is perfect for you. People lose if they handcuff themselves to only one possibility.

As you age, you needs will change. You better hope your one egg doesn't break in that basket of yours.

I really dont believe that, and i don't mean to sound so dramatic lol. but I'm someone who has a hard time even finding FRIENDS that i really like (i always say, i don't have friends, i collect soulmates).. let alone romantic interests. i've been dating other people throughout all this.. but all of the other people i end up dating are such superficial people, or so possessive its scary, or secretly have girlfriends on the side, or just downright dull. I was genuine in saying if i can find someone who i connect with as well as him who also doesn't have this stupid fear thing going on, believe me, i would be there.. but currently, i haven't met anyone besides him that makes me feel like I'm back in high school, dealing with my first experience with love. I still flirt with people and talk with them and get to know them, and Im open to finding someone else... i just.. havent.

If you truly believe what you write here, then I hope you win your prize and cherish it. I used to believe like you once, maybe I can again one day.

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believe me.. i didn't think it was possible to feel like this again.. i already went through my whole "I FOUND MY ONE AND HE BROKE MY HEART" soul shattering, life changing "im no longer confident in dating because of you" love situation a few years back.. i thought i was over all this nonsense.. i was ready to be over all the nonsense, and i still find myself wishing i was over this nonsense. my brain likes to tell me just about every 5 minutes how stupid this all is that he is always on my mind, that i adore him so much, that i get nervous every time he nervously looks at me from across the room. Im an adult for god sake 😆 but it happens. it happens when we least expect it.

if by some miracle, he and i end up together, believe me, it will all be cherished

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if it's not official by the end of this month... then you have to disappear... by disappear, i mean go completely ghost...

he'll go crazy without you and make it official.



thank me later.

p.s i've never been wrong when it comes to this stuff





but knowing your aries moon, y'all can't go ghost for too long without the anxiety of not knowing... 🙄

just stick to the script and you're good.

also, i feel like there has to be this really good balance between the ghosting and the other stuff... something ive noticed, he does seem to really like it when i initiate things, like when i pulled him onto the dance floor (had that puppy dog look on his face that evening as we danced with our faces inches apart) and he doesn't seem to know how and wen to initiate (or maybe doesn't want to?) but like, recently ive been the one to ask him to hang out, and he gets all excited when i do, but if i get TOO intense, he backs off, and im kind of confused because Im really not sure at all if im suppose to be doing the initiating in our situation?? or if its detrimental?? i dunno.. but i totally stopped asking him to hang out after Valentines day.. so its been over a week since i saw him where before, we were hanging out every week or sometimes twice a week? thoughts on this?

yea, i'm not big on initiating either... i prefer for them to do it...

okay, so me initiating isn't a big deal, but just keep it... not intense for now? i would still like for him to initiate hanging out next after the whole "valentines day fiasco" we had.. so i may hold out for a little while longer and see if he does anything

i think he is going into a weird "overthinking/not sure what to do/HOW DO I GET HER ATTENTION AGAIN" mode now... he has started sending me pictures of food. and this may sound super normal for a 20-something year old with social media, but he never posts or sends or takes any pictures of food. I think hes trying to share little things about his day, and i think its bothering him that i don't respond or i don't offer up information about my day... so in a way, I'm sort of ghosting him while still being present, and i think it may be driving him a little nuts...

bingo! he's doing what i would do...

your next line should be "you're making me hungry, let's go eat..." (if he sends you another food pic)

or...

"what do you want to eat?" (this one here works every fucking time!!!!!)

😭😭 bible.

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He knows i love cooking and i know he doesn't usually go out to eat much.. is there something cute you think i should say to suggest me cooking for him or is that too much?

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Feed it.

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if it's not official by the end of this month... then you have to disappear... by disappear, i mean go completely ghost...

he'll go crazy without you and make it official.



thank me later.

p.s i've never been wrong when it comes to this stuff





but knowing your aries moon, y'all can't go ghost for too long without the anxiety of not knowing... 🙄

just stick to the script and you're good.

also, i feel like there has to be this really good balance between the ghosting and the other stuff... something ive noticed, he does seem to really like it when i initiate things, like when i pulled him onto the dance floor (had that puppy dog look on his face that evening as we danced with our faces inches apart) and he doesn't seem to know how and wen to initiate (or maybe doesn't want to?) but like, recently ive been the one to ask him to hang out, and he gets all excited when i do, but if i get TOO intense, he backs off, and im kind of confused because Im really not sure at all if im suppose to be doing the initiating in our situation?? or if its detrimental?? i dunno.. but i totally stopped asking him to hang out after Valentines day.. so its been over a week since i saw him where before, we were hanging out every week or sometimes twice a week? thoughts on this?

yea, i'm not big on initiating either... i prefer for them to do it...

okay, so me initiating isn't a big deal, but just keep it... not intense for now? i would still like for him to initiate hanging out next after the whole "valentines day fiasco" we had.. so i may hold out for a little while longer and see if he does anything

i think he is going into a weird "overthinking/not sure what to do/HOW DO I GET HER ATTENTION AGAIN" mode now... he has started sending me pictures of food. and this may sound super normal for a 20-something year old with social media, but he never posts or sends or takes any pictures of food. I think hes trying to share little things about his day, and i think its bothering him that i don't respond or i don't offer up information about my day... so in a way, I'm sort of ghosting him while still being present, and i think it may be driving him a little nuts...

If I may interject, do you really want to keep playing games with this guy in hopes of him taking it to the next step?

I'm not saying he's a saint, but now both of you were playing games against each other. This is a third-person perspective.

believe me... i think if he and i could move on from this, we would... but he said it best when he was talking to a mutual friend. "ive never had a connection like this before"

find me another man who runs to my rescue like he does, or that i can play video games with and talk quantum mechanics or mycology with but then also dress up and go out to a fancy party with, someone who also loves hiking and nature and spontaneous trips as much as i do, who loves spirituality and talking about philosophy as well, someone who loves going to the gym and taking care of himself the way that i do but feeds his soul with music and art too the way that i do, someone who plays the piano as much as him and who inspires me to play violin in return, someone as brilliant and intelligent as him but also as good and respectful as him and as goofy and silly and happy as him.. if i could find someone like that but who also isn't scared of picking me believe me. Id move on and leave these games behind..

Ok stop it stop it now! No more games! He feels insecure and friend zoned. Everything ypu guys are describing fits. The problem is the sag placements. Sag love expressing new things. That is why I hesitated to say go for it. BUT you guys already satisfy this together.

I prefer female friends and have had a few where there was real love but I was insecure and picky so I didn't act. Hindsight I don't regret that choice other then one person. They are life long friends now. However, I do know exactly what it feels like when you are unsure of the friends zone.

He is waiting for the green light and he is worried about your relationship changing when things are pretty much perfect besides the intimacy right now. Taurus don't like change. That is what he is fighting. Sags don't like commitment because they don't like stagnation. Continue to experience new things in life physically or mentally. This will satify those sag placements.Do this and you guys will continue to be great.that is the source of conflict between Taurus and Sag archtype.

So tell him. "I love our relationship. Spending time together and doing the things we do. We are basically paired as it is. Everyone sees it too. When you are ready to upgrade and add a little for to it let me know."

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oh dear lord. is there a way to do it slower without putting myself COMPLETELY out there for rejection all at once? he has already rejected me once before..

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Oh btw, if you want to tease and set him off, touch! Neck and chest. Don't understand why but that sets me off and it is what I focus on. Stimulation on the side of the neck. Breathe, kiss, or taking a slight obvious sniff there. Putting thier hand on my chest between the pecs or over the heart while looking into his eyes. Taurus is very sensual. Enjoy :- )

it is times like these that i hate being an introvert

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if it's not official by the end of this month... then you have to disappear... by disappear, i mean go completely ghost...

he'll go crazy without you and make it official.



thank me later.

p.s i've never been wrong when it comes to this stuff





but knowing your aries moon, y'all can't go ghost for too long without the anxiety of not knowing... 🙄

just stick to the script and you're good.

also, i feel like there has to be this really good balance between the ghosting and the other stuff... something ive noticed, he does seem to really like it when i initiate things, like when i pulled him onto the dance floor (had that puppy dog look on his face that evening as we danced with our faces inches apart) and he doesn't seem to know how and wen to initiate (or maybe doesn't want to?) but like, recently ive been the one to ask him to hang out, and he gets all excited when i do, but if i get TOO intense, he backs off, and im kind of confused because Im really not sure at all if im suppose to be doing the initiating in our situation?? or if its detrimental?? i dunno.. but i totally stopped asking him to hang out after Valentines day.. so its been over a week since i saw him where before, we were hanging out every week or sometimes twice a week? thoughts on this?

yea, i'm not big on initiating either... i prefer for them to do it...

okay, so me initiating isn't a big deal, but just keep it... not intense for now? i would still like for him to initiate hanging out next after the whole "valentines day fiasco" we had.. so i may hold out for a little while longer and see if he does anything

i think he is going into a weird "overthinking/not sure what to do/HOW DO I GET HER ATTENTION AGAIN" mode now... he has started sending me pictures of food. and this may sound super normal for a 20-something year old with social media, but he never posts or sends or takes any pictures of food. I think hes trying to share little things about his day, and i think its bothering him that i don't respond or i don't offer up information about my day... so in a way, I'm sort of ghosting him while still being present, and i think it may be driving him a little nuts...

If I may interject, do you really want to keep playing games with this guy in hopes of him taking it to the next step?

I'm not saying he's a saint, but now both of you were playing games against each other. This is a third-person perspective.

believe me... i think if he and i could move on from this, we would... but he said it best when he was talking to a mutual friend. "ive never had a connection like this before"

find me another man who runs to my rescue like he does, or that i can play video games with and talk quantum mechanics or mycology with but then also dress up and go out to a fancy party with, someone who also loves hiking and nature and spontaneous trips as much as i do, who loves spirituality and talking about philosophy as well, someone who loves going to the gym and taking care of himself the way that i do but feeds his soul with music and art too the way that i do, someone who plays the piano as much as him and who inspires me to play violin in return, someone as brilliant and intelligent as him but also as good and respectful as him and as goofy and silly and happy as him.. if i could find someone like that but who also isn't scared of picking me believe me. Id move on and leave these games behind..

Ok stop it stop it now! No more games! He feels insecure and friend zoned. Everything ypu guys are describing fits. The problem is the sag placements. Sag love expressing new things. That is why I hesitated to say go for it. BUT you guys already satisfy this together.

I prefer female friends and have had a few where there was real love but I was insecure and picky so I didn't act. Hindsight I don't regret that choice other then one person. They are life long friends now. However, I do know exactly what it feels like when you are unsure of the friends zone.

He is waiting for the green light and he is worried about your relationship changing when things are pretty much perfect besides the intimacy right now. Taurus don't like change. That is what he is fighting. Sags don't like commitment because they don't like stagnation. Continue to experience new things in life physically or mentally. This will satify those sag placements.Do this and you guys will continue to be great.that is the source of conflict between Taurus and Sag archtype.

So tell him. "I love our relationship. Spending time together and doing the things we do. We are basically paired as it is. Everyone sees it too. When you are ready to upgrade and add a little for to it let me know."

oh dear lord. is there a way to do it slower without putting myself COMPLETELY out there for rejection all at once? he has already rejected me once before..

He didn't reject you. It was just too soon so he backed away. There is a difference. It is all about light touch and patience not a ultimatum and push. At your ages backing him into a corner is a toss up.

Put yourself in his shoes. Your amazing to each other and really care would you want to risk that? Because I garuntee that is how he feels. He is playing it safe.

Remove that risk by telling him you want to add to things not change it.

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okay. Ill do it.. Hes too important to me to potentially lose all this.. or not try and always wonder what could have been.. Hes amazing and hes worth me getting over my fears and trying to be honest with him.

I called him (instead of texted him which is something I NEVER do) to invite him out on what he hopefully assumes is a double date with some very close friends of ours. He seemed very excited about the idea and told me to let him know the date tonight so that he can be certain to get it off next week. mr. flake and non-committal is okay with setting a date in stone a week away. that said a lot to me.

he also answered the phone even though he was busy 🙂

Im happy.

i also realized just how much of a red light all my actions have been until now (hard core friend zoning.. like.. talking about other guys, standing cross armed when he was cutely touching my face, being more friendly with other guys than with him, acting like any time he touched me it was an accident and moving out of the way) so when we hang out this next time, I'm just gonna go for it. do all the cute touchy things like slip my arm in his and at the very least, kiss him on the cheek at the end of the evening (i figure thats not TOO forward and impatient, it can almost be confused for friendship but not quite) among other things.

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I called him (instead of texted him which is something I NEVER do) to invite him out on what he hopefully assumes is a double date with some very close friends of ours. He seemed very excited about the idea and told me to let him know the date tonight so that he can be certain to get it off next week. mr. flake and non-committal is okay with setting a date in stone a week away. that said a lot to me.

he also answered the phone even though he was busy 🙂

Im happy.

Hope you have a great time! 😄

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thanks! ill let you guys all know how it goes!

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How long have you known each other?

What do you do for dates?

about 6 months now; the liking seems to have started though in early december. thats when he started getting all excited about my break ups lol.. and then in January, he started giving me hard core "I LIKE YOU" vibes.. but after asking him to hang out on valentines day (and him rejecting me) hes acting weird... not talking hardly at all to me.

we go hiking, we go on day long excursions that involve food and the beach, blasting music and singing at the top of our lungs and listening to nerdy podcasts in the car and exploring new areas or him showing me around places that mean something to him. or we hang out and watch movies and drink scotch or we go to parties together... a month ago, he randomly invited me to go on a crazy spur of the moment trip to a national forest. we were together from 7 am to 12 am that day and we had the time of our lives driving around california hugging trees and taking awesome pictures together like the two hippies we are. it was amazing.

Hmmmmm. I think he really really really likes you that he can’t bear to look you in the eyes. Just give him time and he’ll eventually get comfortable enough to do it.

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ill keep that in mind!

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i also realized just how much of a red light all my actions have been until now (hard core friend zoning.. like.. talking about other guys, standing cross armed when he was cutely touching my face, being more friendly with other guys than with him, acting like any time he touched me it was an accident and moving out of the way) so when we hang out this next time, I'm just gonna go for it. do all the cute touchy things like slip my arm in his and at the very least, kiss him on the cheek at the end of the evening (i figure thats not TOO forward and impatient, it can almost be confused for friendship but not quite) among other things.

Wonderful reflections! You’re definately on the right path. Keep it up! 🙂

so it seems like he wasn't able to get the day off yesterday or something.. and when i asked him about it on saturday, he literally avoided talking to me until sunday night when he got off work. he did call me the second he got off work and invited me to a movie tuesday night, but at this point i don't know if it was out of obligation or what. He did also call me on the phone friday night right as he got off work and we talked for 2 hours. lol he was very ranty and it was adorable and i was able to calm him down. And normally i would say that is a good thing, but it reminds me a bit of how he acted back at the very beginning when he said he wasn't interested in me.. other than the making plans ahead of time. That he didn't do..

I really want to tell him when i see him on tuesday that its okay for him to say no to me, and i wont get offended if he ever doesn't want to hang out. cause avoiding me just isn't a mature thing to do. thoughts? ill leave out the immature bit...