Troubled Leo/Virgo relationship

Oh God, help. This "relationship" has been going on for ten years straight, is there any way astrology could shed some light on it?

Me: Sun Virgo, moon Scorpio, Venus Scorpio, Mars Capricorn and ascendant in aquarius
Him: Sun Leo, moon Aries, Venus Virgo, Mars Capricorn and ascendant.. unknown.

Started off as a school crush, him pursuing me, I said no. He tried again years later, we developed a very passionate sexual relationship.
It was pretty on and off, but I've realised years later that he had feelings for me (he even asked me if I wanted to be in a serious relationship with him, but I brushed that off as I was scared and immature back then).
We broke it off and I started dating one of his friends, when that didn't last, he tried to get me back, I said no.
We both moved on in different relationships and we lost touch completely.

After years of no contact, he suddenly befriended me again out of the blue (literally five years later without contact except for him staring at me whenever we've been at the same clubs or social gatherings) and we hooked up for sex. I tried arranging a more serious date with him, he backed out and I was quite surprised by this, but I let it go.
Then he's reappeared yet again and asked me to be his date for a party, and asked me if he can "come by" some time, and most recently, drunkenly tried to interrupt a "joke date" I was having with a male friend of mine.

Jesus, I honestly don't know what to think - I've had other Leo guys (also with a Virgo placement, oddly enough) acting funny with me this way - what's up with this?
And also, why can't we stay away from each other? We don't have anything in common but are drawn together like magnets.
10 years guys... 😢

Posted by jpx
I honestly don't know what to think - I've had other Leo guys (also with a Virgo placement, oddly enough) acting funny with me this way - what's up with this?
And also, why can't we stay away from each other? We don't have anything in common but are drawn together like magnets.
10 years guys... 😢

What you wrote in bold pretty much describes (in a nut shell) what the Quincunx is like, LoL.

A Sun-Moon square one way, a Sun-Moon Quincunx the other. and a Moon-Moon Quincunx...

Squares can be nice with the right natal charts and accompanying aspects in synastry, but a Sun-Moon square with a Sun-Moon Quincunx the other way is going to be really hard...and the Moon-Moon Quincunx is not going to help.

My thoughts roughly summarized just off the Sun/Moon combo (with no degrees to consider aspects...):

They typically generate a lot of fascination, intrigue, and chemistry (as usually when the Suns/Moons are quincunx, it also means that Mars and Venus might be aligned in such a way as to generate a lot of chemistry, but the Sun square Moon is a very strong one as it is)...but no real union/partnership usually comes of it. I believe they can be an indicator of something truly karmic in nature (but the whole picture really does need consideration); that is, they are lesson based relationships. They draw people together to learn these lessons, then dissolve. Once these lessons are learned (and the Ego afflictions resolved), you'll find yourself moving away from these kinds of relationships...

These are the relationships that most people run through in their earlier years, often including the first marriage (and in some cases, the second). Some are short lived, and some of these can take decades (if not a lifetime) to clear. It depends on the souls involved. They prepare you for the real deal... It's why these relationships are so common, or "hot", despite the incompatibilities. They start off seemingly great, then breakdown/explode, or best case scenario, transcend to a great friendship. They really do teach you about the world and how to relate and connect with the it (as all relationships do, really), because this represents a personal interaction with someone very different from you...They can help you evolve as they are also a reflection of what's undeveloped, what's damaged/broken/hurt...what needs to be healed and released, as they are often Ego driven relationships. They will show what you want/don't want/need in a relationship.

I don't know why Quincunxes are considered minor aspects. I find them to be the most difficult to deal with, both in synastry and natal.

Personally, I do have one in my chart, and all my Quincunx relationships have consisted of family and friends. Never had a romantic relationship involving Quincunx luminuaries (in the synastry), and never will...

On the bright side, they can be loads of fun in friendships 😄

There are also probably some Uranus and Saturn aspects that are contributing factors in your natal and synastry...

Thanks, TaureanVirgo... can't really say that much about this guys placement as I don't know his exact birth time.
Don't know how to resolve this relationship and move on either, I thought last time that if I just laid my cards on the table (like I haven't been able to do before with this person) then
we'd simply just give it a go, the whole relationship, and then it'd either fade out or something good would come of it, but he backed out on me.
I took THAT as answer that, yeah, it's not meant to be and maybe now he got tired of it when it became real, and yet, he comes back again.
Really odd - I'm guessing our moon placements don't go that well together but our Venus/Mars generates a lot of attraction?

He's always acted "weird" around me - people around me are commenting on his behavior, such as "staring" and talking about me and my friends behind my back.
He has no problem whatsoever in attracting females usually, quite a ladies man, so that makes me question even more why he's always around me, and for so many years..

Oh, and I can tell you that you're right in one thing - it did teach me not to play mind games when I DO like someone, like I previously have done with this person.
I remember when I was younger, romantic feelings scared the hell out of me (because of my Venus Scorpio and Moon Scorpio, I guess) and so I've suppressed them and pretended
I feel nothing (being all Virgoey and also Mars in Capricorn, I guess), also going through great lenghts sometimes to ignore the people I like, so that they won't know what I'm feeling.

I only learned years later after this relationship ended that I treated this man pretty badly - and I've reminded myself ever since not to act like this again.
That still doesn't explain why things don't seem resolved between us :/