Well, you were right, and I'm a hopeless idiot

Hi all.
I posted a few weeks ago asking for advice on a Cap man/boy I was seeing. I don't think I gave his or my chart info though, so here it is, then I'll explain.

planet etc. position house position relation orb
Sun 7 Cap 42 1st cusp 14 Ari 43 Conjunction 7 Deg 00 Min
Moon 26 Cap 09 2nd cusp 20 Tau 27 Opposition 5 Deg 00 Min
Mercury 4 Cap 44 3rd cusp 16 Gem 17 Square 5 Deg 00 Min
Venus 23 Sco 03 4th cusp 8 Can 50 Trine 5 Deg 00 Min
Mars 14 Sco 41 5th cusp 2 Leo 42 Sextile 4 Deg 00 Min
Jupiter 27 Sco 10 6th cusp 2 Vir 54 Quincunx 3 Deg 00 Min
Saturn 16 Tau 01 7th cusp 14 Lib 43 Conjunct Asc 3 Deg 00 Min Above, 5 Deg 00 Min Below
Uranus 13 Lib 23 8th cusp 20 Sco 27
Neptune 1 Sag 55 9th cusp 16 Sag 17
Pluto 29Vir 42 10th cusp 8 Cap 50
N. Node 24 Aqu 27 11th cusp 2 Aqu 42
Ascendant 14 Ari 43 12th cusp 2 Pis 54
MC 8 Cap 50
Vertex 6 Lib 23


Here's mine:



planet etc. position house position relation orb
Sun 9 Gem 02 1st cusp 4 Can 20 Conjunction 7 Deg 00 Min
Moon 16 Tau 37 2nd cusp 25 Can 45 Opposition 5 Deg 00 Min
Mercury 21 Gem 08 3rd cusp 18 Leo 47 Square 5 Deg 00 Min
Venus 22 Gem 24 4th cusp 16 Vir 36 Trine 5 Deg 00 Min
Mars 15 Pis 40 5th cusp 21 Lib 10 Sextile 4 Deg 00 Min
Jupiter 12 Aqu 08 6th cusp 29 Sco 25 Quincunx 3 Deg 00 Min
Saturn 22 Gem 04 7th cusp 4 Cap 20 Conjunct Asc 3 Deg 00 Min Above, 5 Deg 00 Min Below
Uranus 19 Lib 15 8th cusp 25 Cap 45
Neptune 5 Sag 59 9th cusp 18 Aqu 47
Pluto 1Lib 43 10th cusp 16 Pis 36
N. Node 7 Cap 54 11th cusp 21 Ari 10
Ascendant 4 Can 20 12th cusp 29 Tau 25
MC 16 Pis 36
Vertex 21 Sco 18

Anyway, you'll have to read my original post to fully understand,but after almost 3 months of pretending I don't exist, My former Cap man/boy texted me to ask me to dinner. I agreed, and we met up that same night. Before we went into the restaraunt,he apologized and said he behaved like a big jerk. I accepted and we had a very nice dinner together. Then he walked me to my car and before we parted ways, I gave him a gift and a letter I wrote to him over a few weeks. Along with the letter, I included some old letters that he wrote to me many years ago. I told him not to freak out, that it was all good but that I wrote it from the heart, and that I just wanted him to know. He smiled and I gave him a big hug which he returned and I kissed him on the cheek. I took my hand and caressed his other cheek as I looked him in the eye and sm

smiled. He leaned in like he wanted to kiss me, but I broke the hug and got into my car. We chatted for a few minutes more and I said "don't be a stranger" to which he replied that this was pretty typical of him to disappear for awhile. I then jokingly said "don't make me come up here!!" To which he replied "but I like it when you come up here". I said something like "okay". We said goodbye and he closed my car door, the end. I texted him later that night thanking him for dinner and he said "you're welcome, and goodnight". I texted him a couple of days later and his demeanor completely changed. I said I hope the gift didn't freak him out. He said it did because I bought it before we had a date. However, he sure didn't mind describing what he wanted the gift to contain and flirting with me about it BEFORE we had that first date. I then apologized saying I thought he was serious about the gift(of an adult nature)and I wouldn't do anything like that again. I told him that I thought I had made myself very clear in the letter about how I felt about the past and present, but that I wasn't a mind reader and I wished that he would talk to me. He replied very coldly saying that he didn't read my letter, that he had no romantic interest in me and that nothing I could have written would have changed his mind.I was shocked and hurt, so I asked if he was ever interested or if it was all just mind games. He said he was at first, but then because I said that "I'd never take another man's name again" and that we talked about sex toys on a first date was "kind of a turn off". I asked him why he kept acting interested for weeks after that first date if he wasn't interested. He couldn't give me an answer and just continued to be insulting and cruel. Basically, I think I might have gotten a little too close and scared him so he has pushed me away. I just wish he had been more honest with me instead of acting interested if he wasn't. Very disrespectful! Lesson learned.

"If you aren't interested don't act like you are."


Seems pretty simple, doesn't it?

Have him beheaded and move on quickly😉

Looks like you were playing to trap him and he picked up on it fast and fled!! He asks you out (he was interested) but then everything you did after made him realise that you were more into him that he into you. You chased and he ran! Had you have let him do the chasing as he originally started then the outcome I'm sure would have been different but you couldn't wait around and had to text him several times. Plus the letter/present thing...not good either.

Don't know your story can't find it, just calling a spade a spade!