When You Love A Bit Too Much

I realized I am scared by how much I am able to love someone. Because of the depth of my feelings I am scared to fall in love again and risk feeling hurt like hell... Because It does feel like hell. Thing is I dont want to live without love. I feel kind of doomed, I can't take love lightly. This doesn t mean I'm all serious and boring about it, or even clingy, quite the contrary, but once I love, inside it starts feeling crazily intense. Other people almost don't exist, romantically speaking. I don't know how to handle all this; does it mean never loving again or finding someone who could love the same way I do? How can I handle this energy. This passion.

It hurts so much.

Posted by Capri-sun
I'm the same way. The desire to love has to outway the fear or desire to stay closed. Pace yourself while dating and have clarity on what it is you want. Then take baby steps towards it.

I have the desire to love.

I'm like you (Libra) I love so deeply , I don't have time for my friends or family , I even can't concentrate well on my work.. and I realized how wrong that attitude is. No man can appreciate or deserve that kind of love. I'm 28 now and I have to be mature and love myself first and I wish you and I and all the people who love so deeply like us can figure out a way to love themselves more than anybody in the world and never be hurt again.

Posted by Blodmemi
I realized I am scared by how much I am able to love someone. Because of the depth of my feelings I am scared to fall in love again and risk feeling hurt like hell... Because It does feel like hell. Thing is I dont want to live without love. I feel kind of doomed, I can't take love lightly. This doesn t mean I'm all serious and boring about it, or even clingy, quite the contrary, but once I love, inside it starts feeling crazily intense. Other people almost don't exist, romantically speaking. I don't know how to handle all this; does it mean never loving again or finding someone who could love the same way I do? How can I handle this energy. This passion.

It hurts so much.

Don't be scared. You will love again and you'll be hurt again. You don't have to trust other people not to hurt you, because they will. You just need to trust yourself that you'll get through it when they do.

The only thing I beg you, is don't allow yourself to get changed by pain you went through and will go through. Don't become bitter/angry/resentfull/hatefull etc. Just delete the pain from your memory, after you deal with it.