Do Mail Order Brides Really Exist?

Do mail order bride really exist?

The answer is Yes, and No, it really depends on your

definition of mail order brides.

The historical roots of the mail-order bride industry

that emerged in the 1800s in the American frontier:

European American men found financial success in the

migration West, but the one thing that was missing

was the company of a wife. Very few women lived there

at this time, so it was hard for these men to settle

down and start a family. They attempted to attract

women living back East; the men wrote letters to

churches and published personal advertisements in

magazines and newspapers. In return, the women would

write to the men and send them photographs of

themselves. Courtship was conducted by letter, until

a woman agreed to marry a man she had never met.[9]

Many women wanted to escape their present way of

living, gain financial security and see what life on

the frontier could offer them. Most of these women

were single, but some were widows, divorcees or

runaways.

During most of the 20 century, the mail order bride

continued with the main method of women putting

themselves in catalogs. Then men would view the

women's profile, then for a fee order the women

address. These became the main order bride companies

business method in the 20 the century, with the fall

of the Soviet union and cheap airfares, these

companies spread from Asian to Eastern Europe,

mainly now the Ukraine

Today most women do not leave their countries to

escape poverty but to seek a man they believe will be

a good husband and provider, that is family

orientated and that looks at women with more respect

than in many countries around the world.

With the advent of the intent, the mail order bride

industry boomed into a billion dollar industry, Now

with a few pictures and website, anyone could be in

the mail order bride business. With hundreds of ma

and pop shops opening over the last two decade, Most

who were clients of one of the three original mail

order bride companies, A Foreign Affair (AFA),

Anastasia and EC, The owner of ForeignLadies.com

met his wife while working on a tour from

loveme.com, A Foreign affair still today in the

largest in the industry, each week they offer tours

to one of a dozen countries China to Peru and

everywhere in between. The industry grew so fast in

1998, Senator Cantwell of Washington state

introduces legislation to regulate the mail order

bride industry. and a new law Called:

"International Marriage Brokers Act" or IMBRA was

born. With stiff regulations, many companies like

Anastasia moved from Bride business to Fantasy Chat.



Although the industry strongly objects to the term

mail order brides, saying there is no difference if

man in New York courting a woman from California

through match.com, then courting a woman from Russia.

Critics like the Terra Justice Center has a

different out look, saying these men take advantage

of women oversea. But studies have contradicted these

statement and show abuse is actually lower in these

marriages. See "International Marriages - A Report to

Congress"

So why do thousands of women join these site: Elena

Kosalova of the Ukraine says, "Men here are not

serious about family, they expect women to stay home

while they go out each night with their friends and

drink. I want a man who s serious, mature and who

wants to be with his wife and family. I have met

Americans in the past and they seem more reliable and

mature." Elena rejects the idea she is a "Mail

Order Bride"

Why do men seek a mail order bride: James Goodwin,

43 of South Carolina says, " I meet women here all

the time, but I just can not find the values I am

looking for.. I have dated here for more than 20

years, After three days in Kiev, I was shock at how

many beautiful women I met that I would consider

marrying, now I am just trying to reduce my options

and pick the right one. It truly is the fastest way

to find a beautiful sincere women.

So what is the cost, the cost can range greatly from

site to site and from type of service, AFA or

loveme.com offers everything from letter writing,

tours and executive services for the rich and famous.

As little as $ 12 to as much as $ 25,000. The owner

John Adams say's the best way is just go over and

meet then women, avoid letters and never waste money

on expensive chat. You can meet up to 1000 beautiful

women in just 10 days, it will be the greatest

vacation of your life. Joe Nail of ForeignLadies.com,

has stayed with the traditional Letter Writing, Each

letter is $ 7.50 and but say they do plan on offer

some limited chat option.

Many sites like,foreignwomen.com,

PhilippineSinges.com, and UkraineSsingles.com, that

offer simple unlimited membership for $ 29 per month.

These type of site also target pacific regions, like

Asia, Latin America or Eastern Europe.

There is also a site for mail order grooms;

SingleMenOnline.com, that caters to men publishing

their photos in hopes to meet an American Bride.

James Dunn, who is a ghost writer for review sites

says "You get what you pay for. Membership sites to

do not screen the members at all. so you never know

who you really are writing, The big boys require

the women to apply in person in one of their local

offices. The companies that offer group tours will

introduce you to hundreds of beautiful women, for

the cost of $ 1000 to $ 3000 depending on location,

about the same you would pay for any vacation.

Several companies also do individual tours these can

range from $ 750 to $ 1500, But only arrange one to one

introductions, Always make sure they are biased in

the USA or EU, Most of the complaints come from

small agencies that are desperate and need to make as

much as they can from you. Just a note, if the

company is based in an a foreign country you will

have no recourse if they do not follow through.



So do mail order brides exist, If you belive a if a

woman is a mail order bride if she lives in another

county then Yes, But if you believe it just another

dating option like any on-line dating site,

matchmaker or dating service, than No. . It really

seems like a doubled standard in the world, If a

women meets a man in Italy or France, then oh that

is so romantic, but if a man meets a women in

Philippines, than ....