Actions & Words

When I was younger I fed off of words more than actions. Now that I'm wiser & more experienced in relationships I feed off actions and words. I'm into both. I feel more emotionally/mentally secure when I'm getting both. I can handle just actions for a good amount of time but I noticed if im not getting words then I start to question stuff in my head. I'm sure this is due to my paranoia & being so set on words in the past. How do the rest of u feel about this?

Posted by bubbythewhale1
Both are very important, sometimes ppl will show the actions but will justify things by saying "I was just going w/ the flow, just being nice, blah blah", w/ words they can just offer a lot of empty promises

I need communication and honesty along w/ tangible results

Yea, I hear u. Communication is so important to me & just in general.

Posted by cheekyfaerie
Words are encouraging and really nice to hear, but empty without action.

Yes agreed , but can u be ok with just actions & no words ?

Posted by confusingconfused
I can usually tell if someone loves me or not (just by the way he looks at me 😆) so it doesn't bother me if my SO doesn't verbally express his love. Actions are more important.

However, if we are in the early dating stage, still trying to figure out what we are, then sure, I'd need him to verbally confirm that we are in a relationship :p (I hate ambiguity.)

Yea I can usually tell if someone loves me or not too just by the way they look at me but still need the words, Sometimes.. I don't like ambiguity at all . I have to be in the know.. A little mystery intrigues me but there's a fine line . Being in the dark sucks lol

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Posted by SofiaV87

Posted by confusingconfused
I can usually tell if someone loves me or not (just by the way he looks at me 😆) so it doesn't bother me if my SO doesn't verbally express his love. Actions are more important.

However, if we are in the early dating stage, still trying to figure out what we are, then sure, I'd need him to verbally confirm that we are in a relationship :p (I hate ambiguity.)

Yea I can usually tell if someone loves me or not too just by the way they look at me but still need the words, Sometimes.. I don't like ambiguity at all . I have to be in the know.. A little mystery intrigues me but there's a fine line . Being in the dark sucks lol

Are you currently in a relationship with a person who just doesn't express his love verbally?

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I'm in a relationship, yes. He expresses it through actions & verbally. He's been stressed out with something serious concerning his career so I'm not getting the verbal at the moment. Actions, yes.. I miss the words sometimes lol

Posted by aphrodite3
I wish you was the real Sofia

Hahaha she's awesome

Posted by tiziani
I'm appreciating both are important.

I've met people who will say whatever they like without regard for consequence to others and they justify this by saying "my actions speak for how I really feel about you"

They have no friends.

Ugh, those kinda ppl are not in my life. They're a waste of time & energy

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Posted by SofiaV87
When I was younger I fed off of words more than actions. Now that I'm wiser & more experienced in relationships I feed off actions and words. I'm into both. I feel more emotionally/mentally secure when I'm getting both. I can handle just actions for a good amount of time but I noticed if im not getting words then I start to question stuff in my head. I'm sure this is due to my paranoia & being so set on words in the past. How do the rest of u feel about this?

I feel almost exactly the same as you. Gone are the days where words of love and flattery with no action behind them proving them to be true mean anything to me. Showing you love me means so much more. But I do need to hear it sometimes, not as much, but it still is important to me.

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Yea like for example, if I'm getting actions for a few months straight but no nice words I would be like hmmmm where are the nice words Hahahaha