4 things that make a man fall in love

A Woman with a Passion in Something Other Than Him

Yes, it's nice to be doted over. Yes, it's nice to be pampered. Yes, it's nice to be with a woman who showers you with compliments, neck kisses, and all of her attention. But there's a virtual Great Wall of China between a fleeting, flirtatious glance and the kind of attraction that can last a lifetime. Many men say they like a woman who's immersed in something else other than the relationship -- be it her work, or her sport, or whatever her "thing" is. Why? The passion she shows for something else confirms her inherent goodness, her personal drive, her independence. All pluses in the woman we're hoping to spend a few decades with.

A Woman with No Problem with Guy Time

Every relationship has to choreograph the time-together dance. Once a couple elevates from casual to serious, it goes through that period when most waking and sleeping minutes are spent together. But at some point in the dance, one person will call a time out from the music of coupledom, and try to spend more time with his or her friends -- while still being careful not to step on any feet in the process. Even when they're with the most perfect woman, men still crave the occasional space to spend golfing or drinking or doing whatever (64 percent of men are happy to have the time to themselves when their wives or girlfriends have plans). Men love, appreciate, and are thankful for women who respect and endorse (and not complain about) his need to have a few testosterone mixers. Don't worry, March Madness will be over in just a few weeks!

A Woman with a Strut

Her strut in the bar may have been part of his initial attraction. The strut from the bedroom to the bathroom after the first night together may have been pure visual ecstasy. But the strut that happens day in and day out is one of the major attractors for a man. What do I mean by the strut? It's that attitude, that sassiness, that confidence, that charisma, that charm that shows she can be a little bold and little daring. In a recent post I talked about the line between a woman being confident and a woman being so aggressive that she turns men away, but the truth is that in certain aspects of relationships, men want women who have the strut. Men want to be with women who challenge them, who push them, and who take the lead some of the times. And that's as true in the bedroom as it is in planning their next weekend getaway. The danger? While it can be insanely attractive,

While it can be insanely attractive, that strut of confidence can also swing a man 180 degrees -- if she uses it in other places, like to flirt with other guys, to become a relationship dictator, or to pick a fight with his mom in front of the whole family. He'll point that kind of strut right out the door.

A Woman with a Good Taste in Ties

Okay, so we don't really care about the ties per se. But what we care about is a woman's ability to give us a little-and this is a key word-gentle guidance. I know Freudian followers will say that it's a man's need to be mothered, but it's more than that. Every relationship is a give and take, and guys will definitely take women who can warn us when our new soul patch looks stupid, who can guide us to the perfect suit and shirt combo for an upcoming job interview, who can help them make decisions without being harsh or judgmental. Guys like to project that they know what they're doing and that they don't need any help. Women who can help steer us, without aggressively grabbing the wheel, are the most treasured copilots.

Have your own ideas about what makes us fall -- and fall hard? Share them here.

i thought this was an interesting article

It's not too bad, I like the first topic, showing passion in something else does prove that she has passion in other categories and thus shows me that she really is a driven and committed person.

10pts to the first topic 😄

what makes me fall in love is a guy that doesn't use the phrase "Guy Time" or he doesn't need a room in the house called a "Man Cave"

yes. it's called hanging out with friends and having some sense of personal space. i don't like how those phrases single people out. personally i find that disrespectful

some people might totally disagree but i see it as a restriction and that only makes me want to do something more. the purpose of a "guys night" is to hang out with friends you haven't seen for a while, not to purposely exclude someone or make them seem unwanted. it ultimately comes down to taking the term personally or not. in my eyes, it's not like i'm holding a dude hostage and making him only hang out with me and i'm not forcing him to do girly thing 24/7. but that term kinda make it sound like that. when i go out with my friends alone i'm not escaping anyone, it's because i just feel like hanging out

Everybody needs their own space/time/chill out area/friends, etc. That's not necessarily to the exclusion of their significant other; however, I think it's healthy to do your "own thing" not meaning cheating or anything, just do whatever the hell you want w/out having to worry about what someone else is thinking about it and if they are occupied, happy, etc. Oddly, when you don't press for it, people actually WANT you there. Example, I LOVE football and basketball, so every guy I date/hang out with (whatevah') always wants me to go to the bar with him and his friends. I don't know if it's so they can "show off an actual girl who not only loves the sport, but knows the sport" but I am the one who tries to exclude myself from being there, so he can be with his friends! I certainly don't want my man around if me and my girls are lunching/spaing/golfing/shopping, etc. It's good to be missed - and when you aren't constantly around, they DO miss you 🙂

is that your chickie friend?