After you get him back - do you actually keep him?

So I am apparently on some list and occasionally get these spam emails that say things like:

"Her boyfriend wanted to date other people - but she did "insert trick" and get came running back to her and proposed"

I don't know what the "trick" is because you would have to pay for that, but I guess it got me wondering, ok so guy or girl, says to you that he/she wants to see other people, in shock of course you scramble, but once cooler heads prevail, do you really want this person back? And if you did whatever that "trick" was and they came back, do you actually keep them? Isn't it always running in the back of your mind that they did this to you before?

So has anyone done one of these things to keep your partner? Did it work? And did you keep them after?

And please know that this is coming from a place of curiosity, not judgement, I know when heartbroken we do some stuff, but after is what I'm asking, what are the repercussions so to speak, or maybe there aren't any.

Is this for anyone?

Posted by AriElla7
Is this for anyone?

Yes! Please anyone feel free to chime in.

Manipulation tactics. It's one thing to win someone over outright, different story when you start slinging other options in their faces. That's all this is.

Girls who identify with having a boyfriend & a particular boyfriend care about this.

They also tend to be all about their insecurities & have control issues really....so them leaving is just a drop in the bucket I'm sure. It's about "winning".

I ran into a girl like this personally.

This girl actually started a street fight with my friend over him btw the guy left her way before he met said friend .

My friend didn't even like him like that damn much.

The ex tried every tactic.

She tried to befriend my friend for the longest and tried to low-key guilt her with her sob stories hoping my friend would pity the fact their ~great love~ is no longer and hope she would step aside. Then when that didn't work she found her & threw the water she was drinking (slob-filled mind you!) on her and pushed her thus a fight started.....not even over him but principle truly.

The kicker is he knew all of this and when him & my friend broke up with him (unrelated issues) he actually went back to that needy ex! Not even a year later, we were drinking wine and made a bunch of fake accounts surfing dating site and seen him on okcupid. Just pointless.



Dysfunctional people begets other dysfunctional people and they have their "comfortable" dysfunctional relationship.

Is the "trick" getting pregnant? lol, that's a trick as old as time itself.

I'll just say that I know cases where this applied. But it wasn't marketing, it was...we call it black magic here but I don't know what it entails.

I know more than a handful of cases. One of them a friend of my mother's. She had an obsession with this guy, her first boyfriend. She couldn't get over their breakup although she initiated it and years later, something went off track in her silent obsession. She was invited along with my mother to his wedding and I guess seeing him marrying another woman was just the push that did it. Told my mother she's going to see this gipsy chick, my mother tried persuading her otherwise. One morning he just came to her door with luggage and everything, like in a trance. Cut his wife out of his life, same for family and friends. They were together til her death, fought all the time. After she was diagnosed with leukemia she told my mother she wouldn't do it again if she could go back in time.

I realize this topic wasn't about that but it got me reminscing.