@honeyK
10 YearsGemini
do you always attract what you dont want?
it's actually pretty good that you know what you do and do not want. i see most relationship issues are due to people who have no idea what they want and don't want, thus no clear boundaries. i mean, if you don't know what you want, how can you attract that lol
be upfront of what you want. e.g. i don't think men should always pay for dates. i'm not your property and i'm not a burden thus why should a man pays everything for me. i like to balance things out but i clearly told scorp when we started dating that i hate cheap men lol. cheap ppl should stay together
@Ryoko
idk. i actually met scorp in a bar lol so i don't think there is a set rule
maybe it's the environment you are in. if there are no good decent guys, move?
I was with you until your last line.
You sound like a picky, high maintenance hoe with that last line.
But I get it. I'm a freak magnet, which is why I stopped giving a fuck about dating overall, tbh.
Posted by honeyK
I HATE dating and don't care to communicate, yet I keep getting asked out on dates.I prefer friendships over serious relationships yet KEEP getting guys that want serious relationships. I have a son and now prefer men with kids yet I keep getting men that don't have none. I prefer men who like to spoil women, I keep getting cheap men. Am I cursed—??
So which is it. You want friends or a man? Cause I doubt many friends will foot the dinner bill and treat you to a spa day
I keep attracting friends and women i'm interested in turn me into friends. Its a vicious karmic cycle
Posted by honeyK
I HATE dating and don't care to communicate, yet I keep getting asked out on dates.I prefer friendships over serious relationships yet KEEP getting guys that want serious relationships. I have a son and now prefer men with kids yet I keep getting men that don't have none. I prefer men who like to spoil women, I keep getting cheap men. Am I cursed—??
Life is a peach didn't you know that? Life's a beach. Literally!
See I like to have what you see but I also like my space but love company of friendships. I try to find one that is okay with or without having kids or isn't currently getting divorced which I seen that too. Decide and decisions of what life throws at you at the time.
Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
Posted by honeyK
I HATE dating and don't care to communicate, yet I keep getting asked out on dates.I prefer friendships over serious relationships yet KEEP getting guys that want serious relationships. I have a son and now prefer men with kids yet I keep getting men that don't have none. I prefer men who like to spoil women, I keep getting cheap men. Am I cursed—??
Life is a peach didn't you know that? Life's a bitch. Literally!
See I like to have what you see but I also like my space but love company of friendships. I try to find one that is okay with or without having kids or isn't currently getting divorced which I seen that too. Decide and decisions of what life throws at you at the time.
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Posted by Ryoko
How do you get men who want serious relationships with you? What are you doing and where are you meeting these men?I keep getting caught up in what I don't want as well except I attract weirdos and scuzzy guys usually
I attract weirdos too.
Honestly I don't even really look for a relationship. I look for friendship first or just dating to see if I will like them enough to want to be in one (I HATE relationships, to me they get dry cause they are way to serious and contained, which is boring, it's like LIVE A LITTLE. I even know some people don't even want u socializing with others especially if it's the opposite gender. Like it sounds like imprisonment) ——
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Posted by honeyK
I HATE dating and don't care to communicate, yet I keep getting asked out on dates.I prefer friendships over serious relationships yet KEEP getting guys that want serious relationships. I have a son and now prefer men with kids yet I keep getting men that don't have none. I prefer men who like to spoil women, I keep getting cheap men. Am I cursed—??
So which is it. You want friends or a man? Cause I doubt many friends will foot the dinner bill and treat you to a spa day
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When u are dating u are not exclusive nor serious, dating is a getting to know u phase so it's still like friends, your just seeing if it goes further than that. But I'm not looking to jump into a relationship just cause he took me on a date —?? I like to take my time, figure them out behind their representative, which is why I won't have sex with him until I figure him out and his INTENT.
Friends also don't fuck each other but plenty of guys would fuck or has fucked their friends. So why can't I want a fun guy that takes me on a date?
Posted by Geminariescharmer
Your subconsious is attracting what you wantplease thank me for enlightening you with this video
So I subconsciously want a man with no kids that's probably have no experience with children and could possibly abuse my child? I want a man that makes me feel unvalued instead of like a princess or queen that's worth it? Doubt it....that's theory not fact.
Posted by bumboklatt
Hmmm my female cousin is a Gemini/Taurus moon and tells me the same thing.I think Geminis look like they wanna be chatted up even when theyre not in the mood.
Air signs gotta stop being so considerate.
Let that Scorpio moon dominate when you dont want something.
cause Its like I always tell my cousin "dont want something get away from it" easy as that
U right I do— but some people when u start talking to them, and they coo, u don't want to instantly go cold like that. I never take them seriously but I give off the illusion that I do.
Posted by iCloud9
it's actually pretty good that you know what you do and do not want. i see most relationship issues are due to people who have no idea what they want and don't want, thus no clear boundaries. i mean, if you don't know what you want, how can you attract that lolbe upfront of what you want. e.g. i don't think men should always pay for dates. i'm not your property and i'm not a burden thus why should a man pays everything for me. i like to balance things out but i clearly told scorp when we started dating that i hate cheap men lol. cheap ppl should stay together
I think I do need to be more upfront, I shy away a lot. I'm a bold person, but at the same time I'm not. I'm even scared to ask for help when I need it smh.
Posted by rockyroadicecream
I was with you until your last line.You sound like a picky, high maintenance hoe with that last line.
But I get it. I'm a freak magnet, which is why I stopped giving a fuck about dating overall, tbh.
A freak magnet? Elaborate. A girl should be high matienance ure not suppose to be loose when u are picking a mate, that's something serious —? I also thought about giving up dating it is so boring, the getting to know him phase, that's partially why I hate them. But they are a good way to filter men, and beneficial because even if a man is just dating u because he only wanted sex, at least u got to enjoy nice things and have fun on his tab, so we both win. But I eiather cancel or turn down dates, hell I barely even talk on the phone, or text anybody anymore. I be too wrapped up in world life events and my thoughts. How can I be an attentive listener when I'm distracted in my thoughts on something else?
Posted by pthylare
Posted by rockyroadicecream
I was with you until your last line.You sound like a picky, high maintenance hoe with that last line.
Same. The last line means she's just looking for a beta provider.
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Why is it men will ignore everything else because money is mentioned. —? it speaks volumes about their insecurity and illogical thinking.
I knew beta life was real.
I'm picky but still bend just b3cause no one is perfect. But then the more fixed I am it's possible to see other things that they know about their own life. Before I meet them. Once i befriend and i do fairly quickly because after that I got to be at least 70 compatible it's used to be higher because yes people are impartial partially and opposites always attract. Tough life lessons.
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Posted by honeyK
Posted by Ryoko
How do you get men who want serious relationships with you? What are you doing and where are you meeting these men?I keep getting caught up in what I don't want as well except I attract weirdos and scuzzy guys usually
I attract weirdos too.
Honestly I don't even really look for a relationship. I look for friendship first or just dating to see if I will like them enough to want to be in one (I HATE relationships, to me they get dry cause they are way to serious and contained, which is boring, it's like LIVE A LITTLE. I even know some people don't even want u socializing with others especially if it's the opposite gender. Like it sounds like imprisonment) ——
I think it depends on who you're with. If you find a fun freedom loving guy, I'm sure the relationship wouldn't be like a prison.
I want someone i can have a fun time with but idk where to find such a person
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Most men are HIGHLY insecure, so a guy who can trust you and let you socialize and y'all have fun, and you can wear whatever u want WHENEVER ?! RARE.
When you are an attractive woman men do two things usually they try to convince you you are ugly and nobody wants you, or criticize u, and try to monitor how u are to keep other men from wanting u.
Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
I'm picky but still bend just b3cause no one is perfect. But then the more fixed I am it's possible to see other things that they know about their own life. Before I meet them. Once i befriend and i do fairly quickly because after that I got to be at least 70 compatible it's used to be higher because yes people are impartial partially and opposites always attract. Tough life lessons.
I bend a little to but being treated like a princess is non negotiable. My baby daddy is VERY cheap. Yet thought I was suppose to do everything he wanted, self entitled and unbalanced. I don't like the feeling cheap men give, I will never be happy with a tight wad. THATS MY PREFERENCE. some things I can bend other things I cannot. If I'm going to be in a relationship it needs to be beneficial and quality, not unfulfilled otherwise I can be by myself.
Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
I'm picky but still bend just b3cause no one is perfect. But then the more fixed I am it's possible to see other things that they know about their own life. Before I meet them. Once i befriend and i do fairly quickly because after that I got to be at least 70 compatible it's used to be higher because yes people are impartial partially and opposites always attract. Tough life lessons.
Men don't bend, I don't know why women are taught that they should bend. Women fail to realize you are not made to be for every man— that's why it's called YOUR type, YOUR standard, it belongs to you, it's personal. Every man is not suppose to get in the flood gates this how women end up in half ass, low quality relationships and some end up cheating. You can't always compromise yourself just to say you have a man. Stop compromising your standards. If a man wants you he will step up to the plate. The only beta is the ones who can't deliver.
Posted by lovinglioness1115
I keep getting lazy, rude and ugly people haha it's fine
Wow?
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Posted by Ryoko
Posted by honeyK
Posted by Ryoko
How do you get men who want serious relationships with you? What are you doing and where are you meeting these men?I keep getting caught up in what I don't want as well except I attract weirdos and scuzzy guys usually
I attract weirdos too.
Honestly I don't even really look for a relationship. I look for friendship first or just dating to see if I will like them enough to want to be in one (I HATE relationships, to me they get dry cause they are way to serious and contained, which is boring, it's like LIVE A LITTLE. I even know some people don't even want u socializing with others especially if it's the opposite gender. Like it sounds like imprisonment) ——
I think it depends on who you're with. If you find a fun freedom loving guy, I'm sure the relationship wouldn't be like a prison.
I want someone i can have a fun time with but idk where to find such a person
Stop looking and start living. If you want guys to approach you then why are you the one looking for them. If you are a guys type he will find. I promise you he will find you.
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They do approach me, I'm not looking for them. I barely even communicate with people period in these past few years, I don't go looking for eiather ?
Posted by honeyK
Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
I'm picky but still bend just b3cause no one is perfect. But then the more fixed I am it's possible to see other things that they know about their own life. Before I meet them. Once i befriend and i do fairly quickly because after that I got to be at least 70 compatible it's used to be higher because yes people are impartial partially and opposites always attract. Tough life lessons.
Men don't bend, I don't know why women are taught that they should bend. Women fail to realize you are not made to be for every man— that's why it's called YOUR type, YOUR standard, it belongs to you, it's personal. Every man is not suppose to get in the flood gates this how women end up in half ass, low quality relationships and some end up cheating. You can't always compromise yourself just to say you have a man. Stop compromising your standards. If a man wants you he will step up to the plate. The only beta is the ones who can't deliver.
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Yeah that's true. But now I'm huge on actions. I heard lots of words that hold no value. Sadly. I refuse to be another stat. Of getting with the wrong guy just because it's comfortable when it's really not.
Posted by lavaliquid
Posted by honeyK
I HATE dating and don't care to communicate, yet I keep getting asked out on dates.I prefer friendships over serious relationships yet KEEP getting guys that want serious relationships. I have a son and now prefer men with kids yet I keep getting men that don't have none. I prefer men who like to spoil women, I keep getting cheap men. Am I cursed—??
Lucky you... f off for being ungrateful
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Grateful for cheap men?
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Yeah I tend to attract what I don't want in relationship dynamics.
When I don't want a relationship I get guys call themselves "chasing" me. Even when I clearly state I'm not interested in anything serious. They would vehemently agree and bring up points or corroborate with my reasoning just to turn around and look for a serious relationship and be legitimately pissed that I don't want them. I even give myself something like emotional insurance with opposite-sex and go for guys that are obviously emotionally-unavailable or fear commitment and they're THE worst.
Me not caring for that is like catnip to them.
When I want a relationship I get a bunch of pussy-footers or guys that I don't find attractive at all (NO sense of humor) and that I ultimately have nothing in common with. It's quite irritating.
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I HATE dating and don't care to communicate, yet I keep getting asked out on dates.
I prefer friendships over serious relationships yet KEEP getting guys that want serious relationships. I have a son and now prefer men with kids yet I keep getting men that don't have none. I prefer men who like to spoil women, I keep getting cheap men. Am I cursed—??