Am I overreacting?

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So I met a Leo guy who is currently working in Spain. He seems nice and quite keen on me. We've been texting but it's very intermittent due to time differences etc. I suggested he call me instead which he wanted but we never agreed a time so the texting continued. On Tuesday he said he would call that night but by 11pm I put my phone on do not disturb because I had to be up early. The next day I got a text asking why I didn't pick up. I told him I didn't even have a missed call on my phone to which he called me a liar. It really annoyed me considering there's been times where it's taken him days to respond to my texts and I've never complained about that. Anyway I didn't make a big deal out of it he said he would call Friday night but didn't and not even a text. This morning I've blocked his number it's a shame because when we are together he makes me feel really special. I don't want to miss out on a potential relationship due to my pettiness but I don't know whether I'm being mugged off or if I'm expecting too much so early on with someone new
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Posted by pinkbird03
I dated a Leo once and he was so controlling. He wanted everything his way. Not something I could handle. Can you?
I'm starting to get that impression of him too. If I get a text I can't be bothered with all these silly keep them waiting games so will just reply, perhaps not immediately but certainly within 24 hours. He can go days without responding and I have never mentioned it but it took me a couple of days to respond to him a few weeks ago and he was all like questioning my interest.
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Posted by Koniuchaa
I don't think you are. He doesn't serious about you at all.
That's how I feel, when I do hear from him he says otherwise and makes me feel special but it's like I only hear from him when he's bored. I know it's still early days that's why I was asking whether I was justified to feel like this given this situation is not in the serious relationship stage yet.

Oh well farewell to another one perhaps it's time I got another kitten lol
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Posted by leowww
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Only 2 months. Do you think I'm being a drama queen? I feel a bit like he can't be bothered to make any effort with me but is doing just enough to make sure I'm there so when he gets back he knows he's got me waiting for him. If I don't block him and he messages me I think I might cave in and just allow the situation to continue. Am I expecting too much from him?
He sounds immature. I would have a problem with a guy calling me a liar over something so stupid & then ignoring me. I'd keep him blocked.
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I've got to admit the "liar" response has turned me off him. Even though I had my phone on do not disturb mode I'm sure a missed call would show up. Thanks for responding btw x
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Posted by ImTheRam
Well think it about this way...

Lets just say your phone didn't pick up the Missed Call...

Maybe he was so worked up to talk with you..and he thought about that all day...and you didn't answer him...

And he got mad...because in a way..you hurt his feelings...

What if the situation was like this..what wold you think about it ?

Still worth the block ?
I really really want to think along these lines but the fact is, we moved on from that and he was going to call me Friday. I sent a whatsapp saying call me on Friday night so know he read it and he didn't call or text back. i was really hoping it was me being needy but now I've put the events in writing and read it back I think it's clear he's not that interested despite what he says. Feeling a bit gutted tbh it's his birthday tomorrow was going to send him a naughty photo - thank god I didn't !! Thanks for replying x

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Posted by Ohdear
Only 2 months. Do you think I'm being a drama queen? I feel a bit like he can't be bothered to make any effort with me but is doing just enough to make sure I'm there so when he gets back he knows he's got me waiting for him. If I don't block him and he messages me I think I might cave in and just allow the situation to continue. Am I expecting too much from him?
You're not being a drama queen...for me communication is important...avoiding the situation by blocking him is not a mature decision imo

If he takes days to respond to your texts,don't reply...or if you guys are close,you can straightaway ask him...but dont let him walk all over you...Communicate!
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Posted by ImTheRam
Well think it about this way...

Lets just say your phone didn't pick up the Missed Call...

Maybe he was so worked up to talk with you..and he thought about that all day...and you didn't answer him...

And he got mad...because in a way..you hurt his feelings...

What if the situation was like this..what wold you think about it ?

Still worth the block ?
I so agree with this point of view
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Posted by AriesLove
Working in Spain must mean he's also living in Spain. I don't know where you live but obviously this would be considered a LDR.

I don't know why people waste time on these type of relationships then expect the best out of them. Find someone in your area where you can expect to have at least decent communication and dates in the near future.

He's only out there for a few weeks, is due back home end of August
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so you can take days to not respond but he cant?

also why put your phone on do not disturb if you had planned to talk to him? im sure if you were sleeping you could of answered it and spoke to him for a brief second since you TOLD him to call you...alsooo if your phone is on disturb and he is calling from whatsapp you wont get the notification.

why not just ask when he called and set up another time to talk? and now you blocked him? lol
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Posted by Ohdear
Only 2 months. Do you think I'm being a drama queen? I feel a bit like he can't be bothered to make any effort with me but is doing just enough to make sure I'm there so when he gets back he knows he's got me waiting for him. If I don't block him and he messages me I think I might cave in and just allow the situation to continue. Am I expecting too much from him?
He sounds immature. I would have a problem with a guy calling me a liar over something so stupid & then ignoring me. I'd keep him blocked.
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I agree with this. I'd be concerned that after two months he's happy to call you a liar. Chances are he knows he didn't call you so is acting up about it. It sounds like you met once or not for long and the rest has been via text.

Unless there's effort made on both parts on his return then there's no match here right now. If he takes days to respond then he's not interested or you are not important enough to him right now.

I'd also question the 'he makes me feel special' as I cannot see how he is actually making you feel special at all. Via text? Come on, that's just bullshit words. He doesn't make you feel special. You just think he does. The highs and the lows in this kind of 'relationship' are not healthy.

I'd cut your loses and keep him blocked. There's loads of decent guys out there. You just need to harnes your selection process.