Just slept with Leo guy; should I contact him or wait?

This topic was created in the Leo forum by seaclovers on Thursday, July 21, 2016 and has 30 replies.

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@wagtail
13 Years5,000+ Posts

I have no opinion either way on the rules for sleeping with etc time frames and waiting

BUT

this is a situation where I would let him chase.

Don't call or text.

Giving a man the opportunity to follow up after a situation like this, means YOU learn very quickly how much it actually meant to him.

As he demonstrated already, he isn't exactly shy about chasing after what he wants.

So, allow the Leo male to do what he does best- hunt.

Otherwise, he may become bored / pressured before something even has a chance to develop.

My initial instinct is PLAYA tho sorreh

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@TaurusBull1977
16 Years1,000+ Posts

Posted by seaclovers

I really didn't want to sleep with him. He knew this. (Because I actually really like him, and he's way out of my league...) but somehow convinced me -because it seemed like there wasn't any other option, to go back to my place.

This was not the only option.

How did he get to the bar in the first place, on foot? Or did he drive?

You mentioned something else.

The two of you slept for an hour, then his alarm went off, had sex again before dropping him back off.

Was this his car alarm? Or wake up alarm from his phone?

Did you walk him to his car? Or did you drive him to the location where his car was parked?

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@TaurusBull1977
16 Years1,000+ Posts

Posted by Instantkarma
Come on! The way you have framed few sentences, it sounds as if you weren't in a position to decide the end result of the meet. That's not true....

You can't make the guy look bad in this situation. The car was yours. You had the option of driving away... Instead of taking him home!! He is an adult. I'm sure he could have found his way home.

THANK YOU!

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@Tete
11 Years

In my experience with men, Leo's included if there is no contact next day there was no intention from their end to be anything else other than a sex buddy.

Has he reached out already?

Do not contact him, let him do it and see his intentions from there. If you do, and he is nice he might be wanting to have you there for another screw around, so don't get your hopes up.

You can change the course of things of course, if he ask you out again make him take you on a proper date and no sex, make him wait this time.

I've been in that situation so many times :/

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@newlove
10 Years

This guy is a clear cut manipulator...Leos are manipulators...he manipulated you and you got manipulated...ok not repeating the word anymore 😛

It was a first date...in addition you slept with him...

DO NOT text or call

He should contact you by tomorrow...saying how great you were how great the date was...blah blah

But after reading what you wrote...it seems that the guy is a playaaa

He even mentioned to you about the girls he's messed with or something...it sounds like he told you beforehand that he's gonna mess with you too

I maybe wrong but the way you described few things,this is the best guess

Let him initiate...atleast you will know where you stand

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@CancerLadyforLife
12 YearsCancer

I would say...It's possible he was just in it for sex. MY current significant other is a Leo and although he wanted it the first times we hung out I told him no. It led for a more fun chase I think and now he's more crazy than ever for me it seems like. Maybe message him and be like hey, hope you are doing well! 🙂 something easy and non-committal. At that point you will get your answer on whether or not where his feelings lie.

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@arose32
11 Years500+ Posts

Sag and Leo always get intense fast.. The chemistry is sexual and can not be denied.. Don't worry about these opinions.. And don't think he's a playa because he's charming.. I get tired of hearing that because someone is attractive and charming, they're players.. If you're single and good looking, why not play the field.. It's unattractive ppl that cheat too.

Give it a day or two. Sag's and Leo's relationship is built off of games for sure... Not in a negative way but cat and mouse type of games. I'm a sag and attract Leo's heavily.. They're cool, but you'll get tired of the ego feeding they require.

Good luck.

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@Sssupes
10 Years1,000+ PostsLeo

Posted by AriesLove
Posted by notsosure
Posted by AriesLove
Funny how people think you can go from hoe to high class.

Whatevs

She´s not a hore 😄 where is this coming from? And what does high class have to do with sex? I think a lot of people from "high class society" fucks around just as much as the one on welfare...

Have sex if you want. What´s the problem?

The problem is when you start backtracking to try and get what you want. It's really hard to change someone's view of you after you've done the deed.

I read some comments of "wait to see his intentions" "let him take you on a real date now". It's like trying to get a certain level of respect when you feel you lost it. I don't know what OP wants from him but I feel like she is ashamed and others are trying to give her ideas to get him where she wants him. Wherever that is.

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My view of you has now changed. I love you.

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@Sssupes
10 Years1,000+ PostsLeo

Posted by AriesLove
Posted by Sssupes
Posted by AriesLove
Posted by notsosure
Posted by AriesLove
Funny how people think you can go from hoe to high class.

Whatevs

She´s not a hore 😄 where is this coming from? And what does high class have to do with sex? I think a lot of people from "high class society" fucks around just as much as the one on welfare...

Have sex if you want. What´s the problem?

The problem is when you start backtracking to try and get what you want. It's really hard to change someone's view of you after you've done the deed.

I read some comments of "wait to see his intentions" "let him take you on a real date now". It's like trying to get a certain level of respect when you feel you lost it. I don't know what OP wants from him but I feel like she is ashamed and others are trying to give her ideas to get him where she wants him. Wherever that is.

My view of you has now changed. I love you.

No you've always had a thing for me. But the ego and pride were fighting it. They've set you free. It's off your chest now, let it out.

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Pride and ego had nothing to do with it. The fact I thought you were a snob did. Maybe you were pmsing? Just accept my love and be appreciative. It's not hard to do.

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@Sssupes
10 Years1,000+ PostsLeo

Posted by AriesLove
Posted by Sssupes
Posted by AriesLove
Posted by Sssupes
Posted by AriesLove
Posted by notsosure
Posted by AriesLove
Funny how people think you can go from hoe to high class.

Whatevs

She´s not a hore 😄 where is this coming from? And what does high class have to do with sex? I think a lot of people from "high class society" fucks around just as much as the one on welfare...

Have sex if you want. What´s the problem?

The problem is when you start backtracking to try and get what you want. It's really hard to change someone's view of you after you've done the deed.

I read some comments of "wait to see his intentions" "let him take you on a real date now". It's like trying to get a certain level of respect when you feel you lost it. I don't know what OP wants from him but I feel like she is ashamed and others are trying to give her ideas to get him where she wants him. Wherever that is.

My view of you has now changed. I love you.

No you've always had a thing for me. But the ego and pride were fighting it. They've set you free. It's off your chest now, let it out.

Pride and ego had nothing to do with it. The fact I thought you were a snob did. Maybe you were pmsing? Just accept my love and be appreciative. It's not hard to do.

I'm struggling. I want to be a snob.

But alright I'll accept it. Just say it 5 more times for the record.

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See, that's where the pride comes in. Once is good enough.

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@Cg2016
10 Years1,000+ Posts

Posted by busyeyes88
Posted by Cg2016
I meeeaaann if he likes you, he'll hit you up. If he doesn't then keep it movin. Not that deep. Stay present.

She has not heard from him that's why she's here!!!

She needs to just MOVE ON!!! It's a one night stand... No big deal.. A lot of you seem to be very ok with that concept...

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I mean I don't care for having 1 nights, but if that's what happened then ok fuck it lol. That's what it was. Maybe if she stops thinking about it he may pop up. Not the end of the world though. She'll be iite.

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@Sssupes
10 Years1,000+ PostsLeo

Posted by AriesLove
Posted by Sssupes
Posted by AriesLove
Posted by Sssupes
Posted by AriesLove
Posted by Sssupes
Posted by AriesLove
Posted by notsosure
Posted by AriesLove
Funny how people think you can go from hoe to high class.

Whatevs

She´s not a hore 😄 where is this coming from? And what does high class have to do with sex? I think a lot of people from "high class society" fucks around just as much as the one on welfare...

Have sex if you want. What´s the problem?

The problem is when you start backtracking to try and get what you want. It's really hard to change someone's view of you after you've done the deed.

I read some comments of "wait to see his intentions" "let him take you on a real date now". It's like trying to get a certain level of respect when you feel you lost it. I don't know what OP wants from him but I feel like she is ashamed and others are trying to give her ideas to get him where she wants him. Wherever that is.

My view of you has now changed. I love you.

No you've always had a thing for me. But the ego and pride were fighting it. They've set you free. It's off your chest now, let it out.

Pride and ego had nothing to do with it. The fact I thought you were a snob did. Maybe you were pmsing? Just accept my love and be appreciative. It's not hard to do.

I'm struggling. I want to be a snob.

But alright I'll accept it. Just say it 5 more times for the record.

See, that's where the pride comes in. Once is good enough.

Ok Zaddy

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@DMV
15 Years25,000+ PostsSagittarius

Posted by seaclovers
Met a Leo 4 days ago. I'm a saggie. Both of us are the same age. Both have degrees, good jobs, our own places.

He literally chased me down after seeing me walk into a restaurant, and we exchanged numbers.

We texted for 3 days, then met up last night. We went to sports bar, closed them out, then went to another bar, played darts, closed them out. It was great. He loves to talk... Pretty sure he told me his entire life story. Including Intimate details from past relationships and girls he's just messed around with. I did t think anything of it because I wasn't going to get my hopes up.and I wasnt planning on sleeping with him.

Well we closed out the bar at 3am, and the. He walked me to my car, and started making out in my car... Basically we debated for a good 30 mins on what we should do.

I really didn't want to sleep with him. He knew this. (Because I actually really like him, and he's way out of my league...) but somehow convinced me -because it seemed like there wasn't any other option, to go back to my place.

Long story short, he made it incredibly difficult to NOT lay in the same bed as him and not sleep with him. So we did. And it was really good. I'm used to being the domineering one, and he totally made me feel submissive..but in a good way.

He kept giving me praises during sex. I'm not a talker durin sex, but I did let him know when he was doing a good job.

We then slept for about an Hr, then his alarm went off and we did it again before having to drop him back off.

I really like him, but now I'm nervous I may just be another girl he slept with to him. I don't know if I should contact him, or wait till he contacts me. He's super busy with his job, and already discussed how busy he's going to be this weekend (today is Thursday) basically his only day off is Sunday.

I don't like to sleep around on the first date, and part of me knew I was t comfortable doing this, but I did want to sleep with him at the same time.

I want to think he actually genuinely likes me because he told me so much about his life and personal experiences... But im not sure if maybe that's his angle in order to sleep with women?

Any Leo male advice?

What should I do?

Do nothing.

Leos play all kinds of games to get your affection. I dont think leos and saggis make great pairs.

Imo. Leo males go hard in the beginning. They have you thinking things are so good and fair. Then you have sex with them. Then everything from that point on is determined by them. Its their way oe the highway.

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@newlove
10 Years

Posted by seaclovers

I wasnt planning on sleeping with him.

Basically we debated for a good 30 mins on what we should do.

but somehow convinced me -because it seemed like there wasn't any other option, to go back to my place.

Long story short, he made it incredibly difficult to NOT lay in the same bed as him and not sleep with him. So we did

@busyeyes88 this guy did what he does best...he knew from the very first that this girl is crazy about him and so he took advantage out of it...there was manipulation from his side and giving in was from her part...i am not blaming the guy and not supporting the girl...had it been the other way around i would have said the same thing!

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@arose32
11 Years500+ Posts

Posted by DMV
Posted by seaclovers
Met a Leo 4 days ago. I'm a saggie. Both of us are the same age. Both have degrees, good jobs, our own places.

He literally chased me down after seeing me walk into a restaurant, and we exchanged numbers.

We texted for 3 days, then met up last night. We went to sports bar, closed them out, then went to another bar, played darts, closed them out. It was great. He loves to talk... Pretty sure he told me his entire life story. Including Intimate details from past relationships and girls he's just messed around with. I did t think anything of it because I wasn't going to get my hopes up.and I wasnt planning on sleeping with him.

Well we closed out the bar at 3am, and the. He walked me to my car, and started making out in my car... Basically we debated for a good 30 mins on what we should do.

I really didn't want to sleep with him. He knew this. (Because I actually really like him, and he's way out of my league...) but somehow convinced me -because it seemed like there wasn't any other option, to go back to my place.

Long story short, he made it incredibly difficult to NOT lay in the same bed as him and not sleep with him. So we did. And it was really good. I'm used to being the domineering one, and he totally made me feel submissive..but in a good way.

He kept giving me praises during sex. I'm not a talker durin sex, but I did let him know when he was doing a good job.

We then slept for about an Hr, then his alarm went off and we did it again before having to drop him back off.

I really like him, but now I'm nervous I may just be another girl he slept with to him. I don't know if I should contact him, or wait till he contacts me. He's super busy with his job, and already discussed how busy he's going to be this weekend (today is Thursday) basically his only day off is Sunday.

I don't like to sleep around on the first date, and part of me knew I was t comfortable doing this, but I did want to sleep with him at the same time.

I want to think he actually genuinely likes me because he told me so much about his life and personal experiences... But im not sure if maybe that's his angle in order to sleep with women?

Any Leo male advice?

What should I do?

Do nothing.

Leos play all kinds of games to get your affection. I dont think leos and saggis make great pairs.

Imo. Leo males go hard in the beginning. They have you thinking things are so good and fair. Then you have sex with them. Then everything from that point on is determined by them. Its their way oe the highway.

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Seriously DMV. And us Sag's call them out too much so they "disappear" to prove a point.. Or their pride is bothered. If a Leo is playing with you, you're winning. Ignore him ... Don't play anyone else game... He will do stuff to get your attention...