Any differences—

Are there any differences bw "I need you" and "I want you" —

Need (co-dependency/ opportunity) - i depend on you. I have to have you in my life.There is something missing in my life and you supply that (sometimes financially sometimes emotionally ). I am probably not emotionally stable or secure. I may come with baggage.

Want (love/desire)- i am independent from you. I do not need you but have a strong desire to have you in my life. My shit is together, i am coming to you as a whole person. I might have other options but there is something about you that i want. You are special to me.


I want to wanted.

Want loves you for who you are. Need loves you for what you have to offer.


Imo

Posted by Magenta_Azure
Need (co-dependency/ opportunity) - i depend on you. I have to have you in my life.There is something missing in my life and you supply that (sometimes financially sometimes emotionally ). I am probably not emotionally stable or secure. I may come with baggage.

Want (love/desire)- i am independent from you. I do not need you but have a strong desire to have you in my life. My shit is together, i am coming to you as a whole person. I might have other options but there is something about you that i want. You are special to me.


I want to wanted.

Wow, thannk you very much for very clear explanation...Really make sense to me

Posted by Magenta_Azure
Need (co-dependency/ opportunity) - i depend on you. I have to have you in my life.There is something missing in my life and you supply that (sometimes financially sometimes emotionally ). I am probably not emotionally stable or secure. I may come with baggage.

Want (love/desire)- i am independent from you. I do not need you but have a strong desire to have you in my life. My shit is together, i am coming to you as a whole person. I might have other options but there is something about you that i want. You are special to me.


I want to wanted.

On point

I want some chocolate chip cookie dough ice cream but

I need to go to the store to buy some because I am out fuck man...and it's midnight. Damn

Posted by Hawaiiangirl
Are there any differences bw "I need you" and "I want you" —

Yes

"I need you" = insecurities

"I want you" = confident and secure

While on the big picture, I agree with Magenta on the difference between Need and Want. Need being highly co-dependent and generally shows someone with a low self-esteem.

However, I have found to "Need" someone can carry a much stronger and deeper meaning, but one that should not be used loosely. Whereas, I want you at that point carries a lesser meaner.

I Want you: I choose you to be in my life. You are there. But don't get me wrong. You can easily be removed from my life just like that. I will put my self preservation ahead of anything in relationship.

I need you: I think this should really only be used once in your life. This is past the point of want. To the point of full complete trust and where you are able to expose your vulnerabilities and be completely naked. I need you because you complete me. We depend on each other and fully trust one another to be and do what they are suppose to in the relationship. I still will go on in life if you are not there with me but I will never be the same as a part of me is forever gone with you.

I don't know if I explained it correctly. Jill Scott did great with it in her song "The Fact is" I can do all these things by my damn self, but I need you.

Posted by Magenta_Azure
Want loves you for who you are. Need loves you for what you have to offer.


Imo

Nice

I ran out of milk. I need milk.

I ran out of milk. I want milk.

I need to get to know this guy better.

I want to get to know this guy better.

You can sit and need the milk/or need to know the guy all day, doesn't do jack shit for you.

However, when I run out of milk or want to get to know a guy, I go and get it or get to know the guy because I WANT it/that.

The difference between need and want is KNOWING exactly what you are capable of and DOING no matter what the end result will be.

May depend on upbringing and being taught, if you WANT something you go after it. Those who don't will continue to think you "need" it while doing nothing about it to alleviate the "need".

...just a personal perspective nothing more.

I see that all the time in my profession. It's sad and sweet. A couple like that. I know...

Yeah that's the meaning of want and need, I want and need you by my side when I am sick or dying and only have a few more minutes or days with you my love...

Where's your Pluto cheeky?

Oh I see. I have Libra in Pluto. It's sentimental and compassion type of stuff I just yearn for someday...Lol I want to grow old with my lover..

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Posted by TheLioness79
While on the big picture, I agree with Magenta on the difference between Need and Want. Need being highly co-dependent and generally shows someone with a low self-esteem.

However, I have found to "Need" someone can carry a much stronger and deeper meaning, but one that should not be used loosely. Whereas, I want you at that point carries a lesser meaner.

I Want you: I choose you to be in my life. You are there. But don't get me wrong. You can easily be removed from my life just like that. I will put my self preservation ahead of anything in relationship.

I need you: I think this should really only be used once in your life. This is past the point of want. To the point of full complete trust and where you are able to expose your vulnerabilities and be completely naked. I need you because you complete me. We depend on each other and fully trust one another to be and do what they are suppose to in the relationship. I still will go on in life if you are not there with me but I will never be the same as a part of me is forever gone with you.

I don't know if I explained it correctly. Jill Scott did great with it in her song "The Fact is" I can do all these things by my damn self, but I need you.

This.

Want is a fickle word. Need is to my core. It's a vow. Need doesn't have to be need*y*.

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I asked the husband what his thoughts are on the difference between want and need. He had the same response. I thought that was interesting.

You're really asking for clarification, as to the meaning of two words?

Most people answered you as if you were a child, and they had to simplify definitions for the emotionally immature, with no life experiences enough to be able to comprehend the difference between want and need.

wow ... so, since you're obviously not the 5 yo, who would ask such a question ... the logical conclusion becomes = you don't know where you stand in a relationship, so you're grabbing for any crumbs you can find, by trying to twist words around to satisfy your insecurity.

So, then the next problem here. You are the one experiencing this. You have no recognition of the nuances between the two of you, you are just going through the motions, not really grasping the unsaid energy of ardor? ... or a lack, thereof?

It's not cute to pretend confusion.

I want a whole lot of different people, but I can only need that someone.

It's a no-brainer to me. Want is too aimless, it's fast-food for the heart and mind. It doesn't really say anything. It's for passionless plants. Need is for people with blood pumping through their veins. Need hurts in places want never can. God forbid we should need in the age of self-empowerment and personal "growth" or the boogeyman will get ya.

This many seem to confuse; having a harmonious & complementary set of dysfunctions between eachother (no one's perfect) hence needing one another,, with just one or both parties having a needy personality in general. Not the same at all.

I'm with enfant ^^

Sure "Need" to some people means co-dependent, but a person who says that sees the person they love as a burden and people like that have cold blood running through their veins, soft cocks.

For some when it comes to love its all or nothing, declaring that you Need someone shows you are vulnerable and that you have let down your walls, its beautiful...

Like someone said before Need is like air and food, want is something like a car...

Wanting someone is superficial and relates to what you see.

Needing someone is deeper and relates to how you feel.

If you Want to be someone's object thats fine its nice for a little while, fun and cute (childs play) but be prepared to be replaced when they grow bored of you or when u break...you learn a lot about yourself but don't get caught up in this cycle because it may become the only way you know how to love

If you need to be the air another breathes that's very intense you could be suffocated.....Its best to be the wind beneath someones wings lol cheesy I know....but that's the bright side of needing someone, doesn't have to be co dependent there is such a thing as co independant.

You get it.

Posted by enfant_terrible
I want a whole lot of different people, but I can only need that someone.

It's a no-brainer to me. Want is too aimless, it's fast-food for the heart and mind. It doesn't really say anything. It's for passionless plants. Need is for people with blood pumping through their veins. Need hurts in places want never can. God forbid we should need in the age of self-empowerment and personal "growth" or the boogeyman will get ya.

This many seem to confuse; having a harmonious & complementary set of dysfunctions between eachother (no one's perfect) hence needing one another,, with just one or both parties having a needy personality in general. Not the same at all.

I have to fully endorse this statement - and take it even further, as an Aquarius male with Venus in Pisces I would definitely say I actually a wide variety of people.

I need animate objects, I want inanimate objects.

If there is anyone who is in my life, I need them there, if I don't they most likely aren't in my life. If I just want someone, I don't really care about them. If I need someone like my mother, like my best friends, like my girl, like my two dogs, then I love them.

Then again I'm an puddle of sugar saturated water under my tough and prideful Aqua/Leo skin. Everyone who knows me well has probably seen me cry. If they don't know me well, they'd think I'm an ass, or conceited.

But yes, to me if you just want someone, it's okay, but if you need someone, that's better.