Anyone had fwb turn into more ?

Been dating this person for half year. He has a lot of problems he's working out and his life just went downhill. He then told me that he likes me just a friend. He stared treating me like it was in beggining ... Sweet ... Caring ... Now we turned into friends with benefits. Except we hang out and cuddle and do all those things that friends with benefits don't do. He also seems more possessive now.

Anyone had experience with friends with benefits that turned into more ?
I know there are many against this type of thing and I was too, but something keeping me there

Yes, that's all it will be. If it turns in to more, then it will, but don't wait around for it. In my past experience, unless they step up to the plate and tell you it is something more, than FWB is all it is. Him being possessive its him being territorial, if there was more to it, as in feelings, then I would imagine he would be a man about it and take it to the next level.

nahh when it starts off with just sex, there's nothing to look forward to, is there?

Having a fwb is still a relationship. It's just a more selfish version of one. Just my .02

That is a perfect way of describing it.

Yes I have.

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Posted by aquapiscescusp
nahh when it starts off with just sex, there's nothing to look forward to, is there?

God forbid you have a great personality, sense of humor and stuff to go with your anatomical bits, eh?

Anybody can fuck. Not everybody's fun to hang out with.

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Yes.

Posted by yellowsweater
my first love began as sort of a fwb. for me, it was more like a sexual exploration because i was young and inexperienced. i didn't have sex with him for a couple months but we fooled around in other ways. pretty soon it blossomed into something deep and powerful, and we didn't move on from each other after it ended until about 2 years later.

I agree. My first bf started as a fwb situation back in HS. We ended up in a relationship...but I broke his heart in the end. He was a Taurus.

Not for me. There is a always a reason why I opted for FB instead of "normal" dating. For example, I didn't want a rebound relationship.

However, I could imagine "soul mates" finding in each other on a FB site. Unusual way, yet perfect timing!

If you knew each other as friends, then went for a FWB, then wanted more...........it's not clear for me why you opted for a FWB in the first instance. Surely you could check your sexual compatibility during one night stand with the "friend" you have a special interest in..........don't need a trial period with a title, aka FWB!

SORRY CHEEKY IM OLD FASHION I GUESS I OPEN DOORS FOR DATES AND EVEN WOMEN I DON'T KNOW,
I PICK UP THE TAB , I WAS RAISED TO RESPECT WOMEN SOME DON'T CARE FOR THAT I KNOW FINE I CAN ALWAYS BE POLITE AND FEEL GOOD ABOUT MYSELF

TRUE

Posted by Aquagirl2014
Been dating this person for half year. He has a lot of problems he's working out and his life just went downhill. He then told me that he likes me just a friend. He stared treating me like it was in beggining ... Sweet ... Caring ... Now we turned into friends with benefits. Except we hang out and cuddle and do all those things that friends with benefits don't do. He also seems more possessive now.

Anyone had experience with friends with benefits that turned into more ?
I know there are many against this type of thing and I was too, but something keeping me there

Don't get your hopes up until he makes you his official girlfriend.

You mentioned that his life is in bad shape right now. You may not wanna hear this but people who start dating someone during tough times in their lives either are extremely distant/isolated OR they are overly affectionate/clingy, etc.

Clearly he's being the 2nd way. Doesn't mean that he's truly interested in you or that if things in his life were better that he'd be treating you the same.

Understand that possessiveness vey rarely has anything to do with the other person. Possessiveness comes from the inside out, not the outside in...meaning some people are naturally possessive with EVERYONE, it's just that we don't pay close enough attention until their attention is on us

Not trying to be a negative nancy, just trying to save you from the kind of thinking that gets women hurt during these "FWB" times.

Some men have a need to get temporarily close/affectionate/paate with women when they are going through a temporary depression or bad stage in life. Keyword is TEMPORARY...meaning as soon as the depression/bad phase goes away, so does their short mini romances with the people they clung to during that short time

Any major decisions (especially love) he makes right now are probably not 100% genuine. Why? Well b/c it's hard to distinguish real long term-type feelings from lust when you're vulnerable & going through a lot.

He's probably not a bad player or person. Hell I'm sure really believes himself when he says he feels a certain way

All I'm saying is that you'll only really know that it's genuine UNTIL:
1. He comes out of his funk (That way you'll know that he made that decision/owned those feelings from a LOGICAL state of mind, not just emotional)

And

2. He'll treat you the exact s

2. Hell treat you the exact SAME after his funk wears off!

And most importantly,

3. His oh so sweet words will be backed by actions.

Until you've personally witness all 3 for yourself & with your own eyes lol, keep your heart at bay. You have nothing to lose that way. BUT if you fall for this guy before he's fully proven himself worthy of having your time/body/feelings/heart, you have WAY MORE to lose in the long run!

Good luck =)

It should never be a good look or feeling when someone starts to only want you b/c they are lonely or depressed.

Just like sex can make a woman think feelings & long-term potential is there when it really isn't, so can depression & loneliness.

If a man "suddenly" starts liking you for any of these reasons or during any of these times, you might want to take a 2nd look before jumping in:

1. He just got out of a relationship...(Sure he wants you. You're a rebound)

2. He's depressed...(He's only sweating you hard b/c you're the only one whose around & who can fill the voids he has simply due to the depression itself)

3. He notices that you're moving on to someone else...(He doesn't want you, he just doesn't want someone else to have you.)

4. He's lonely...(Just like beer goggles/being drunk can make you think a person looks/is better than they really are, so can the feeling of loneliness)

Just saying, it's something to think about. For him, you might just be the option he had when he was feeling down & needing a little bit of loving. Doesn't make him a bad person, just that he may not realize that while this is just temporary/a fling for him, your long-term feelings are actually getting involved

Instead of counting on him (or any depressed person) to spare your time b/c it's not fair to be lead on, it's up to YOU to use your common sense, trust your instincts & protect yourself from being lead on. That's YOUR job, not his