Anal?

Just curious what seems to be guys obsession with it and if there are actually any women that enjoy this? My boyfriend wants to try eventually but I just can't imagine if being pleasurable, more like taking a crap and I worry about....accidents.

Thoughts, experiences? Lol

dirty business if you ask me

Whats with all the lame BUNs? I mean Puns! LOL!

Lol at the puns!!

Well I've heard mixed things....I'm just afraid it will be a shitty mess. I'm a very shitty individual with IBS etc lol

Worst case scenario: like size zero said, excruciating pain.

Average scenario: awkwardness and a sense of demeaning.

Best case scenario: indifference and boredom because there was no way in hell I was going to be able to get off like that.

Just my experience though.

I was told it can feel good with lots of preparation, butt plugs, lots of lube, and very slowly easing in.

Shit before hand and then shower in depth.

My room mate, "Tell your bfs dick can't go where his mouth can't....tell him to man up."

Well no...I've been reading this and that's what I've heard.

This is what Taurus roomie told me. Said took 6 months of PREP with old gf before he could put it in.

Haha!!

I enjoy it. Hurt the first couple of times then became very enjoyable. Never had an 'ASScidnet' either.

Just ask him if it was otherwise. I think it can damage more than good.

just use make sure to use a condom!

You should with someone who you love or trust. Anal sex can be really bad for your body if done inproperly and it's dangerous and one of the easiest ways to get HIV.

People act like it's just something to think about and it will never happened to them. Than boom it does and it will change your life forever.

The day and age we live in you should be extra careful. Not saying you can't have fun and try everything you want just be safe as you can about it.

I like it from time to time.

Nope. Not for me.

My husband and I have a good sexual drive & good ole' fashion mmm mmm good loving, but we don't need the backdoor for good ole' fashioned loving. LOL

Posted by starlover
Any guy that asks a woman for it, should be prepared to take
it back

Fair is fair

🙂

BULL SHITZ!

If my gf likes anal sex, why must I like ramming something up my ass too?

This is the kind of reasoning that got us to the famous "guys who like sticking it in their gf's butts are latent homosexuals"

So if I like blowjobs that must make me a latent homosexual because guys have mouths too?!

tried it a few times. i feel like it's an acquired taste that i'm on my way to acquiring.

not everyone felt great smoking cigarettes their first time. and i'll bet not everyone enjoyed the flavor of beer their first time either.

I'm all about trying nearly everything at least once.

Except for you know, S&M and I 100% refuse to do a Threesome with my partner no matter how long I've been with them. 80% of the time from I know of, it ruins relationships and I don't share with anyone.

But I would be up for trying anal...I just can't see how I would ever orgasm that way?

How does that not make sense...there are many people who can't see themselves having an orgasm from anal, or not being able to have one. It's not everyones cup of tea.

If I do it, I want to make sure I take all the proper prep to GET IT RIGHT. So many guys think they can just stick it in...apparently there are warm ups, lots of lube, start out with one inch of the dick at the time...and the guy shouldn't expect to be able to fit it all the way in on the first go.

Oh yes, and a good crap at least an hour before and a good shower after!

Any other tips, feel free.

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Posted by enfant_terrible

Posted by starlover
Any guy that asks a woman for it, should be prepared to take
it back

Fair is fair

🙂

BULL SHITZ!

If my gf likes anal sex, why must I like ramming something up my ass too?

This is the kind of reasoning that got us to the famous "guys who like sticking it in their gf's butts are latent homosexuals"

So if I like blowjobs that must make me a latent homosexual because guys have mouths too?!

If she likes it, that's one thing. But if you're pressuring her into trying it, then he should be willing to take a strap-on up the ass if the girl wants to do that to you.

And your last comparison is invalid. If u like blowjobs, u should be willing to go down on her. Believe it or not, vaginas can be orally stimulated, too.

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Fair enough, regarding the first part.

But how is my last comparison invalid? What's the difference between sticking it in her mouth and sticking it in her ass, in terms of homosexual tendencies? Men have mouths and rectums just like women.

And about the last part where you seem to be enlightening me about oral stimulation-- thank you, my dear sir or madam. Thank you very much. But you're preaching to the choir.

And furthermore I really don't think that just because I accept eating her pussy means she must go along with sucking my dick. Contrary to popular belief it is NOT on equal terms because she may be grossed out by having me in her mouth while I'm all "meh, no big deal" about eating her out. And vice versa. I just wish people would start seeing the absurdity of these "contracts". This pretty much applies to all aspects of a relationship.

Once the sex becomes a chore it can only go downhill from there!

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Posted by brianc213
I didn't know there was a strategy guide on how to go about doing it anal? I just can't imagine how my girl would like that? Does it hurt for you ladys? I am pretty huge down there so I would imagine it not being a pleasent feeling.

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LOL

Posted by starlover
Because the golden rule of sex is dont do anything unless you
are comfortable having it done to yourself ~ it is about balance

so it is you that is talking BULLSHITZ

And who said anything about being homoesexual—

Interesting 😉

Let me tackled this from the opposite direction-- so your logic is that if I'm comfortable sticking a dildo up my ass, my girlfriend should be comfortable or at least accepting, of having me jump her from behind too, right? I mean that's what you'e saying? If I can do it myself her argument is invalid, just like if I can't do it, my argument is invalid?

No comment at your passive-aggressive pun, and adding for the sake of the topic that I've never actually engaged in anal sex with any of my gfs, nor have I ever been very curious about it either... strangely enough. Though Robyn's storytelling abilities suddenly make my nether region ich at the thought of it. And not in a bad way.

*Nothing is ever simple when engaging in a convo with you.*

Yes, I get that much. Already covered that. Forced entry is forced. But compromise doesn't always have to mirror the exact thing that the other person brings to the table. We're all coming from different places.

If I'm ok with eating your pussy and you are absolutely grossed out about sucking my dick, the compromise is not equal. It stands to reason that I shouldn't deny you that pleasure out of general principle. Same goes for anal sex.

We could also bring in sociological and cultural factors into the equation: a man may apart from the initial pain, feel that it is emasculating to be pegged by a chick, while a woman doesn't have that (psychological) concern over her head!

Nothing can ever be fully equal, and compromises can't always mirror eachother!

Posted by seraph
http://www.mckinley.illinois.edu/handouts/anal_sex.html

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Why do some people do it?

The anus is full of thousands of nerve endings both inside and outside, making it very sensitive. For some people, the anus is an erogenous zone that can respond to sexual touch and stimulation.

The highest concentration of nerve endings is around the anal opening itself. The outer portion of the rectum, like the vagina, has several nerve endings. The inner portion responds mostly to pressure. Some people enjoy the feelings of pressure and fullness once they understand that these sensations do not presage an impending bowel movement.

In men, the prostate - which is just beyond the rectal wall, a few inches in, towards the front of the body - can be a source of pleasure when massaged by a finger, an object, or a penis. Also, the lower end of the penis, or "bulb", is near the anal opening. It is stimulated indirectly by most types of anal sex.
Anal pleasure can be psychological as well as physical.

Can anal sex lead to orgasm?
Most people require direct genital stimulation in order to climax. On the other hand, a few people have orgasms only with anal stimulation.

A minority of men and women can achieve orgasm from anal sex without direct genital stimulation. Women probably do so through pelvic muscle contractions - and a small minority even through the sheer excitement of being anally penetrated. When men experience an orgasm from anal stimulation, they tend to focus on the prostate. They may they are also be responding to indirect stimulation of the penile bulb.

Orgasms from anal stimulation are most likely to occur when the participants become thoroughly absorbed in their sensations and fantasies (as with vaginal or oral sex).
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But isn't the entire body sensitive to stimuli. Some have received orgasm through breast manipulation.
The anus has to have sensitive nerves to let you know when your shit is too hard to pass. Meaning change your diet for better health. It's not meant for a penis to penetrate. The muscles push out and downward, not in and upward. Which makes penal penetration risky. Unless there are other methods that reduce the potential damage to the sphincter.

Posted by LunarMaiden
It's not meant for a penis to penetrate. The muscles push out and downward, not in and upward. Which makes penal penetration risky. Unless there are other methods that reduce the potential damage to the sphincter.

Well, the swallow-reflex "pushes downwards" but there are still women who refuse to swallow.

Care to elaborate on that? 😛

Posted by enfant_terrible

Posted by LunarMaiden
It's not meant for a penis to penetrate. The muscles push out and downward, not in and upward. Which makes penal penetration risky. Unless there are other methods that reduce the potential damage to the sphincter.

Well, the swallow-reflex "pushes downwards" but there are still women who refuse to swallow.

Care to elaborate on that? 😛

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You are talking about a gag reflex, the throat was meant for food to pass through. The mind knows a penis is not food and will react instinctively. However, if you can get to the mental state of thinking the penis tickling your tonsils is food passing then those reactions are reduced. Requires a total state of mind, mouth and throat relaxation and non-resistance. Very difficult and takes practice.

Let me go to work, I refuse to be late for this topic!!!!

Posted by xygeneration
I love lunar

Hi xGen. 🙂

Thank you Lunar, for taking my question seriousely.

I thought was just being an ass here. 😛

Niice 🙂

(I'm learning stuff)

Posted by robyn808
He thought that too, it really drove his desire to prove it. I don't really understand the fascination but whatever.

It's the internet-porn generation. Everything has to be "visually striking". If she doesn't respond like a firehose it means she's not quite there yet.

@brianc213: Judging by your posts I thought you were something like 19 years old, but you're practically my age. Dude, chill. Wipe those sad faces off your mug. If you keep pushing her with that shit the sex will eventually turn into a chore and you won't even get her to "squirm and tremble" anymore. And I'm talking out of my ass here, but I am positive squirting DOES NOT make for a more powerful orgasm, it may however seem that way to the girl because it brings a visual element into the equation.

Posted by brianc213
The closest I ever got was getting my girl to squirm and tremble, but nothing ever came out 😢 😢 double sad face moment if I recall.

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Posted by robyn808
*raises hand*

I've had an orgasm from a foot massage. I mean it was intended to be a sexual experience and thank god it wasn't in the middle of a pedicure at the saloon.

http://www.dk.co.uk/static/cs/uk/11/features/reflexology/footchart.html

Did someone say FOOT orgasm?

Nowwww.....*ahem*

that's something that is VERY doable. Ohhhhh the stories with me and hubs. That's all I'm gonna say.
(nope, no inserting of any of the kind) just......pure orgasm.

-shy sneaky laugh-

oh this is supposed to be the "anal" thread. LOL

Can you imagine, Robyn, if you were actually getting a pedicure and there were alot of people around?

The guy who is giving you the massage is someone you are so attracted to?

You'd probably be doing this:

What's with the bullying?

WHAT EVER HAPPEN TO THAT GEN GAL WHO LIKED TO TAKE IT US THE BUM?

Yeah this must be onehundredeleventh time the guy gets the 'duck/kissy face' -pun since he uploaded that pic. You'd think it would get old after a while... or that the puns would get more original.

Ok I admit it, I am Seraph!

Seraph, you heard the lady... show her my penis!

Why do men want to have anal sex?
Is it just the fact that it's an available hole?

Posted by LunarMaiden
Why do men want to have anal sex?
Is it just the fact that it's an available hole?

I will never do it but I know, it's tight and women scream.

Its all about friction.

IM THINKING WHO EVER STARTED THIS THREAD WANT TO TAKE IT UP THE BUM TO FIND OUT WHAT ITS LIKE
HAS PRIENCE POSTED YET?

I,LL HAVE TO PASS ON THAT

AGREE WITH THAT STATEMENT

I JUST READ AN ARTICAL ABOUT THE FEMALE HAND
IT SAID THAT THEIR INDEX FINGER IS LONGER THAN THEIR RING FINGER
SO THIS IS WHY THEY LIKE TO STICK THE INDEX FINGER UP THEIR BUTTS WHEN FUCKING