Can anyone explain this guy?

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Can anyone explain this guy?
Me and this guy have been friends for a couple of years, but thats all it's ever been, however he's always talked to me like we are more than friends. Recently he has said indirect things like i want a relationship now, i want to find a girl and settle down etc etc.. but its all indirect nothing where he has said with you etc etc.

Anyway in the last couple of weeks he has tried calling me but i havn't had the time to speak to him or anything, i havn't returned his calls, i'v been quite busy.. so after a few times of ringing me he text messaged me (this is very unusual for him he NEVER messages me), but i assumed its because i hadn't called him back or nothing.

He messaged asking me to listen to a song and tell him what i think, so i was thinking thats unusual again..because he's never bothered enough to message me normall about music lol.. so then i listened to the song and i was like :O.. is he trying to tell me something. to me the words practically described our situation.

the words are : baby i've known you for a long long time, i never thought that we would find, what we are holding in our hands, lately i've been thinking i should make you mine, been thinking that we should define what we are, you know i like to be in control but recently i don't know what to do i'm losing it over you,

we both feel the same, and i can't play this game any longer

girl i think about you all of the time, wondering how im going to make you mine,so many things ive been wanting to say, held in my heart for a day like today, i want to hold you till the light fades away..


thats the basic jist of the song...

so after he messaged me asking me to tell him what i think... i said i would listen to it later.... and then that very same day he did ring me again... before i'd even messaged him anything back about it..because i was confusedd.. as to whether he was trying to tell me something... or whether i was thinking to much in to it

so i rang him back a few days later.... and he didnt mention it again ... so i thought i would... i said yes so about that song... its not your normal type of song that you like (i didn't wanna be too obvious).. i was just trying to find out his reasons for asking me to listen to it.. and he said not really...BUT I REALLY LIKE THE WORDS....i said ok kool.. and that was it end of.... he didnt even ask me my opinion of it or anything more...

This was what he hinted to me ONLY a couple of month
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Can anyone explain this guy?
Me and this guy have been friends for a couple of years, but thats all it's ever been, however he's always talked to me like we are more than friends. Recently he has said indirect things like i want a relationship now, i want to find a girl and settle down etc etc.. but its all indirect nothing where he has said with you etc etc.

Anyway in the last couple of weeks he has tried calling me but i havn't had the time to speak to him or anything, i havn't returned his calls, i'v been quite busy.. so after a few times of ringing me he text messaged me (this is very unusual for him he NEVER messages me), but i assumed its because i hadn't called him back or nothing.

He messaged asking me to listen to a song and tell him what i think, so i was thinking thats unusual again..because he's never bothered enough to message me normall about music lol.. so then i listened to the song and i was like :O.. is he trying to tell me something. to me the words practically described our situation.

the words are : baby i've known you for a long long time, i never thought that we would find, what we are holding in our hands, lately i've been thinking i should make you mine, been thinking that we should define what we are, you know i like to be in control but recently i don't know what to do i'm losing it over you,

we both feel the same, and i can't play this game any longer

girl i think about you all of the time, wondering how im going to make you mine,so many things ive been wanting to say, held in my heart for a day like today, i want to hold you till the light fades away..


thats the basic jist of the song...

so after he messaged me asking me to tell him what i think... i said i would listen to it later.... and then that very same day he did ring me again... before i'd even messaged him anything back about it..because i was confusedd.. as to whether he was trying to tell me something... or whether i was thinking to much in to it

so i rang him back a few days later.... and he didnt mention it again ... so i thought i would... i said yes so about that song... its not your normal type of song that you like (i didn't wanna be too obvious).. i was just trying to find out his reasons for asking me to listen to it.. and he said not really...BUT I REALLY LIKE THE WORDS....i said ok kool.. and that was it end of.... he didnt even ask me my opinion of it or anything more...

This was what he hinted to me ONLY a couple of month
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Can anyone explain this guy?
Me and this guy have been friends for a couple of years, but thats all it's ever been, however he's always talked to me like we are more than friends. Recently he has said indirect things like i want a relationship now, i want to find a girl and settle down etc etc.. but its all indirect nothing where he has said with you etc etc.

Anyway in the last couple of weeks he has tried calling me but i havn't had the time to speak to him or anything, i havn't returned his calls, i'v been quite busy.. so after a few times of ringing me he text messaged me (this is very unusual for him he NEVER messages me), but i assumed its because i hadn't called him back or nothing.

He messaged asking me to listen to a song and tell him what i think, so i was thinking thats unusual again..because he's never bothered enough to message me normall about music lol.. so then i listened to the song and i was like :O.. is he trying to tell me something. to me the words practically described our situation.

the words are : baby i've known you for a long long time, i never thought that we would find, what we are holding in our hands, lately i've been thinking i should make you mine, been thinking that we should define what we are, you know i like to be in control but recently i don't know what to do i'm losing it over you,

we both feel the same, and i can't play this game any longer

girl i think about you all of the time, wondering how im going to make you mine,so many things ive been wanting to say, held in my heart for a day like today, i want to hold you till the light fades away..


thats the basic jist of the song...

so after he messaged me asking me to tell him what i think... i said i would listen to it later.... and then that very same day he did ring me again... before i'd even messaged him anything back about it..because i was confusedd.. as to whether he was trying to tell me something... or whether i was thinking to much in to it

so i rang him back a few days later.... and he didnt mention it again ... so i thought i would... i said yes so about that song... its not your normal type of song that you like (i didn't wanna be too obvious).. i was just trying to find out his reasons for asking me to listen to it.. and he said not really...BUT I REALLY LIKE THE WORDS....i said ok kool.. and that was it end of.... he didnt even ask me my opinion of it or anything more...

This was what he hinted to me ONLY a couple of month
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Posted by Metoo
Here is some honest advice...quit playing games. Clearly he is trying to get ahold of you and texting you. Everyone has a minute to pick up the phone, maybe not for casual friends, but a friend of a few years trying to reach out to you...and the lyrics that he took the time to send you and I am sure that was hard for him to take a chance. Stop being coy and dont string him along. If you feel the same, tell him and if not...tell him. I hate when girls play mind games.




SORRY dxp didnt let me post the whole problem so here goes.... this is what happened after he told me about the song.that he wants a relationship... in that time I basically said that I don't want one now...I'm not looking for it..and this isn't the time... but its not like I said I don't see you that way nothing of that sort..
and we've still continued contact he still calls me I call him etc... etc... but as friends
.fast forward mayb two or three months and then he tells me this only this week :


he says to me that he met up with some other girl who is really interested in him , how she's the one who likes him and that he thinks she's too keen and he

doesn't like it... YET... he's seen her a couple of times...and they went on what seemed like a date... to the cinema and then they went to a park..and according to him she was very touchy feely... and every time she got too close he would try to stop anything from happening... BUT then he said that at one point she ended up kissing him he said he didn't kiss her back or whatever... and that he isn't going to see her again ..even though she's very persistent. and then he says to me she looked so : good that he was finding it hard to get away from her ...and I just thought to myself its bad enough what you're telling me in the first place yet you have to add on those extra details about how great she looked?


what I don't understand is why is it that not too long ago he's declaring that he's "losing it over me" wants to meet me up and see what happens..and then he goes out and meets with this girl knowing that she really likes him...allows her to kiss him but then doesn't want to go any further with her or see her again EVEN THOUGH SHE APPARENTLY LOOKS HOT
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Why should it bother you and why do you even need to question him— You don't want him so he's out there looking for someone else. He hasn't found her yet but nothing wrong with having a play. You seem to think that because he caught some feelings for you and you aren't ready to reciprocate that he should sit around with his finger up his arse waiting until you are! Got news for you...no one is that "Great" that a guy is going to hold off and wait indefinitely for them.

You don't want him but you don't want anyone else to have him...think you are the one with the problem!
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Posted by Metoo
Here is some honest advice...quit playing games. Clearly he is trying to get ahold of you and texting you. Everyone has a minute to pick up the phone, maybe not for casual friends, but a friend of a few years trying to reach out to you...and the lyrics that he took the time to send you and I am sure that was hard for him to take a chance. Stop being coy and dont string him along. If you feel the same, tell him and if not...tell him. I hate when girls play mind games.







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Posted by sweethearts
Why should it bother you and why do you even need to question him— You don't want him so he's out there looking for someone else. He hasn't found her yet but nothing wrong with having a play. You seem to think that because he caught some feelings for you and you aren't ready to reciprocate that he should sit around with his finger up his arse waiting until you are! Got news for you...no one is that "Great" that a guy is going to hold off and wait indefinitely for them.

You don't want him but you don't want anyone else to have him...think you are the one with the problem!








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