can anyone tell me what is he doing?

I have dated a guy for only a month in england before I come back to my own country. 2 days before I came back, I slept over at his home but we didn't have sex, just some caressing n kisses. I know he wanted it a lot but I didn't want to so he just kissed me the whole night. After I came back. He has been texting me everyday n we talked quite a lot on whatsapp. N weekend on Skype for few hours. He told me how bad I'm as I dumped him n how he misses me. He even talks a bit about "future" with me like weddings, whether my family will like him or not and so on.

Recently, he suddenly turns cold n he only texts me 2-3days once. There's one time he was like that n he told me he's sick and was very sorry about it. So this time, I called him n checked whether he's alright (I said I worry that he's being sick). He said I'm sweet n he's just being busy. He then texted me after work but we become so distant. He still texts me like how r u? When I ask how's ur work. He said I'm good Thx. It takes him few days to reply my text...

I will go back in may for around 3 weeks. He told me his plan on our "Valentine's date" on skype. He seems quite sure that I'm staying at his n said he will get a spare key for me etc (although I did mention that I can stay at my friend's)

P.S. I haven't pushed him/texting him crazily. If he doesn't text me back or he sounds like he doesn't wanna continue the conversation, I won't text him until he contacts me again. N I have always been encouraging n sweet to him. He is coming to my country to work in November this year. So he did mention about he worries that my family won't like him coz he's foreign etc...

Can anyone tell me what's happening? (I though about he may be just busy but its over a week n he seems to have no time even at weekends n my English male friend said whatever how busy he is, he will be able to text u little bit if he really likes u. N in long distance, u guys should at least have daily contact.)

" He told me how bad I'm as I dumped him n how he misses me"

I'm confused. Did you dump him or not?

Wow..you had a Skype date for Valentines Day?? That is worse than a FWB for Valentines day, imo.


C'mon...are you really gonna waste another 3 months before you see him again and let him "TEXT MAINTAIN" you? Someone you've known for a month?

WHY?

If a man wants you HE WILL MAKE IT KNOWN. This is something every woman who doesn't know better should repeat this to herself morning, noon and night until SHE GETS IT!

Posted by aquavita

Posted by purplerain
" He told me how bad I'm as I dumped him n how he misses me"

I'm confused. Did you dump him or not?

she has not"dumped" him . they both know it. it does nto mean it wont work someday when they live in the same city but until then...aslo i find it nuts she is thinking of staying "at his place" in may without even knowing him( just 1 month of "dating"_).god...

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He was joking saying that I left him n went a halfway round the world... But he said he is actually happy that I m independent n clever to find the best for myself.

I didn't say I am going to stay there. He was just planning a bit himself... As he thinks I have no place to stay when I go back even though I said I have my friend's place to stay...

Posted by LetltB
If a man wants you HE WILL MAKE IT KNOWN. This is something every woman who doesn't know better should repeat this to herself morning, noon and night until SHE GETS IT!

I know what u mean. He used to stay up all night to talk to me on Skype coz the time difference n he wants me to have enough sleep. I just don't understand why he suddenly becomes so cold. But if he doesn't wanna keep the contact, why he still texting me?

Hmmmmmm. I would guess that maybe he has met another girl or he has decided to step back from the relationship for some other reason. I would just keep things friendly with him and respond when he texts if you're not busy, but I wouldn't text him first. Is he moving permanently to your country in November or just for a little time? You may have another chance with him if he moves permanently to your country. Long distance is hard, and maybe he just doesn't want that right now.
I'd be careful when you visit in May... take things slowly. Best of luck!

Posted by yannys

I know what u mean. He used to stay up all night to talk to me on Skype coz the time difference n he wants me to have enough sleep. I just don't understand why he suddenly becomes so cold. But if he doesn't wanna keep the contact, why he still texting me?

Obviously this is bothering you. It should! Most women would not dwell on it, they'd walk away from it instead of sitting there day after day WAITING to be maintained by a machine that sends words indirectly. He's not into you anymore, but you are making the choice to sit around to wait. That's your choice. Don't blame him or complain about that choice, it's wasted energy. Move on and if he really wants you HE WILL MAKE IT KNOWN.