A Man's Relationship With His Mother

When is it too much? When is it considered a red flag?

When he pauses a conversation with you to jump on the nipple! 😛

When he says " I need to talk to my mom about this"

When she accompanies you on your date 😛

.....Of course it's common knowledge that the way a man treats/feels about his mother is how he will treat you.

When he needs to spend "alone time" with her

Posted by sweethearts
When he pauses a conversation with you to jump on the nipple! 😛

LOL! It makes me think of incest.

Speaking from experience...

When his mom calls me every day to ask what I'm going to cook for her dear son.
Also when she tells me I'm not good enough because I want a career and I'm not going to stay at home and be a housewife.

Cap Ex/ Cap mother

LOL @ some of these comments.

1) If every other statement starts with "well my mom...."

2) When she feels the need to talk to me about "our" relationship following a disagreement or an argument that has happen between he and I, then I would take issue.

Posted by starlover
when he still goes clothes shopping with his mother even though he is an adult

when he still asks mum for advice on lots of issues

when he has sexual issues (shame, guilt etc)

when he is scared to tell mommy dearest he has a gf

I am the expert on this

Chart aspects are quite telling too!

Do tell-- I'm curious, and I would love to avoid them.

🙂

but mah mumma said girls are the devil!

lol @ some of these examples.

One that comes to mind is that a guy had plans. He cancelled them last minute because he had to rush home to take care of his sick mom.

...all she had was a cold. While it was sweet of him to do so, I thought it was a little extreme he dropped plans with a girl over a cold.

It's good when guys treat their moms well, but sometimes there are things that just make you... pause. Haha.

Posted by starlover
..some mothers don't want their sons to have lovers or partners, i find this so weird and unhealthy..i would always encourage my son to form relationships

some women fuck their son's heads up..it is so wrong

oh my god that would be scary to know that wouldn't it? Can you imagine, here you are, a single independent woman, and you meet up some guy, who seems shy but nice, he has a good decent job,
nice manners, and then he wants you to go meet up with his mother.

Mother looks you up and down and tries to sabotage the date ....

wait....she would make sure he doesn't go on dates. so scratch the first part.

Yeeah, I really have no respect for women who do that crap to their sons. It's just setting them up for failure in future relationships. And the only reason these women do this crap is because they're either overbearing, or they're substituting the lack of a man in their life with their son and using him selfishly as an emotional crutch.

They're far from looking out for their son's best interest and only looking out for their own.

I had an experience with my ex, he was unable to say no to his mother. So frustrating. She was sweet woman but emotionaly very touchy and very very sensitive and attached to her son. So when he would start showing signs of dissapproval she would play that "I am not feeling good" drama thing and he would give up. Though it was obvoius to him that she was pretending he didn't want to risk and upset her.... Ugh...just by thinking of it makes me go crazy.

Posted by starlover
..some mothers don't want their sons to have lovers or partners, i find this so weird and unhealthy..i would always encourage my son to form relationships

some women fuck their son's heads up..it is so wrong

yup. Its kinda sick and thats coming from me

Posted by rockyroadicecream
Yeeah, I really have no respect for women who do that crap to their sons. It's just setting them up for failure in future relationships. And the only reason these women do this crap is because they're either overbearing, or they're substituting the lack of a man in their life with their son and using him selfishly as an emotional crutch.

They're far from looking out for their son's best interest and only looking out for their own.

I wonder how many are screwing their sons secretly.

My friend doesn't have a relationship with his mother...never did. Was raised by his father. Red Flag, especially since he has a Cancer Mars AND Taurus Sun, but I sometimes wonder if that's why he was attracted to me(older woman).

Don't have much relationship experience, but I don't think I could deal with someones mother. Not and overbearing mother. I get along with much older women, in general, but I couldn't take a woman sizing me up and trying to see if I'm a perfect fit for their son or not. Pretty sure I'd never make the cut. I think that's the biggest thing that would bother me.

A guy being close to his mom wouldn't irritate me at all. It's family. Just wouldn't want her to mingle tooooo much.

dang, i think I meant meddle lol?

Posted by starlover
when he still goes clothes shopping with his mother even though he is an adult

when he still asks mum for advice on lots of issues

when he has sexual issues (shame, guilt etc)

when he is scared to tell mommy dearest he has a gf

I am the expert on this

Chart aspects are quite telling too!

A chunk of this could be written about my ex: sexual issues, always asking mom for advice, letting her buy his clothes....

Posted by PhoenixRising
LOL @ some of these comments.

1) If every other statement starts with "well my mom...."

2) When she feels the need to talk to me about "our" relationship following a disagreement or an argument that has happen between he and I, then I would take issue.

omg, barf, but yes....this would be my ex, too.

Posted by DMV

Posted by rockyroadicecream
Yeeah, I really have no respect for women who do that crap to their sons. It's just setting them up for failure in future relationships. And the only reason these women do this crap is because they're either overbearing, or they're substituting the lack of a man in their life with their son and using him selfishly as an emotional crutch.

They're far from looking out for their son's best interest and only looking out for their own.

I wonder how many are screwing their sons secretly.

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Oh, I actually told my ex to do that a few times. I was so sick of him comparing me to her and how I failed on every level while allowing her to countermand my authority in front of my own kids that I just let it blurt out, "if she's so great, why don't you go fuck your mother." He didn't seem as upset or offended as he should have been. hmmmmmm

More warning signs: His whole family still goes on the same major vacations together....EVERY. SINGLE. YEAR. And if you don't go at the same time as his mommy she cries and bawls about how it's not going to be the same until everyone is together again.

Also, if he still lives at home or on the property and wants you to, too. "Saving on rent" will be the excuse...don't get suckered in!

If every major holiday is at his mother's house, including unwrapping presents in the morning.

Posted by starlover
emotional blackmail

I've seen enough of this. Out of respect for his mother, I didn't want to interfear but tell him my oppinion aside. I couldn't take it anymore.

Another thing that made me unconfortable and turned off was after a coffe with his parents, we stud up, the coffe shop was crowded, we were saying goodbye to them and his father kissed him in forhead. Am I the only one seeing this as unapropriate for a 28 year old guy to do in public? I mean, I don't mind showing affection but all has it's time and place.

Posted by starlover
MoonArtist...i relate to all you write...so glad i got rid of him lol

What sign was this guy you talk about?

I'm glad I got rid of mine, too. SOO HAPPY I finally left him! He's a Taurus. His mom is Aries. She's one of the most manipulative liars I've met. He's a second place runner.

"A Man's Relationship With His Mother

When is it too much? When is it considered a red flag?"

A good mother is in a man's life until the day she dies. However, on that same note, a good mother will have already done the following to prepare her son when he becomes a man:

Teaches manners, politeness and respect to those older
Open ALL doors for the elderly, the female species, as well as all chivalrous acts of kindness
Integrity at all costs take responsibility for bad choices
Master the wrap of the penis IN THE DARK or with your eyes closed - NO MATTER WHAT THE FEMALE SAYS OR GRIPES..YOU WRAP IT until you are married. No exceptions...NEVER. Show pictures of STD's to really give him a clue.

Posted by LovesickCancer
1)When he wants her to scrub his back in the bath
2)When he still takes his laundry for her to wash
3)When he says things like "she's the number one woman in my life"

1.)NOPE go to a massage parlor
2.)NOPE save your quarters
3.)...I'll take it (if he's still single)😉

When he wants to spend every free weekend with his mother.
When he has his mother do his laundry.
When he on consistent basis whines that his partner's cooking is not like his mother's.

Got a buddy like that... kinda disturbing

Posted by TimidArcher
When he wants to spend every free weekend with his mother.
When he has his mother do his laundry.
When he on consistent basis whines that his partner's cooking is not like his mother's.

Got a buddy like that... kinda disturbing

well the 2nd one, lots of sons like their mothers doing the laundry. Lol

but the first and the 3rd one?

In the tv episodes of "Everybody loves Raymond" ...Raymond knows his mother's cooking is way better than his wife's, but does that stop his wife? Lol nope.