Can women raise men?

I personally do not think so. Single parenting and absentee fathers are the number one causes of biiiytchhhassssednesss in most men today.


Anyone agree?

I dont think a woman can raise a man. I do feel that a woman can relate the ways and actions of a good man. Honestly, I really dont think it matters. I've known men who had good fathers and they still turned out to be jerks. On the other hand, I've seen single mothers nuture little boys to be excellent men. A good person is the product of a good parent, regardless of the sex.

Yeah that's true. But it's like a jerk that was raised by a single mother is a different breed of jerk. He's a lazy jerk who wants a woman to wait on him hand and foot without him putting forth any effort.

It just seems that the jerks raised by single mothers have a sense of entitlement. It's like they really don't know how to take care of a woman or a household. And they rarely have respect for traditional gender roles. They are used to seeing their moms work day and night so they have no problem sitting back while their woman works day and night to provide for them.

They act more like the woman than the woman.

There are exceptions to every situation. A lazy man is lazy by choice, not just because his single mother catered to him. Also think about like this. When he was at home his mother treated him like a baby, but he obviously found women other than his mother to do the same thing!

Oh my freaking god....

Seriously Christina, it is CLEAR that you didn't read the first post. I guess you just looked over the absentee fathers thing huh?

To answer your question, what is bitttchasssednesss... It's not sensitivity, it's not about being tough and rough. It's about being a half asssed man! Not taking care of your responsibilities as a man and waiting on your woman or your mother to do it for you! And it's the sense of entitlement that many men have because they are used to seeing things as one sided.

Women that are raised by single mothers rarely have this hang up because women are always harder on their daughters than their sons. It is because she knows what it will take to be a competent woman in society. If the mother had to mature and do everything on her own she knows how to instruct her daughter to be strong. If she has never had a man in her life that has been responsible how can she possible teach her son? (for example a single mother may be the product of a single mother household).

I AM NOT SAYING THAT ALL MEN RAISED BY SINGLE MOTHERS ARE LOSERS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Lets get that out of the way...what I am saying is that the men that end up LOSERS that are raised by single mothers are the losers of the highest possible order because they typically don't even act like men.

"There are exceptions to every situation. A lazy man is lazy by choice, not just because his single mother catered to him. Also think about like this. When he was at home his mother treated him like a baby, but he obviously found women other than his mother to do the same thing!"

Of course there are. The women that are catering to these men are probably products of messed up households themselves. Used to seeing their mothers handle everything so they baby their men because they have no reference point of what a true man should be.

I am the product of a loving two parent household so my values may be different from a lot of others.

I was raised in a two parent household also. But I'm not naive so I know this is just a generalization.

Moral of the story. Single mothers and mothers in general. STOP SPOILING YOUR SONS. Fathers. MAN UP and teach your sons to be MEN. Not women with penises.

Klover fish...

This is not a generalization. Of course I know that all spoiled biiiitcchassed jerks are not the products of single mother households....and all single mother households don't produce spoiled biiiitchassed jerks. But the scope of this thread is to explore the ideas of spoiled biiitchassed jerks that are raised by single mothers.

And having said that I still believe that women cannot successfully raise men alone without the influence of another man (be it uncle, grandfather, pastor, mentor, etc) and I do believe that single mother households are the number one cause of Biiiitchassness today.

**without the influence of a GOOD man***

Well said Keva

Its my belief that children need both parents. Men and women are equal in many ways but we have totally different thinking patterns.

If the father or the mother isn't present in the child or children's life, then it is important to have a supplement -- whether it be a serious committed relationship with someone who doesn mind the responsiblity or someone outside of your current environment.

If its someone outside of the current environment then I would say to double-check to make sure they are a good influence 🙂 -- like mentors,teachers, coaches, etc.

Yep, I agree -- that makes sense.

said the same damn thing. it can be a relative who you see as a good influence.
i told y'all i raised some kids already, not to adulthood, but the first years.
they weren't mine tho.

Hahahahahahahaha!

Well Bill Clinton didnt have his father growing up and he turned out great!

I think he turned out very well considering the odds were stacked against him. I feel that he was a very good president, despite the fact that he liked to receive hummers in the Oval Office, and that he married a man.

Well, Clinton is estimated to have had one of the highest IQs in history among U.S. presidents, the other presidents being Jefferson, John Adams and JFK. Bush is obviously the lowest.

http://hnn.us/roundup/entries/28085.html

How nice! I have a high IQ also.

"He wasn't a good president by any stretch of the imagination"

what— are you on crack—

what planet are you from? Explain yo'self pleeze...

As a single parent who has raised a 21 year old man and is still raising him to this day. I always knew that I could not teach him to be a man but what I did teach him was about women. He knows all about how a women can be. As far as him becoming a man he will have to learn on his own or through close male friend of the family.

To make it even worst my son has no respect for men because of his father(pisces)never being around. I remember when my son turned 21 he said "Guess what Ma?" and I said What? and he said I made it to 21 and I am still alive" To him that was a big accomplishment.

Recently I looked at him and I said to him "It is time I cut the cord you need to learn to live on your own if for only a year". He said why? and I said "IF the lord takes me today or tomorrow the world would eat you alive" and he just looked at me.

Boys they never want to leave their mommas, I think boys are the most needy then women. My mother raise 5 children on her own 3 girls and 2 boys me and my oldest sisters were the first to move out.

LuckyLibra I am happy for you that you are doing the damn thing, my son is a libra and he is no where near ready to be out on his own.

At the end of the day the only thing that matters is that you raise a good person with a good heart and common sense-the rest will fall into place. Even though I grew up with both of my parents and I have a wonderful relationship with my father, to me it would be better to have an absent father then a father who is around but not worth a tin full of hot spit.

LuckyLibra

I understand the point you are trying to make but don't let what Brahn say get to you, people who talk bad about other people to me is a sign of their own unhappiness and lack of confident in them self not to mention misery loves company.

You as well as most know that some people on this board you sometimes just have to ignore what they say. Because bottom line is no matter what people say about you if you are confident with youself as a man and you believe that you are a man then no one can take that away from you no matter what they say, only you can take your manhood away.

Keep on keeping on, 🙂

Greatbull

Yes it is a good accomplishment for a young black male. And as a mother I worry still when he goes out and come home and tell me he got in a fight because one of his boys he was with got in the fight frist and he had there back which is good. but at the same time retaliation is a bitch, and I worry about that, when he tell me.

My son and I are very close, and the one thing that I made a promise to myself to do as a single parent was communicate with him on all levels.

I believe one of the reason most young children are in trouble sell drugs or just totally disrespectful to their parents is because of the parent/parents. Parents need to communicate with there children, more and not let them run like wild cats, sometimes you just have to knock the shit our them to let them know whose the parent in the house.

You feel me?

If men would step up, and do what they're supposed to do this problem wouldn't exist.

i am a single mother. my son's father is very involved. we split custody straight down the middle.

i think it is important, in ANY arrangement, that a child have a positive male and female role model in their life.

A woman can raise a man but can't teach him how to be a man, no more than a father can teach a daughter how to be a woman . He will learn that from whatever man's around (hopefully they're good ones, around his way). I was raised by my mother only and God she was a strong woman but I was mostly protective of her if anything. Me and my brothers grew ourselves into the men we are today.