Capricorn girlfriend dissapearing Please help

I am a Scorpio male and she is a Capricorn. I need some advice. I met her the first day of class, I did not pay attention to her at the beginning, I was not interested. She kept trying to get my attention and i finally talked to her after class. It was a immediate connection, we laugh, we flirt and we part ways. I did not ask for her number, I wanted to wait until i had a better feeling that that's what i wanted. (i am very shy) I also did not wanted to get involve because i am getting divorce, i been separated for a year now and i am finally going through the divorce. The second week of class before lecture i had the courage to ask for her number, however, she beat me to it. She gave me her number and asked me to text her after class. After couple of text and conversations we fell for each other. She texted me every day. She even texted me during her night job. After two months I asked her out to be my girlfriend and she said she was waiting for me to ask. After three weeks she suddenly stopped texting and kept telling me that she was busy and did not have time to see me. I was upset and told her that if she did not have time to see me, to at least let text me that she is ok (she works at night) She texted me for a few days, then she disappear for two weeks. When I finally got a hold of her, she told me that her phone was disconnected and that her mom has been diagnosed with cancer. I apologized to her and offered my support; she said she missed me and I finally told her that I love her. She cried and told me that she loves me and she is tired of everything that is happening in her life. We saw each other the next day and we agree to text if we were unable to meet. She stopped texting and disappear again. I was upset and my needy Scorpio personality took the best of me. When i was able to see her again i told her that if she wanted a boyfriend or not, she said yes. I told her that i felt hurt because before we agree to be in the relationship i did not want to get a broken heart. (She told me she would not play with my feelings or break my heart) She got upset but we kiss and agree to text again. A weekend passed, i gave her space, did not text. She came to class and ignore me, I tried to talk to her and she told me that she did not want to talk. I send her multiple text apologizing and letting her know that I missed her and that i just wanted to spend time with her, she never reply. The next day, she came to class and ignore me again, I tried to talk to her and this time she move her arms and told me to stop. I stormed out of class and texted her asking her if she was seeing someone. She said no. I was so upset and i told her that she succeeded she broke whatever i had left of me. She reply back and told me that she needed to take some months off to take care of herself; she was going to have surgery, a love one passed away, and her mom was still getting treatment. She said she was done, she ask me not to argue, just to give her some time alone and just to "shhh" I text her back and apologized and told her that i did not know she was having all these hardships. I told her that if she would have told me earlier i would have understood and give her space. I texted her couple more times, asking her to forgive me and that i do not want to loose her. She never reply. I texted her one last message telling her that i was not going to bug her, that i will be patient and wait for her. I told her that i wish she would have communicated the things that were happening in her life and that i am truly sorry. she never reply. I saw her the next week in class, she ignore me, however, since we are lab partners she had to work with me. We talked about the assignment, we laugh, we flirt a little, but then she left early without saying goodbye. I texted her after class and letting her know that i am sorry for texting her but it was good to see her smile again. She did not reply.

I am crazy for this girl, i don't know what to do, what to think. I don't want to loose her. I don't if she has broken up with me or if i should move on. The couple times i have made eye contact with her, i know she stills loves me. She smiles but looks away and ignores me.

What can I do? What should I do? I am a Scorpio man

I think what's happening is the usual capricorn female "test the shit out of you" commitment - loyalty paranoia.

It's partially because you had that particular week you said you gave her space, when you effectively begged yourself back. She is testing you how much you want her. If you let her play this game (which is natural insecurity probably past issues) you will have even more hard time later on

They offended quickly and pull themselves back like you not exist when something not goes on their way. Prone to immature, childish behaviour. Be prepared for hardcore parenting at times.

She expect you to put everything aside and her to be no 1 priority, pursuing and chasing her constantly.

The moment your so called girlfriend have you her number and told you to call/text her..that's when she was taking the lead. A woman in her true nature does not like to lead, her true role is being submissive. So in other words you messed up and need to take the leadership role and lead the relationship. You might have to cut your losses and learn from this experience and do it right the next time.

I know a Cap guy, he has a lot of problems in his family that lead him to never pursue me further than a close friend. He would disappear and reappear every so often in my life once he is done with his different 'issues', then explain to me later in life why he had done the supposedly disappearing act.

You should move on with your life, if she comes back for you then decide if you still want her. Caps are quite hard to pin down. Stubborn and always focused on settling their own things, hard to be their priority especially when they have issues.

Posted by JayT79
The moment your so called girlfriend have you her number and told you to call/text her..that's when she was taking the lead. A woman in her true nature does not like to lead, her true role is being submissive. So in other words you messed up and need to take the leadership role and lead the relationship. You might have to cut your losses and learn from this experience and do it right the next time.

He can still fix it, it's just more struggling.

Caps are trying to lead anyway in some degree so the power struggle with them always shows up time to time. But you can give them that in some areas or territories indirectly if you smart.

Posted by Sheever
I think what's happening is the usual capricorn female "test the shit out of you" commitment - loyalty paranoia.

It's partially because you had that particular week you said you gave her space, when you effectively begged yourself back. She is testing you how much you want her. If you let her play this game (which is natural insecurity probably past issues) you will have even more hard time later on

They offended quickly and pull themselves back like you not exist when something not goes on their way. Prone to immature, childish behaviour. Be prepared for hardcore parenting at times.

She expect you to put everything aside and her to be no 1 priority, pursuing and chasing her constantly.

Thats what my Scorpio sister says about my cap, that he expects me to put him first always, interesting.

Anyways op, you sound like a very caring person i feel bad for you but she doesn't want to be bothered anymore i would let this go and just focus on your class or assignment together and thats it. What another person said on here you have to gain some control back.

Thank you for the advices. I been keeping busy, ignoring her, she has been trying to get eye contact and tries to flirt, I don't. If is meant to be then it will happen. I am moving on. The only thing that is bothering is the fact that we did not break up, she asked to be left alone for a few.

you are not overly needy - she's immature and playing games. Don't play games back. Smile and nod to her and say hello but don't give in to "seeing" her. Give her the space she asked for and then move on if she is still flaking at that point. I suspect that she will be so prepare yourself for moving on with your life. She seems like a severe control freak as well. Always has to be on her terms and has no empathy for the partner. Plus, if you would like to break up with her anytime is good - you don't have to wait. It would serve your best interest.

I'm a cap female who has had alot of shit happen in life and I would never shut out those who i truly love. Only those I can live without. I would never want to intentionally hurt anyone, especially those who I love. Honestly dude, I think shes full of shit and you just need to forget her. Maybe sometime down the line when she has her shit together you and you are still single you both can talk about things but honestly, I wouldn't put my heart into it. She sounds like a bitch. Even if she is severely overwhelmed, that's no excuse to just ignore you or even leave without saying goodbye.

Update. She keeps flirting in class, but she leaves early to avoid me. Today I talked to her and asked her if I could talk to her and she said that's fine. I went to the bathroom and she took off. I left the class and found her in her car, I asked her if I could talk to her for 5 min, she said she had to leave. I told her I miss her and I wanted to know if we are still together. She said "i guess." She told me that she needed to get her life straight out. She then said I shouldn't have come to the car, and that she would call me. I walked away. I texted her soon after and told her that I was done that I give up. That she is not the only one going through shit. I told her to be honest and to tell me that there is nothing between us. I figured that I want to move on but I need closure.

You need to back off and play her at her own game.

Stop texting, stop calling.

Watch how fast she realizes how stupid she's being.. She'll stop with the bullshit.

You can't be chasing her, especially at this time, if she's going through something... Hell, it might be an excuse. People tend to lean on who they love, not push them away.

You don't got shit to prove to a woman, except that you don't need her ass. So stop chasing her.

Don't be mean to her when she comes back around, just be yourself but don't jump on her and spill how you been feeling.. It shouldn't matter.. Just at that time; ask her out, smash, and let HER call YOU.

Dude, honestly, would you want a girlfriend who acts like this? Really think about it because this is the kind of chick that will act like this every time you have a disagreement or she doesn't get what she wants. This is the kind of chick that will keep you away from your kids if you piss her off or call the cops if she starts a physical fight. This isnt even about her having shit going on in her life. She is straight up fucking with your mind and you need to stop tolerating it.

IF there is some weird ass shit going on in her life that she's not revealing, let her work it out. Don't contact her anymore. She's made it clear. If you want to wait, then do so, but don't miss out on potential opportunities either.

Good advice. I am happy to hear that everyone is telling me the same thing. This girl is playing me. I realized today that she has a lot of issues, according to her previous relationships would end between 3-5 months because she shuts every guy out. I am at the 4th month mark, I should have realized that. Anyways, I just needed closure. I went through a painful divorce and I thought getting with this chick would make me forget, but she reminds me of my ex-wife. They both have a lot of issues and I keep thinking I can help them.

Im a cap female. To me it seems you became to clingy and it started irritating her. She didnt want to just stop the relationship because she didnt want to hurt your feelings. It also seems like when she told you she was going through things with her mom.. You didnt give her the space she needed to process what was going on in her life. You shouldve given her space. You then began to make the situation about your feelings and it came off as being insensitive. At this point she will still be cordial with you and the best thing to do at this point is to forget about her. She will come back around if it is meant. I have dated 3 scorpio men and Im married to one. I love scorps but sometimes they tend to make situations about themselves and its hard for them to focus on what the other person is going through.

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I realized that I became to clingy and I noticed that I irritated her. I gave her a month to figure herself out. I told her that if she wanted a relationship or not, because at the same time she was going through a lot, I am going through my own problems. I believe that from the beginning the relationship was more sexual and wanted to be more than that, which she agreed. I am old fashioned and couldn't keep having sex without properly making the relationship exclusive. I believe I was sensitive because the moment she told me about her mom, I send her flowers and wrote to her to take time to process everything. The issue that gets the best of me is that when we started to date I told her that I was just gotten out of a divorce and I did not want to get into a relationship because I was going through a lot. She kept pushing, I told her that I felt things were going too fast, that we should take it slow. At one point I told her that probably we should not date because I was a mess and I have responsibilities. She told me that she understood and that she was there for me, she liked me for how I was with her and how honest I was with her. Soon after we dated our communication was not the same, she opened up to me more than once and told me she love me and she wished she spent time with me. At other times she would say that she just wanted to sleep in her room and not be bother, because that's how she is when she has problems. She is 5 years younger than me. I feel that she was not matured enough to handle the situation. I know that she was used to date men that were 10 or more years older than her. According to her most of these men left her because they would ask her to choose between them or her family. I told her that I would never ask her that. All I asked her was an open communication that she was ok, because I cared about her. She would tell me one day that she wanted everything to just stop and she wanted to sleep for a long time, and I will get worry as usual, I would text her how is she doing, but she would not answer for a week. Anyways, after reading all these post and taking time to address the situation I realize that I should not be in a relationship after just getting divorce. I was not ready to date her and I realized it was my fault for falling for her.

Thank you