Scorpio man turning his back on me when I need him the most

I have a Scorpio friend that I really enjoy talking to. The problem is that I feel like he's only nice with me on his own terms.

One time I talked to him because I needed him but he didn't seem like the person that would go out of his way to listen to me or be there for me. He was a little cold and I felt like I was bothering him that day because he told me he had things to do and even went distant right after.

He's still nice to me but, as I said, on his own terms. Right now I feel like I need him because I'm going through a lot of personal problems. I wish I could talk to him but it feels like I can't count on him because he's cold if I approach him. I'm a loyal person even when it comes to friendship and I would like his advice and help instead of somebody else's but if he's never going to be there for me, what's the point?

should I forget about his friendship and look elsewhere for someone who's willing to be there in good and bad times? He's a great guy but I just can't understand him. He seems heartless at times.

That is what female friends are for ...... emotional support

You can't put all your shit on one person. I don't know the extent of your problems but sometimes it's just too much for another person to deal with.

Men are good for sexy fun times and companionship and making babies with 😛

Women are good for discussing emotional issues with

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I agree with Plutonian and MyStarsShine. But at the same time I prefer being the friend that takes you out to do fun things that takes your mind off your hurt, rather than the one who gives advice.

The most I can do in the emotional realm is listen to your story (I don’t have the energy to read a long af message unless I really care about you) and offer emotional support/empathy (I’ll tell you things like “he’s such a douche bag” or “I can’t believe she did that” and occasionally offer message ideas to resolve disputes). But yeah for the most part I’d rather get you active and out into the world to take your mind off things than get my energy drained by trying to solve your issues.

Posted by Koniuchaa

Posted by MyStarsShine
That is what female friends are for ...... emotional support

Men can be there for emotional support too

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Can be.....but some really can't identify with some female issues

Posted by peachy06

Posted by MyStarsShine
Men are good for sexy fun times and companionship and making babies with 😛

Women are good for discussing emotional issues with

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Sorry but I'm not a baby machine, nor a bitch to call when you want to talk about your emotional issues.

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Don't be sorry for being you

Posted by Plutonian
You can't put all your shit on one person. I don't know the extent of your problems but sometimes it's just too much for another person to deal with.

This is the mistake people make.....I did......it's just too much for one person at times when the other is going through heavy stuff

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Posted by MyStarsShine
That is what female friends are for ...... emotional support

Men can be there for emotional support too

Can be.....but some really can't identify with some female issues

She didn't say they were female issues. I have relied on the men in my life many times for emotional support.

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Then you are a lucky lady.....my issues were too heavy to handle I guess.....death, near death in childbirth, losing all my family etc

I just feel comfortable talking to him but it bothers me that I can't count on him when I need him. If he's my friend, he shouldn't be cold when I aporoach him.

I do feel like its better to not expect anything from him and not consider him an intimate friend to share my problems with 😢

Posted by Taniwha
Don't tell me your trying to talk to him about a relationship issue with another man, sounds like you are.

True, I have the feeling he is avoiding her for a reason.

Posted by LibraMudra
It's much easier when you stop expecting people to be there for you. When you let go of expectation, it seems to happen naturally anyways.

You really don't NEED anyone.

It's something I am still learning.

This. I dont want to offend sweet cancer but is it possible that you come across as whiny and dependent?

Dont forget that you are talking to a men. Maybe you are repelling him.

Besides that, I think you should ask him straight up why he is doing that. The only thing we can do here is guess.

dump him sis, a man who loves you regardless of sign, will be there for you.

A scorpio would move mountains for you