WateryGem
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Cheaters...
Personally I've never cheated. Morally I feel its wrong. I also never broke up with someone to date someone else. I wont lie though its also somewhat of a boost to my ego to tell a woman that's into me that I'm with someone, and would never betray them. I feel like overall I'm better then 80% of other men, and have a deep amount of control over myself. Especially when dating.
I have been betrayed by a few, which is why I dont try to date. I got tired of actually trying just to get fucked over. Though the type of woman I would date makes getting betrayed no supprise tbh. Lately however I've been actually thinking about it again. I'm tired of the only women trying to contact me being exes from years ago because they realize I truly was one of the best regardless of my flaws. I feel like I could be a good, loyal, providing man to a woman that is deserving of such. I just never knew how to balance love and care with self preservation and distance till the relationship is confirmed safe. I'm an all or nothing type of person, so its hard going into something and not giving it my all.
I have been betrayed by a few, which is why I dont try to date. I got tired of actually trying just to get fucked over. Though the type of woman I would date makes getting betrayed no supprise tbh. Lately however I've been actually thinking about it again. I'm tired of the only women trying to contact me being exes from years ago because they realize I truly was one of the best regardless of my flaws. I feel like I could be a good, loyal, providing man to a woman that is deserving of such. I just never knew how to balance love and care with self preservation and distance till the relationship is confirmed safe. I'm an all or nothing type of person, so its hard going into something and not giving it my all.
anytime I ever did anything wrong to harm a relationship, I felt that it was totally warranted. I only cheated when I was ready to leave, wanted to get caught, sometimes actively tried to get caught such as by leaving my phone on that message screen. or when he had already cheated first. any time I've ever gone through a man's phone, he was messaging other girls behind my back. all men cheat if they can. what's funny is I've never had an ex care that I cheated. my money ( $ 3k per relationship, 3 different relationships) they were leeching was worth it to them. I guess you call that an "arrangement". I feel guilty that I fucked my ex Josh's brother since I do think that secret drives a wedge between us, but he's also a bad person who fucked his brother's baby mama, there's little pussy he would say no to. that is a heavy secret though. I'm just fairly confident the secret would never get out. he doesn't love me regardless and denies to anyone else that he ever did or that he did anything more than use me despite expressing wishes for marriage to me privately with me. if he did find out I have a feeling that nothing would change. our relationship is complicated, he's treated me like shit and he's also an incredibly wise pisces man
the only person who I'm riddled with guilt over mistreating (verbally) is my sister. a woman cheating on a man, sexual infidelities with men as the victim, usually reason to celebrate. like if I hear gossip that a woman I know is cheating on a man I say "go her".
the only person who I'm riddled with guilt over mistreating (verbally) is my sister. a woman cheating on a man, sexual infidelities with men as the victim, usually reason to celebrate. like if I hear gossip that a woman I know is cheating on a man I say "go her".
Depends on what each person considers cheating I guess. I don’t consider myself to have ever cheated on any man I’ve been in a relationship with though my ex still to this day accuses me of cheating.
We had been together for 2 years when he moved out because he had lost his job and couldn’t help contribute to the bills. After moving out communication from him became less and less. Until one day he stopped taking my calls and responding to my texts altogether. Months had gone by with no word from him though I begged him to let me know if we were even still in a relationship. Nothing but silence on his end.
So I eventually moved on and started dating a wonderful man. That’s when the ex resurfaced and accused me of cheating and saying we were still together and he was just going through a rough patch. And I was supposed to know that how?
So I left this good man that I started dating to go back to my ex because my ex was threatening suicide and all kinds of shit. I had no idea if he’d actually go through with it or not, but I did not want that kinda guilt playing over and over again in my mind just in case he was serious. After six months of being back with my ex he cheated on me and eventually packed his things and left me for another girl. I guess he was paying me back for what I had done to him.
They went on to have a happy relationship and the good man I was dating found someone new and is now engaged to her. And I was left with just me and my fucked up choices.
So if what I did was considered cheating then I guess I’m a cheater.🤷♀️
We had been together for 2 years when he moved out because he had lost his job and couldn’t help contribute to the bills. After moving out communication from him became less and less. Until one day he stopped taking my calls and responding to my texts altogether. Months had gone by with no word from him though I begged him to let me know if we were even still in a relationship. Nothing but silence on his end.
So I eventually moved on and started dating a wonderful man. That’s when the ex resurfaced and accused me of cheating and saying we were still together and he was just going through a rough patch. And I was supposed to know that how?
So I left this good man that I started dating to go back to my ex because my ex was threatening suicide and all kinds of shit. I had no idea if he’d actually go through with it or not, but I did not want that kinda guilt playing over and over again in my mind just in case he was serious. After six months of being back with my ex he cheated on me and eventually packed his things and left me for another girl. I guess he was paying me back for what I had done to him.
They went on to have a happy relationship and the good man I was dating found someone new and is now engaged to her. And I was left with just me and my fucked up choices.
So if what I did was considered cheating then I guess I’m a cheater.🤷♀️
Yeh what Midatbest said. Cheaters are always going to have an excuse/justification for it. Cowardly to cheat rather than end your relationship but hey life and people are not perfect
Never have, I agree with you. Very difficult to see how you could trust or look at yourself the same even.
Since high school, I’ve long held the belief that I’m just destined to cheat in every relationship. For that reason, I avoided relationships until early adulthood.
I’ve only had two serious “committed” relationships in my life, I cheated in both.
The first one, he traveled for work every week and straight up told me “If I never find out, I don’t see why I would care or why it would hurt me.” I loved the thrill of being with new partners, meeting men from shady online websites in shady areas I’ve never been (deadass, one asked me to meet him at a boat launch in the middle of nowhere 😅). The anxiety of the secrets helped me lose all the weight I gained in the beginning of the relationship. I tried to break up with him after my first affair. I didn’t tell him what happened, but the affair made me realize I wasn’t in love with him anymore. He cried, accused me of being “deceptive” because it seemed like our relationship was going well, I never indicated I was unhappy so it’s unfair to just randomly end it. I ended up feeling uncomfortable by him crying, so I instead wavered and told him I could go to therapy to figure myself out, that we don’t need to break up.
A year later, I tried to dump him again. He was upset and asked me to talk through what I was feeling. Ultimately, instead of breaking up, he compromised for an open relationship.
A year after that, I finally grew the courage to end the relationship once and for all. I know everything happens for a reason- if I hadn’t made those decisions in that relationship, I would’ve just made them in the next loving relationship I’m gifted.
My second boyfriend whom I was with last year was emotionally abusive. I knew from our second date that he was bad, but felt like the universe sent him to me for a reason, considering all the other things going on in my life (too many coincidences lining up). I knew I wouldn’t be with him long-term; the environment, the difference in life goals, the abuse- it wasn’t sustainable. Ironically, he would tell me he would kill me if I ever cheated on him; said he would dispose of my body on his 10 acres of property, tell the police I just left. I think subconsciously I took that as a challenge, but consciously I was just looking to make $ $ $ $ to help pay off my credit card and help me move-out of his house faster. He never found out, until I told him out of spite months after we broke up.
Circling back to my long-held belief that I’ve never thought I could be capable of monogamy- two weeks ago something clicked for me: I realized I significantly compromised my values, needs and desires in these 2 relationships, which is what motivated me to cheat. I’ve just now come to realize I do NOT have to cheat if I actually choose a partner 100% aligned with me, instead of someone who is 15-50% aligned. (Part of my “old” belief system consisted of believing you have to settle for someone who you’re incompatible with and just figure out how to make it work, based on the dynamics I witnessed in my parents marriage. I truly did not believe there is such thing as compatibility or harmony within romantic relationships. I still have a long way to go in fixing my avoidant attachment style , but I’m so glad I unlocked this new perspective- I know I’m going the right direction).
I’ve only had two serious “committed” relationships in my life, I cheated in both.
The first one, he traveled for work every week and straight up told me “If I never find out, I don’t see why I would care or why it would hurt me.” I loved the thrill of being with new partners, meeting men from shady online websites in shady areas I’ve never been (deadass, one asked me to meet him at a boat launch in the middle of nowhere 😅). The anxiety of the secrets helped me lose all the weight I gained in the beginning of the relationship. I tried to break up with him after my first affair. I didn’t tell him what happened, but the affair made me realize I wasn’t in love with him anymore. He cried, accused me of being “deceptive” because it seemed like our relationship was going well, I never indicated I was unhappy so it’s unfair to just randomly end it. I ended up feeling uncomfortable by him crying, so I instead wavered and told him I could go to therapy to figure myself out, that we don’t need to break up.
A year later, I tried to dump him again. He was upset and asked me to talk through what I was feeling. Ultimately, instead of breaking up, he compromised for an open relationship.
A year after that, I finally grew the courage to end the relationship once and for all. I know everything happens for a reason- if I hadn’t made those decisions in that relationship, I would’ve just made them in the next loving relationship I’m gifted.
My second boyfriend whom I was with last year was emotionally abusive. I knew from our second date that he was bad, but felt like the universe sent him to me for a reason, considering all the other things going on in my life (too many coincidences lining up). I knew I wouldn’t be with him long-term; the environment, the difference in life goals, the abuse- it wasn’t sustainable. Ironically, he would tell me he would kill me if I ever cheated on him; said he would dispose of my body on his 10 acres of property, tell the police I just left. I think subconsciously I took that as a challenge, but consciously I was just looking to make $ $ $ $ to help pay off my credit card and help me move-out of his house faster. He never found out, until I told him out of spite months after we broke up.
Circling back to my long-held belief that I’ve never thought I could be capable of monogamy- two weeks ago something clicked for me: I realized I significantly compromised my values, needs and desires in these 2 relationships, which is what motivated me to cheat. I’ve just now come to realize I do NOT have to cheat if I actually choose a partner 100% aligned with me, instead of someone who is 15-50% aligned. (Part of my “old” belief system consisted of believing you have to settle for someone who you’re incompatible with and just figure out how to make it work, based on the dynamics I witnessed in my parents marriage. I truly did not believe there is such thing as compatibility or harmony within romantic relationships. I still have a long way to go in fixing my avoidant attachment style , but I’m so glad I unlocked this new perspective- I know I’m going the right direction).
Posted by WateryGem
If you have ever cheated or had an affair, pls, help me understand how you remain in a relationship?
How do you look at your partner and not feel disgusted with yourself?
How does one reconcile this in their own mind and body?
Do you feel it destroyed what might have been bc secrets erode relationships, even if the cheating isn't revealed? It keeps you from connecting to your spouse.
If a person cheats on you, they do not love you. Bottom-line.
My first love was a Sagittarius man. We started out as friends first and it organically grew from there. While we were together, which was approximately 6 months after being friends for several years, I felt a change in the energy and was madly in love. He would not communicate what the problem was, so I left him because I was deeply hurt. I worked on moving on. About a year or 2 later, we ran into each other at a bar and he was wanting me back. I shouldn’t have agreed to reunite because by that time I had fallen out of love, and knew within myself that I would not love him the same way again. I should have stayed true to myself and told him no and friend-zoned him, but something in me must’ve wanted to see him pay in some way for how he treated me when I was in love. Some sort of revenge of sorts. I was young, 21. Anyway, I was not loyal to him like I was when I loved him and really did not consider it a relationship in my mind when we got back together. Long story short, I experimented with women and did not care.
Posted by MidAtBest
anytime I ever did anything wrong to harm a relationship, I felt that it was totally warranted. I only cheated when I was ready to leave, wanted to get caught, sometimes actively tried to get caught such as by leaving my phone on that message screen. or when he had already cheated first. any time I've ever gone through a man's phone, he was messaging other girls behind my back. all men cheat if they can. what's funny is I've never had an ex care that I cheated. my money ( $ 3k per relationship, 3 different relationships) they were leeching was worth it to them. I guess you call that an "arrangement". I feel guilty that I fucked my ex Josh's brother since I do think that secret drives a wedge between us, but he's also a bad person who fucked his brother's baby mama, there's little pussy he would say no to. that is a heavy secret though. I'm just fairly confident the secret would never get out. he doesn't love me regardless and denies to anyone else that he ever did or that he did anything more than use me despite expressing wishes for marriage to me privately with me. if he did find out I have a feeling that nothing would change. our relationship is complicated, he's treated me like shit and he's also an incredibly wise pisces man
the only person who I'm riddled with guilt over mistreating (verbally) is my sister. a woman cheating on a man, sexual infidelities with men as the victim, usually reason to celebrate. like if I hear gossip that a woman I know is cheating on a man I say "go her".
Lmaooo this was hilarious to read
I've cheated in multiple relationships before. I think a lot of times cheating is the cowardly way of just saying you want out of the relationship. Could've just left. I've always shied away from confrontation/being the bearer of bad news and gone that route. I do regret it, even though I also sometimes find myself feeling like the partner deserved that punishment because of how they were treating me. I've stayed in a lot of relationships trying to compromise my values to make it work, thinking that sometimes I'm too shallow and/or stubborn and should give the men a chance. If I ever date another man again, it'll be hard to find them capable of satisfying every one of my requirements. I'm very picky but also realize that the reality is that 99% of men won't fit what I want in a man. So a part of me also accepts that I might just end up dying alone.
Posted by goddessofthesunPosted by MidAtBest
anytime I ever did anything wrong to harm a relationship, I felt that it was totally warranted. I only cheated when I was ready to leave, wanted to get caught, sometimes actively tried to get caught such as by leaving my phone on that message screen. or when he had already cheated first. any time I've ever gone through a man's phone, he was messaging other girls behind my back. all men cheat if they can. what's funny is I've never had an ex care that I cheated. my money ( $ 3k per relationship, 3 different relationships) they were leeching was worth it to them. I guess you call that an "arrangement". I feel guilty that I fucked my ex Josh's brother since I do think that secret drives a wedge between us, but he's also a bad person who fucked his brother's baby mama, there's little pussy he would say no to. that is a heavy secret though. I'm just fairly confident the secret would never get out. he doesn't love me regardless and denies to anyone else that he ever did or that he did anything more than use me despite expressing wishes for marriage to me privately with me. if he did find out I have a feeling that nothing would change. our relationship is complicated, he's treated me like shit and he's also an incredibly wise pisces man
the only person who I'm riddled with guilt over mistreating (verbally) is my sister. a woman cheating on a man, sexual infidelities with men as the victim, usually reason to celebrate. like if I hear gossip that a woman I know is cheating on a man I say "go her".
Lmaooo this was hilarious to readclick to expand
tbh people like that scorpio gal who posted and I, we all know we're not the salacious, conniving scarlet women who this thread is targeted toward
the real menaces are smooth operators who wouldn't respond
I cheated once and it was with a capricorn
my relationship was in middle school but yeah, the girl and her friends bullied me into the relationship basically and actually she was my first kiss if i'm not mistaken
then summer at the beach...
my scorpio bff male (not f) was dating a girl with the capricorn friend. same circle of friends.
after relentless pressure and capricorning, i cheated
never even broke up formally, i just cut off contact because i assumed they told her since theyre all friends
i was never really into her
my relationship was in middle school but yeah, the girl and her friends bullied me into the relationship basically and actually she was my first kiss if i'm not mistaken
then summer at the beach...
my scorpio bff male (not f) was dating a girl with the capricorn friend. same circle of friends.
after relentless pressure and capricorning, i cheated
never even broke up formally, i just cut off contact because i assumed they told her since theyre all friends
i was never really into her
Posted by WateryGem
If you have ever cheated or had an affair, pls, help me understand how you remain in a relationship?
How do you look at your partner and not feel disgusted with yourself?
How does one reconcile this in their own mind and body?
Do you feel it destroyed what might have been bc secrets erode relationships, even if the cheating isn't revealed? It keeps you from connecting to your spouse.
Independent, ambitious, goal oriented visionaries don't give a damn. They do what they do and even tell the other guy. These people are full of life and they walk and talk like they are truly blessed. They don't have a habit of looking back or hold any fear.
I had the opportunity to be with someone like that and the time we spent together was in itself divine and blessed.
Once in a lifetime opportunity guys. Hope you get the taste it someday. Just remember Zero tolerance for bullshit. It's like playing on the edge, you give your all they give their all and suddenly you two are okay with everything. This is quality beyond quality I am talking about. Divine and blessed are the keywords here.
Just to be clear we both lived on paycheck to paycheck. So yeah money is not a thing here.
We parted ways because she said I got a life of my own. And I was more than okay with it.
I'm sure we all cheated at some point in our lives whether by accident or deliberately to escape their current relationship cuz I ain got nuttin to hide here I cheated once before. I actually applaud all those ones on this thread that admitted to cheating and not tried to deny it or lie and say they didnt.
Posted by MidAtBestPosted by goddessofthesunPosted by MidAtBest
anytime I ever did anything wrong to harm a relationship, I felt that it was totally warranted. I only cheated when I was ready to leave, wanted to get caught, sometimes actively tried to get caught such as by leaving my phone on that message screen. or when he had already cheated first. any time I've ever gone through a man's phone, he was messaging other girls behind my back. all men cheat if they can. what's funny is I've never had an ex care that I cheated. my money ( $ 3k per relationship, 3 different relationships) they were leeching was worth it to them. I guess you call that an "arrangement". I feel guilty that I fucked my ex Josh's brother since I do think that secret drives a wedge between us, but he's also a bad person who fucked his brother's baby mama, there's little pussy he would say no to. that is a heavy secret though. I'm just fairly confident the secret would never get out. he doesn't love me regardless and denies to anyone else that he ever did or that he did anything more than use me despite expressing wishes for marriage to me privately with me. if he did find out I have a feeling that nothing would change. our relationship is complicated, he's treated me like shit and he's also an incredibly wise pisces man
the only person who I'm riddled with guilt over mistreating (verbally) is my sister. a woman cheating on a man, sexual infidelities with men as the victim, usually reason to celebrate. like if I hear gossip that a woman I know is cheating on a man I say "go her".
Lmaooo this was hilarious to read
click to expand
tbh people like that scorpio gal who posted and I, we all know we're not the salacious, conniving scarlet women who this thread is targeted toward
the real menaces are smooth operators who wouldn't respondclick to expand
Damn, I almost didn't respond to this thread. 😭
What do y'all consider as cheating? That can vary from person to person so I'm curious to know.
Posted by goddessofthesun
What do y'all consider as cheating? That can vary from person to person so I'm curious to know.
Imo, both parties just know its cheating
Like my partner trusted me, and i cheated, and i knew it
other times the relationship is more fluid; like taurus is living abroad with some guy, probably, but i'm fine with it. yeah it hurt at first, but it's not cheating imo, even if she didnt tell me ahead of time
its all about the context imo
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