How do you friendzone?

Share your tips and tricks. When someone likes you, but you don’t like them that way, but would love to keep them as a friend.

I know most people hate this, but I understand it.

I have done it and had it done to me.

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Borrow money from them

Lol. Oldie but goldie 😆

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Borrow money from them

Lol. Oldie but goldie 😆
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ILU

Can I borrow 10 grand? 😅

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But what if they say yes? Like they genuinely like you that much ☺️

I have introduced guys to my hotter friends. It worked with some, but others were like heyyy I’d be happy with you too 😛

I also use reverse psychology. I don’t know how to explain it, but it works.

I just don’t like hurting people’s feelings.

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I have introduced guys to my hotter friends. It worked with some, but others were like heyyy I’d be happy with you too

I have done this too. But sometimes they don't care.

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They probably see it as extra work/effort. Like why try again, we are already talking 🙄

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Borrow money from them

Lol. Oldie but goldie 😆
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ILU
Can I borrow 10 grand? 😅

But what if they say yes? Like they genuinely like you that much ☺️
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Yeah some guys would probably get turned on right? 🤣

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Probably. But I have a hard time accepting even a free drink from a guy. I am not good at gold digging 🫤

You’re not my husband 🤣

Be very kind and gentle and give them one reason why. A deal breaker, if you will.

Rarely have I had to be forceful in telling a woman no. They don't like that, and have a hard time with rejection.

Curate a simp army

I recently had to friend-zone my Leo ex. I could see he still has genuine feelings for me.

It’s really too bad it didn’t work out between us 😢

But maybe we all have couple of soulmates..

Just tell him you don’t like him like that us friendzone kings appreciate honesty

I’ve honestly never had that happen. Either I was interested romantically in the guy or if I wasn’t I didn’t care to be their friend either. I’m more about personality than looks when it comes to dating. I mean there has to be something there….a physical attraction of some sort, but personality is more important to me. So if I don’t like their personality or they have a mean spirit, not respectful or compassionate etc. then I have no desire to be a friend with someone like that nor would I want to date them.

Now when the shoe is on the other foot and a guy turns me down romantically, normally they don’t want to be friends either and they will just tell me they aren’t interested or just ghost me. The only guy who wanted to remain friends with me is my ex Cancer. Oh god I was so head over heels for him several years ago after we met even though he kept telling me he wasn’t looking for anything serious at the moment and just wanted to see how things go. I would not listen and I just keep pushing and pushing him thinking I could stupidly change his mind. Well he finally ended up ghosting me for months which I can’t blame him for as I see why he did it now. I cried and cried over him. When he did come back it was like something switched inside of me and all of those romantic feelings disappeared. We are still friends to this day and talk regularly. I remained friends because he is kind, caring and would honestly do anything for you. There were so many nights when I’d call him heartbroken over the latest guy I was dating and how he left me and the ex Cancer would just sit and listen and offer advice. Or I’d get dating advice from him. He comes over and fixes anything I have broken in my house like when my dryer broke or I was having electrical issues etc. He even offered to help me get the ex Libra out of the house. Told me next time he needed to come get the rest of his things to give him a call and he would come over just to make sure the Libra didn’t try anything. Speaking of the devil the Cancer actually called me tonight while he was waiting on his girlfriend to get home to go and see her. His girlfriend is really cool too. I talk to her too and we are all kinda friends now. 🤷‍♀️😀

Sorry….after that long rant I just wanted to say I can’t really offer any advice as I have never been in that situation. This just reminded me of my situation with my ex Cancer turned friend situation.

Tell them you are not interested and tell them how you want a real friendship.

Give them time to sort out thier feelings and make adjustments. Depending how strong the feelings it will take time and practice.

Allow them to move on with no hard feelings from you when they change thier behavior towards you.

I’m an expert at this, so this is how I do it especially after the date:

“Did you have fun? I’m glad. I have to say this out of respect for both our time and effort but I don’t feel a connection. I wish you all the best on your search.” Then I quickly bounce.

Of course there’s huffing and puffing most times on “why” “what’s the reason” body language indicating hostility. I respond with,

“This was a meet and greet for both parties. If you didn’t like me, you would’ve rejected me too. It goes both ways. I’m glad that you like me enough to feel hurt by this but you really shouldn’t because you don’t know me and there’s plenty of girls out there. It’s not personal and don’t make it so.”

😆 ^^i just realized reading my own message that I give them a free pep rejection talk.

Posted by borednbeautiful
Share your tips and tricks. When someone likes you, but you don’t like them that way, but would love to keep them as a friend.

I know most people hate this, but I understand it.

I have done it and had it done to me.

I wouldn't want to be friends with someone who I know deep down wants more, wtf? What's the point, it wouldn't be equal terms..

Just bc you friendzone someone doesn't mean their feelings go away.

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Be very kind and gentle and give them one reason why. A deal breaker, if you will.

Rarely have I had to be forceful in telling a woman no. They don't like that, and have a hard time with rejection.

Well to fucking bad for them because you setting up the boundaries.

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I hate blocking people and I've only done it rarely.

I usually tell them I don't feel a connection. Most of the time they can sense it on the first date if I'm not interested but if they do ask me out again I just tell them I didn't feel a connection and wish them the best. If it's someone I genuinely feel I can be friends with I offer them friendship instead.

If you’re dating first? That never seems to work. They just tell you they’ll be friends, but still want you until the next girl comes around.

If you never dated them, sometimes it can work but honestly same as the first eventually. Really all you can do is say I’m not interested in you but we could be friends and then see what happens.

Posted by borednbeautiful
Share your tips and tricks. When someone likes you, but you don’t like them that way, but would love to keep them as a friend.

I know most people hate this, but I understand it.

I have done it and had it done to me.

It depends on the friend and the dynamic I have with them. It also depends on how they let me know.

Here are some examples:

Funny and chill: My Virgo co-worker and I were working together a lot, having lunch a lot and going out after work. He and I could talk about anything and shared pretty crazy stuff about each other. He also felt very free to complain about me, criticize me in a funny way and push for what he wanted… we flowed very well together. One night he and I were in his car and he very randomly asks me “hey MI, let’s start dating!” And I immediately replied “hell no”…. He laughed and said “come on, why not?!?” And I said “BECAAAAUSE, I don’t want to!!”. Our dynamic was so cool and natural that he just laughed it off and kept asking me once in a while, but it almost felt like a joke and like he enjoyed my strong, silly reactions… so he would say it for fun and I would give him the dramatic reaction he enjoyed 😝. I loved that about him.

Subtle and non-verbal: A Taurus guy was the best man (to the husband) and I was maid of honor to the bride… we were also both godparents to their first child. We would hang out for their events but I thought he don’t like me. A year passes by and he invites me randomly to his grad party… and was the only one from the group invited. When he did his masters program, he started contacting me because we went to same university. We hung out a few times a week during our breaks and then it became more frequent. I had a feeling then, but since he didn’t say anything… I let it flow. Then one night he calls me at a very late hour, and that felt more obvious to me. When he called, I was with a friend (Capricorn) that was very extroverted and exciting. I answered the phone and talked to him for a bit… but right before I felt the tides change I jumped the gun and told him about my friend and started selling the idea of her to him and than said “do you want to talk to her?!? It seems like she really wants to talk to you 🫶!!” He hesitantly said “okay” and I passed her the phone. She was brilliant… making him laugh, making me laugh. A few weeks later, they both started dating 🥰😍🥰!!!

Those two experiences were my favorite. But yeah, some handle it horribly and it can be awkward or at times lose a friendship because they either get hurt or they start hating on you.