cheating man

why would a man cheat on his wife? especially when they just married not too long.

You forgot immature, self-serving prick.

Yeah. Did anyone mention he's a douche yet? 😛
Because that's it. He's a douche.

LOL Cape flapping in the wind and a big ol' "D" right in the middle of his chest.

Lol.

Srsly though, men that are serial cheaters like that = little boys.
& it shines thru in every aspect of their life. They are unable to take responsibility for their actions.

Absolutely, just because the saying is a man thinks with his penis doesn't mean the point needs belabored.

Wow... lots of angry women in here...

I am scared... but I figured out the answer to the question!

He is a douche!



Seriously though, he isn't a man. A man wouldn't cheat on his wife. A man has the balls to speak up if there is a problem. A man has the strength to face the problem head on. A man has the integrity to honor his wedding vows.

The male in question is a scared little boy, not a man.

*handing kewpie doll and cotton candy over to LibraSid*

I'm not angry. I'm honest. 🙂

A kewpie doll? I admit I googled it, but I don't get it...

You win with your comment LibraSid. 🙂 I handed over the carnival prizes.

WooHoo!

Now to see if I can drop that clown into the tank of water.

Which way is the haunted house?

To your right sir, past the House of Mirrors and 3 tents down from the Tilt-O-Whirl. 😄

When tears come down
like pouring rain
your cheating heart will tell on you

sang it ray

My statements are completely independent of her behavior. Her behavior is not in question here. She could be the biggest bitch the world has ever seen. A real man still would not cheat. If she is crazy and making your life hell, please leave her. Get your house in order, do what you need to do, leave. Once that chapter is closed feel free to open a new one.

When you say, "It's easy to place the woman in the role of victim when cheating husband stories come about, but it's not a very objective analysis." I think it is. Analyze each action. When a story comes out about a cheating husband, the wife IS the victim of that action. She could be the aggressor in many other actions in the marriage but in this case she is the victim.

Two wrongs don't make a right.

Posted by Beetleguese
Hard to say with such little info and without both sides of the story. For all we know she might be making his life a living hell through any number of means. It's easy to place the woman in the role of victim when cheating husband stories come about, but it's not a very objective analysis. I'm not saying that it's not possible that he isn't just a complete douchebag, just that it's only one possibility, she could just as easily be a douchebagette, and even if you've known the wife in question for years...what goes on behind closed doors is entirely another thing.

Stop being so fair.


He's a douche either way. I'm supposed to be one of the biggest cheaters of the zodiac (Sag) but I have the balls to break it off if I'm not happy...not just run off to the next dick behind someone's back.

LOL & yes I have big balls 😛

And it truly is a lovely set Bri. *two thumbs up*

Posted by LibraSid
My statements are completely independent of her behavior. Her behavior is not in question here. She could be the biggest bitch the world has ever seen. A real man still would not cheat. If she is crazy and making your life hell, please leave her. Get your house in order, do what you need to do, leave. Once that chapter is closed feel free to open a new one.

When you say, "It's easy to place the woman in the role of victim when cheating husband stories come about, but it's not a very objective analysis." I think it is. Analyze each action. When a story comes out about a cheating husband, the wife IS the victim of that action. She could be the aggressor in many other actions in the marriage but in this case she is the victim.

Two wrongs don't make a right.

And this.

LOL There's that peanut butter again.

Posted by Beetleguese
Hard to say with such little info and without both sides of the story. For all we know she might be making his life a living hell through any number of means. It's easy to place the woman in the role of victim when cheating husband stories come about, but it's not a very objective analysis. I'm not saying that it's not possible that he isn't just a complete douchebag, just that it's only one possibility, she could just as easily be a douchebagette, and even if you've known the wife in question for years...what goes on behind closed doors is entirely another thing.

Agreed. There are ALWAYS two sides to every story, and while it's true that this person in this scenario MAY be a douche and TWO wrongs DON'T make a right, I've heard many times people proclaiming, "Oh, if he/she is unhappy they shouldn't cheat, they should just leave." But when that happens, that person gets reamed for leaving too WITHOUT HAVING CHEATED. Case in point, an aquaintance I knew at a former job left her husband...she wasn't cheating on him, she just wasn't happy, and she figured life was too short to be miserable for however long she had left so she bailed. Well, she got reamed by everybody, including her family and friends. I shook my head and laughed inside, because regardless of the circumstances peoples feelings are going to get hurt. My personal favorite is, "OMG, he cheated with this ugly/fat/old/___fill in the blank cow. I am much more attractive/smarter/intelligent than she is!" SO, my response has been, "So, if she was beautiful/intelligent/perfect body/rich, then it would be perfectly acceptable for him to leave you, and would hurt your feelings less?" No, I think not. Regardless of the circumstances, when you love someone and they are no longer in your life, for whatever reason...it hurts - douche or not.

Posted by amethyst2002
1. He's a douche

2. He's unhappy and a douche

3. He shouldn't have gotten married and he's a douche.

bwahahahahaha!

Posted by LibraSid
My statements are completely independent of her behavior. Her behavior is not in question here. She could be the biggest bitch the world has ever seen. A real man still would not cheat. If she is crazy and making your life hell, please leave her. Get your house in order, do what you need to do, leave. Once that chapter is closed feel free to open a new one.

When you say, "It's easy to place the woman in the role of victim when cheating husband stories come about, but it's not a very objective analysis." I think it is. Analyze each action. When a story comes out about a cheating husband, the wife IS the victim of that action. She could be the aggressor in many other actions in the marriage but in this case she is the victim.

Two wrongs don't make a right.

I really like your thinking LibraSid. So true. No matter how bad anyone is in a relationship it doesn't mean that gives the other person a right to cheat. There is some reason why they were married and that means you should always honor those vows and if you feel that person is so terrible then you should break it off with them or divorce rather than causing more problems and breaking their heart and sabotaging any trust there was in the relationship. I am totally against cheating in every fashion! It is not hard to be faithful in my book. Yes you will have problems and may even get bored at times with that person but that is the time to do things to "fix" the situation and not "wreck" it even more. People just need to put some spice in their lives when things like that happen and do some new things to bring that spark back.
The one cheated on is ALWAYS the victim and it can totally destroy someone's self esteem and the trust will never be where it once was...period. I know this from experience and it is one of the hardest things in the world to overcome in my opinion.

Also, one of my guy friends dated this woman (I think I posted this somewhere else) for about 2 years. She would come watch football with us; bought herself cute little football shirts of "her teams", etc. They got married and she squashed that immediately; she told him under NO circumstances was he going to continue wasting his time in Sports Bars with his friends watching football. He could pick one weekend a month, but those long weekends of football were over.
It was so sad, because he couldn't come out with us anymore and I swear, I could see that his whole spirit was broken. He was one of the happiest, funniest, smartest guys, and he just got jacked! All the guys in the group that weren't married were horrified by this, because all along, she played the game like she was cool with it and she was always there with us too. You just never know. All the guys (including the married ones) told him to leave her a $ $ .

Posted by USCTaurusGal
I've heard many times people proclaiming, "Oh, if he/she is unhappy they shouldn't cheat, they should just leave." But when that happens, that person gets reamed for leaving too WITHOUT HAVING CHEATED. Case in point, an aquaintance I knew at a former job left her husband...she wasn't cheating on him, she just wasn't happy, and she figured life was too short to be miserable for however long she had left so she bailed. Well, she got reamed by everybody, including her family and friends. I shook my head and laughed inside, because regardless of the circumstances peoples feelings are going to get hurt.

It is more than this though.

Yes, many people (myself included) jump to the cheating question with a quick, "No! If you are unhappy, leave". That isn't really the answer either it's just a better answer than cheating. The real answer is to fix the problems. Hell you married the person, hopefully there is some respect and communication skills there. Leaving your spouse should be the last choice. Cheating should not even be one of the options. The reason we so quickly come back with the option to leave is because once the cheating happens it's all done anyway. So, why not leave first instead of adding so much unneeded hurt on the person you love, or at least did at some point?

If you think the grass is greener on the other side, you need to fix your own damn yard!

(these are general statements and while I quoted USCTaurusGal they are not directed at you)

Posted by Beetleguese

Big balls, hmm....ya know, and this is a rarity...I got nuthin' for that! Well, except for some advice about which type of peanut butter to use.

lmao! Best quote of the day

It is disheartening how little work people are willing to do for something anymore. We have become such instant gratification junkies that too many aren't willing to put in the work to get something really good. Sorry people, this is not Disney. No prince is coming for you and you aren't exactly a Disney princess yourself. You and your partner are going to disagree on things. There will come a time when you know all their childhood stories. There will be days when you get bored. The easy thing to do then is to go find something new and exciting. The more valuable thing to do is to talk with your spouse. Tell them what you are missing. Find out what they are missing. Work together and make it better.

How many of your grandparents were married for 50+ years? How about their parents? Just a few generations ago people took the time and made it work. Admittedly, not all of these people should have stayed together but they didn't give up.


Another slow day at the office and I get to ramble on the interwebs!

No, the grass is not always greener, but sometimes people go into relationships with one set of expectations, and once they get into it, it turns out to be something completely different. That's not to say that either party was necessarily being dishonest or disingenious, but I can't count how many times people will make comments (that are asinine to me) regarding something they should have discussed/communicated about BEFORE they got married, but for whatever reason, they didn't. Example - children. I have heard on so many occassions people who have said, "Oh, I didn't know he wanted FOUR KIDS, I only want one," or "I don't want any kids, but she wants five!" In my head, I'm thinking, "Why the f@ck didn't you discuss this crap before you got married," because some of these things are HUGE dealbreakers for people, so while it sounds nice to say/think that people should be communicating, and having these conversations BEFORE they get married, I'm here to tell you that people aren't. People get married for a lot of reasons, and a lot of times, it's for the wrong reasons:
I don't want to be the only one of my friends not married/We've been together for so long, hell, we might as well get married/I probably won't find anybody better, so I might as well get married to him/her/Oh ish, she's pregnant, I guess I better get married/I'm lonely and need to have someone, guess I should get married.

Do people get married for love? Absolutely, but I hear stories on a regular (including this forum) where people are seemingly NOT getting married for the right reasons.

Posted by USCTaurusGal
People get married for a lot of reasons, and a lot of times, it's for the wrong reasons:
I don't want to be the only one of my friends not married/We've been together for so long, hell, we might as well get married/I probably won't find anybody better, so I might as well get married to him/her/Oh ish, she's pregnant, I guess I better get married/I'm lonely and need to have someone, guess I should get married.

Do people get married for love? Absolutely, but I hear stories on a regular (including this forum) where people are seemingly NOT getting married for the right reasons.

I am with you. Too many people do get married for the wrong reasons and many of these are doomed before they start. People take marriage too lightly. Hell, divorce costs more than marriage does, it takes longer, you get lawyers and tons of paperwork, court ordered parenting classes, all kinds of crap. Marriage requires a trip to the courthouse (or Vegas...).

Marriage is a choice. If you don't like it don't do it. To each his own.

I'm just saying that if you decide to play the game you should follow the rules.

Posted by amethyst2002
I don't give a shit what the "reason," is for cheating, it's still wrong. As I said in point number 2, "He's unhappy and he's a douche."

I know that there are "reasons," why someone would cheat, but it does not make it right. If you feel compelled enough to be cheating, you either talk that shit out or break it off. Cheating is never okay, and for people to make excuses for why someone does it is bs.

I stick by my douche argument. 🙂

I stick by your douche argument.

i completely agree with the douche comments. there are many reasons someone may cheat, but in the end there is just no excuse for cheating.

Posted by BellaBulleautiful

Posted by USCTaurusGal
No, the grass is not always greener, but sometimes people go into relationships with one set of expectations, and once they get into it, it turns out to be something completely different. That's not to say that either party was necessarily being dishonest or disingenious, but I can't count how many times people will make comments (that are asinine to me) regarding something they should have discussed/communicated about BEFORE they got married, but for whatever reason, they didn't. Example - children. I have heard on so many occassions people who have said, "Oh, I didn't know he wanted FOUR KIDS, I only want one," or "I don't want any kids, but she wants five!" In my head, I'm thinking, "Why the f@ck didn't you discuss this crap before you got married," because some of these things are HUGE dealbreakers for people, so while it sounds nice to say/think that people should be communicating, and having these conversations BEFORE they get married, I'm here to tell you that people aren't. People get married for a lot of reasons, and a lot of times, it's for the wrong reasons:
I don't want to be the only one of my friends not married/We've been together for so long, hell, we might as well get married/I probably won't find anybody better, so I might as well get married to him/her/Oh ish, she's pregnant, I guess I better get married/I'm lonely and need to have someone, guess I should get married.

Do people get married for love? Absolutely, but I hear stories on a regular (including this forum) where people are seemingly NOT getting married for the right reasons.

You are on a roll sister,PREACH!

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I sooo agree! I have fallen into that and I have finally learned my lesson. I was more obsessed with my ex than being in love with him. I also knew there were a lot of things about him that I didn't like. We talked about kids and I was willing to have 1 more at that time as long as it was before I was 34 and he ended up not wanting to do it that soon. We started having big problems from the get go of the marriage and I was glad that we talked about not having any and he said he was okay just having my two kids and it would be too expensive anyways but almost every time we would get into an argument he would bring it up like he did want kids.

. I am very open about not wanting kids and even have it very plain on the dating site I am on. I also put stuff I really like and don't like. I am not going to pretend I like something or don't like something to get with someone! I am open to checking things out to see if I like it if I don't really know but I will let them know if I don't like it. I wish more people would be "real" and just drop all the facades so that you could really know what you are getting into beforehand. It's not fair otherwise! 😛

Posted by Beetleguese
Marriage is overrated, outdated and just another device employed in the enslavement of the common man (and by man I mean both sexes).

But if it makes your unicorns fart cinnamon rainbows, knock yerself out 🙂

Ha ha....I love it! I actually feel more like that now. I used to believe in it b/c of religious reasons. I really don't even want to live with anyone either. I am all for a committed relationship with the right person and I am a TOTALLY faithful woman when I am in an exclusive relationship so I don't see why there is so much stress put on being "married" or even having to live together. I think it keeps things more exciting when you stay in the feel of a boyfriend/girlfriend scenario and when you lead lives outside of just one another. Just my opinion.
🙂