If you fell in love ....

... just head-over-heels in love, heart pounding every second of the day, feeling all giddy and like flushed like a school girl at the mere thought of this other person, if you believed with all your heart that this was the soul mate, you'd stake your life on it.

Then as things progressed, after much kissing and professing love for each other, you reach down and she had balls, and cock ....... ——

What would you do ladies?

What if your man, the man of your dreams had a vagina .. and you didn't know it until you were in mad-love?

Here's my thing...Is sex the MOST important factor in a relationship? No. But is it ONE of the things people base compatibility on? Yes. It sucks & it may seem shallow BUT it is what is.

Personally, I don't see anything wrong with "hoping" the sex is good with your partner, no different than hoping your future companion will be good at other things. I think so many people resist the fact that sex is important b/c so many people in relationships USE SEX as a means to betray the other person. People cheat physically. They lust over others physically. In other words, we all agree that sex is great, but yet for some (especially those who have been betrayed b/c of sex being so damn important to their partners) is kind of taboo & the 1 thing they make a point NOT to prioritize.

However, the average couple might start out having sex like rabbits, BUT over time, sex drive will increase. This is natural & sometimes shows no reflection on the 2 people in the relationship and/or how dedicated they are to eachother. Out of 24 hours in a day, 2 people can only dedicate so many hours to sex, thus the other things 2 people do during their day take up the most time (other forms of compatibility, communication, personality compatibility, etc.) And as the saying goes, "Majority rules." If sex only takes up 2 hours MAX in your day, then it should not be the MAIN priority for the relationship. The OTHER things that keep the relationship afloat during the rest of the day are more important.

Sex is like the ICING on the cake. BUT there has to be a CAKE (foundation) 1st. The icing def. makes the cake sweeter & worth enjoying more, BUT the cake makes the cake what it is. Sex is important BUT it is NOT the most important, considering it doesn't take much love/effort to do with just any & everyone. It's the things you only do with that ONE person only that tend to matter the most. And unnfortunately, sex is not as exclusive

Posted by P-Angel
... just head-over-heels in love, heart pounding every second of the day, feeling all giddy and like flushed like a school girl at the mere thought of this other person,

I'll see a doctor I think :-O

Honestly, I wouldn't really know. I think the most troublesome issue would be the shock and the fact that the person wasn't honest with me. I can understand why, but it's like I'd have to reset my entire outlook on the relationship since I had this image built into my head. I usually believe that if you had the connection and you found yourself falling in love with someone you'd never expect to, then just go for it. You don't really choose who you fall for; so I guess we would need to have a very long talk and see where the relationship is going to go. Like I said, the main issue isn't the person, but having to readjust to everything. Who knows? It might be too much for me at that time.

I like my men to have penises.

I don't think there's anything wrong with a woman atleast "feeling" down there to see if her man is packing! BUT, I don't necessarily encourage a woman basing whether or not a woman has sex with a man strictly on deciding whether or not to enter into a relationship. Finding out what that person's sex is like is the thrill of it all; it's that mystery that we all want to finally experience & see for ourselves!

And hell, most people sleep with that person before the relationships begins anyways, BUT for those who are strict about not giving up the goodies until a relationship OR until the man put's a ring on it, It'd be quite shallow to purposely miss out on a GREAT guy (rare) all b/c he's not that good in bed.

I mean seriously, do people not realize that as they get older, their sex drive & organs will start to suck more & more as times go on?!? The whole point of a relationship is to progress to marriage & the whole point in marriage is to hopefully stay with that person until death. If people REALLY want to have lifelong partners as much as they say they do, they'll have to end up accepting a less than great sex life eventually anyways! When you're in your 60's & 70's, sex isn't as important compared to other things. I guess it all just comes with aging & maturity. As you get older, you learn to prioritize differently. If people can't handle now the ideal of not having a quick-pased & satisfying sex life, then it's no wonder the divorce rate is so high ;~) Eventually every relationship will hit that hault, even if just temporary. And those other MORE important things 2 people can bring to the table/relationship will be what keeps the love alive..not something 2 people only do for 20 minutes a day (if that) ;~P

And plus, the good thing about sex is that there is PLENTY of room for growth & improvement. Now, if the guy is just very small & can't perform, there are other ways to make the sexual experience more satisfying. Everybody didn't start off being the BOMB in bed. Some people had to learn & be taught over time through experience. Whose to say that training the great guy in your life so that he DOES/WILL satisfy you eventually, isn't a good idea?

Sex is way more than wham-bam-thank you mam! There are so many different ways to enjoy your sex life other than just a man having a huge one! Hell, a man can have it going on in the meat department & yet still be horrible & not really know how to please his woman. In that case, she can teach him how to please her since every woman is different. Yeah it would suck b/c of course we all want someone who automatically "gets it" BUT at the same time & depending on perspective, training your man how to please you could be fun. And when he FINALLY learns how to satisfy his woman, that makes the relationship even more better!

But to actually leave someone or never hook up with someone all b/c they suck is not the best idea considering it takes a HELL of a lot more time to find a good guy that suits you moreso than it does someone who can please you in bed!

So would I be cold cocking a dude or a chick because someone's teeth are getting knocked da fuq out!

I agree with DP though, I wouldve seen the person naked before love set in.

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I'll see a doctor I think :-O

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I would be totally gutted!!!

However it would all come down to honesty and it would be blatantly obvious that that wasnt in this relationship and I would have a real battle with it working or being able to get past that.

Posted by little_sparrow
I like my men to have penises.

Let me clarify this statement, I like my men who were born with a penis. If I found out otherwise I would leave and never look back.

If i met a guy with a vag and i felt his clit id prolly think it was a really small dick and id PMSL as i run out the door!

If you really love a person it shouldn't matter but for my own opinion I just don't swing that way even if I think girls can be more sexy looking then guys. It is not about having sex as probably she can just put on a strap on and get it going although I can't imagine it getting that far.

I mean if we really need to ask the question of what gender are you? I don't know there is a certain deception that comes if you find out he/she is other sex because what you project, people do presume right?

Lol

I miss krysrenee and sweethearts 😢

I forgot how verbose Krysrenee was.

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Call me crazy but..... Bloody knuckles would me my nickname for a few days.

Idk why this is even a debate. If I wanted a chic I'd get one. Vice versa for dudes. You normally go shopping for what you like to eat for dinner not what you're allergic to.

I'm hungry

I had to double take this thread. First I said fuck this thread it's 6 years old. Then I instantly can back like wait this shit is 6 years old?

Lol take em all yours.

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Posted by little_sparrow
I like my men to have penises.

Let me clarify this statement, I like my men who were born with a penis. If I found out otherwise I would leave and never look back.

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I wouldn't leave a transgender ( is this what we're discussing?) if I believed he was my soulmate. I'd support him through his surgeries and love him just the same, maybe more for possessing a bravery I cannot imagine. In short, I wouldn't throw away the love of a lifetime over the fact that he wasn't born with a penis. I read about a couple who were engaged to be married, but the guy told his fiancee he wanted to transgender into a woman. He did and she supported him because she couldn't imagine life without him. She married him/her after the transformation was completed and they have a couple of children and are really happy. Love is love.

What should I look out for though? Literally like i like you so let me check to see if you are right in all the right places first. Haha.

ah that is something that is put on the table from the get go - yep - you show me mine I show you yours - there would be no surprises in real life - for me anyway - I like to at least know the goods are there before I make the purchase investment LOL

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ah that is something that is put on the table from the get go - yep - you show me mine I show you yours - there would be no surprises in real life - for me anyway - I like to at least know the goods are there before I make the purchase investment LOL

wait - that was you show me yours, and I show you mine WTF lol - thanks, now I see myself and I am ashamed !

Posted by Kilgoreredux
My wife fell in love with me then found I had a small penis. She made it work

that's because it's not the size of the boat it's the motion of the ocean

- you love each other and give each other the attention and do the life dance well together - I'm happy for you!

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Posted by little_sparrow
I like my men to have penises.

Let me clarify this statement, I like my men who were born with a penis. If I found out otherwise I would leave and never look back.

I wouldn't leave a transgender ( is this what we're discussing?) if I believed he was my soulmate. I'd support him through his surgeries and love him just the same, maybe more for possessing a bravery I cannot imagine. In short, I wouldn't throw away the love of a lifetime over the fact that he wasn't born with a penis. I read about a couple who were engaged to be married, but the guy told his fiancee he wanted to transgender into a woman. He did and she supported him because she couldn't imagine life without him. She married him/her after the transformation was completed and they have a couple of children and are really happy. Love is love.

jfc, I though the same.. but you beat me the best in. Fellow Taurus/Aries moon! 😛

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Maybe that has something to do with it? LoL.

Posted by P-Angel
... just head-over-heels in love, heart pounding every second of the day, feeling all giddy and like flushed like a school girl at the mere thought of this other person, if you believed with all your heart that this was the soul mate, you'd stake your life on it.

Then as things progressed, after much kissing and professing love for each other, you reach down and she had balls, and cock ....... ——

I knew you aren't a woman!!! LOL

No one knows until it is actually happens to them.

So it is invalid question. What if...

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Posted by P-Angel
... just head-over-heels in love, heart pounding every second of the day, feeling all giddy and like flushed like a school girl at the mere thought of this other person, if you believed with all your heart that this was the soul mate, you'd stake your life on it.

Then as things progressed, after much kissing and professing love for each other, you reach down and she had balls, and cock ....... ——

I knew you aren't a woman!!! LOL

Huh?

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Rea the post! HUH— HUH what?